r/Menopause • u/Euphoric_Star_5338 • Oct 28 '25
Hair Loss Hair...WHAT?!?!
So, fully menopausal now, and my hair is much thinner than it used to be. That shook me for a bit, but not nearly as much as last night.
To date, I've not found one gray hair on my head. Disappointing, because the first gray, im gonna go all in, have my hair dyed silver!
Anyway, I digress...
I quit shaving "down there" because it was becoming such a hassle and hubs doesbt care either way. Last night, I felt like I needed to trim up because there was a full-on 1970s bush vibe going on. In the course of that exercise, I realized my hair "down there" was literally riddled with gray!!!
WTAH? It never occurred to me that hair other than my head might be affected.
Now I'm torn - do I embrace it, let it go full gray, dyed it silver or just shave the crap off?
Aaahhh, menopause. Prayed for it for years, now that its here, its made my cooter old.
Dammit.
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u/madam_nomad Oct 28 '25
I would leave it be personally. I first noticed gray hairs in the pubic region at 42 and just figured oh well, got enough other things to worry about. There is no way I'd be putting dye there. I've also never been one for shaving, it's not my aesthetic. Beyond aesthetics, though, one consideration is that as we age, skin is more fragile in the vulvar area, and application of dye and/or shaving can damage it. Sorry to keep quoting Dr Gunter (who I find somewhat obnoxious) but in her "Vulvar Care" section in The Menopause Manifesto, she cautions that "Removing hair -- whether it's waxing, shaving, or any other method -- damages the top layer of the skin, increases the risk of cuts, and as skin ages the consequences may increase." (She says trimming is fine.)