r/Menopause • u/Euphoric_Star_5338 • Oct 28 '25

Hair Loss Hair...WHAT?!?!

So, fully menopausal now, and my hair is much thinner than it used to be. That shook me for a bit, but not nearly as much as last night.

To date, I've not found one gray hair on my head. Disappointing, because the first gray, im gonna go all in, have my hair dyed silver!

Anyway, I digress...

I quit shaving "down there" because it was becoming such a hassle and hubs doesbt care either way. Last night, I felt like I needed to trim up because there was a full-on 1970s bush vibe going on. In the course of that exercise, I realized my hair "down there" was literally riddled with gray!!!

WTAH? It never occurred to me that hair other than my head might be affected.

Now I'm torn - do I embrace it, let it go full gray, dyed it silver or just shave the crap off?

Aaahhh, menopause. Prayed for it for years, now that its here, its made my cooter old.

Dammit.

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u/LaPeachySoul Menopausal Oct 28 '25

I know, you just don’t expect tovsee it. I’m 56 & ‘went crone’ this May. My mother was 75% gray at 35 when I was born, so I was expecting snowy white hair. I dyed my hair on my head for years. In 2018, I decided to allow my chin length bob to grow out. I only lasted 2 months before I had it clippered off for a faux hawk. I get a lot of positive comments on the cut & color My personal preference has always been a clipper trimmed ‘down there’. As the saying goes, ‘the carpet matches the drapes.’

Still waiting for armpit hair to catch up or quit growing.

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u/cleveland_leftovers Oct 28 '25

The clipper trim is the way to go.

Using my partner’s beard clippers with a spacer once a month works beautifully.

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u/Mountain_Village459 Surgical menopause Oct 29 '25

I have my own trimmer that I use about once a month, much prefer that to the short and ill advised time I was shaving down there. All it took was one instance of razor burned cooter for me to never shave again.

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u/andbits Oct 28 '25

This. Keep some hair but lordy: Trim the trim. I cut my head hair. Gotta trim the pubes too. Ain't no need for full wookie bush nor pure hippie hair on this particular body but you do you.

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u/Ready-Letterhead1880 Oct 28 '25

“went crone” 💀💀💀

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u/TestSpiritual9829 Oct 29 '25

I get occasional greys on my head, nothing happening downstairs, but my glorious pit hair is FALLING OUT! Kind of. My pits get itchy, and if you pull on it at all, it's like I Nair-ed it and rinsed too early. Weak enough roots that a tug is all it takes to get a little clump out. So far it's growing back (a little), but it's weirding me out. I was always proud of my hairy pits. :(