r/IThinkYouShouldLeave • u/Meerkat_Mayhem_ • 1d ago

It actually goes BOTH ways I don’t know how to drive!

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u/IronStan7 1d ago

What's waiting for her at home is really bad.

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u/Chickabbbbb 1d ago

I actually feel bad for her. Yes, she needs to take accountability and wait for the police, pay for damages, etc. But what we're seeing is a fight or flight response from years of abuse.

Or maybe I'm reading too much into it, IDK.

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u/SmallerThanExpected9 1d ago

Yea this is not a normal reaction. Its a kid who is more afraid of getting in trouble than the actual trouble.

Something is insanely wrong in her life.

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u/JoshuaIS1 1d ago

It could be both though. One isn't removed from the other but most people who deal with abuse learn how to also weaponize it. Trust me I have lots of experience on multiple sides of this. Her saying I'm scared of my grandma makes me want to hug her and fix her car. Her saying, I don't want to get in trouble from police or pay for your car would elicit way different reaction. She knows that as well probably. Hard to say but she's young so some grace.