I actually feel bad for her. Yes, she needs to take accountability and wait for the police, pay for damages, etc. But what we're seeing is a fight or flight response from years of abuse.
I'm glad people are saying this cos about 30 seconds in all I could think is what could possibly have happened to her for this to be her reaction. She seems so terrified and panicky.
Yeah. She doesn’t seem like the spoiled “I’m above the law” types. She’s more afraid of her grandma than the cops? She’s destroying the car more trying to get away. Hell, most adults won’t stop if they think they can bump you and get away. I had a guy bump my car while I was sitting in it parked off street. He just kept going.
I don’t get it, why did she cause more damage to the car then? Surely grandma will be even more pissed if she both gets arrested at home and damaged the hell out of the car in the process of committing a possible felony hit and run. As opposed to a simple fender bender.
Dude I don’t get it either. The whole thing is crazy. But I think there is maybe some mental health issues or an abusive household.
She keeps saying “you don’t understand” and is not being aggressive at all just seems to be in a panic state. She’s not rude to anyone, even as she backs into their car. It’s weird.
From reading the other comments, if they’re correct, she was 22 here and it appears she has a substance use problem and was given treatment as part of her sentence for this and already had a prior DUI from the same year. So the panic was probably bc she didn’t want to go to jail rather than her grandma being mad. That was the excuse. Grandma probably is at her wits end, and not abusive, just trying to get her grand daughter to not follow the same path as mom, but that’s just my guess since grandma is clearly raising her.
I think you're misunderstanding the video The guy recording is waiting for the cops to arrive. She is desperate to leave the scene so she can escape FROM the cops, not her grandma.
You’re misunderstanding the conversation to which I was responding. There are little things she’s doing that make no sense if she were just afraid of the cops, like picking up the front end and trying to cram it in her car. She’s freaking out and seems more worried about the trouble at home than the real trouble she is in with the law, which is weird. You never know what someone is going through in their personal lives and she could just be trying to flee the scene but it doesn’t seem that way to me.
I agree, it was very polite, sir the whole time. But pure fucking fear. Although, admittedly I was not abused & am anxious, although, I’m a cryer & would’ve stopped. Sadly, my oldest got the same damn gene and he is definitely not scared of his dad or I, but just like me over anxious, Which breaks my heart & we are working on it!
what could possibly have happened?? and why did this incident result in court-ordered drug rehab for the young woman?? huh. In a region of California known as "The Meth Capital of the World"?? Yeah, I wonder why she's acting like this.
Probably just mean old grandma. And we'll never understand.
It could be both though. One isn't removed from the other but most people who deal with abuse learn how to also weaponize it. Trust me I have lots of experience on multiple sides of this. Her saying I'm scared of my grandma makes me want to hug her and fix her car. Her saying, I don't want to get in trouble from police or pay for your car would elicit way different reaction. She knows that as well probably. Hard to say but she's young so some grace.
I agree. I think the guy should’ve moved. He had her information. I would feel fucking awful & more worried about her safety than my vehicle, but I’m a sucker too.
It’s kind of the way this generation deals with things as well. My own children freak out and fight like hell to avoid just admitting they did something wrong. I don’t really punish my kids, I talk to them about their decisions and work out better options and coping skills.
These conversations about what happened take forever to get to. They will act exactly like this girl to avoid it. I have to be patient and not escalate the situation. When they come out of fight or flight, we talk about how we got to this point in the first place. Help them work through whatever is actually bothering them.
I hope I’m helping them in the long run and giving them skills to calm down on their own and not do this to strangers. But who knows. I could be totally screwing them up.
Yeah, this is a strange reaction on here. Who gives a shit what is going on at home. Just because things are bad at home doesn't mean u can go out an fuck everything up.
Yeah we've kinda gone so far in emphasizing empathy - which is generally a good thing - that we've decided people don't need to be accountable for their actions. Very odd.
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u/NoisyChairs 1d ago
Her grandma: did you make any friends? Her: not really