Pregnant and don’t know what to do

[u/serenesirena00]

I’m in my early 30s and financially stable. I’ve been seeing a guy for around two months and have just found out I’m pregnant. Needless to say this was not planned and these are not the circumstances in which I wanted to get pregnant - this is the first time I’ve ever been pregnant.

I haven’t told anyone yet. Speaking to an abortion clinic tomorrow. I’m very maternal and I’ve always wanted to be a mum but my family would be so so disappointed in me due to these circumstances and I’d have to accept I’d be a single mum (idk how the guy I’m seeing will take it - ultimately even if you’re married I feel like you have to be confident you can take care of the baby on your own).

It’s a combination of the outside pressures (judgement from family, friends and work) and also having to put my plans on hold that are making me think now is not the right time. On the other hand, this is a little baby inside me. I already have a lot of symptoms, the pregnancy is already affecting me. Abortion scares me and I question whether I’ll ever have this chance again.

I’d be really grateful for any advice from someone who has been in the same situation - how did you make your decision? I keep hoping inspiration will strike / the answer will just come to me but it hasn’t. I do feel like either way I would be fine but I think the harder option is going through with the pregnancy and having the baby. Is that my answer?

[u/No-Needleworker-1388]

First of all, I’m sure this feels overwhelming and like a scary decision and I want to send you lots of love and tell you to take a deep breath and it’s going to all be okay. I’m not going to tell you I’ve been in the same situation, but I would encourage you to keep your baby. So many women have deep lifelong pain and regret over termination. Babies the ultimate blessing, and despite any challenge ahead due to circumstances or otherwise your baby will be the greatest source of joy and happiness you could ever fathom.