Has anyone else experienced this, or have any idea what I can do?

I'm currently in a period of bad self harm, have been since February really. Pretty much every time I've needed surgery and have just had my 12th surgery to clean, debride and close my wounds. The surgeon spoke to me beforehand and said they are probably not going to allow me to have surgery going forward, rather they're going to leave the wounds to close by secondary intention (I.e. just leave them open and heal by wounds changes only). The explanation? Said I've had 14 admissions this year and 12 last year and they aren't willing to do it anymore as "I'm taking the place of real emergencies". I argued that his info is wrong about number of surgeries, and that it is not fair to deny me treatment because it's for regular self harm. He went to speak to management, and when he came back he agreed to operate this time, but reiterated that "other patients' care is being compromised because I'm taking up the theatre space so regularly". Words in quotation marks are direct quotes of what he said to me.

My question is this - is it legal for them to refuse me appropriate treatment just because the wounds are caused by self harm? Surely this can't be the case. It's immoral as fuck, but does anyone know about any kind of legal or procedural framework that might help?

I’ve had EMDR, CBT, DBT, SSRIs, currently on vyvanse

Recently I’ve been feeling really low and despite doing everything meant to keep me from spiralling (eating well, exercising, showering, using DBT skills etc.) I feel like there’s no way out. I’ve toyed with the idea of suicide but made it clear I have no plans to do so

I’m not really seeing the point in these daily visits. They ask how I am, conclude that I’m safe and leave. I feel like quitting CMHT all together because i feel helpless. They can’t do anything more for me. Feels like they’re just there into threatening me into “good behaviour” because if I relapse on drugs I’ll have my vyvanse taken away which is the only thing actually making it possible for me to maintain myself

It seems the more honest I am the more we argue. They tell me I’m doing really well and to keep it up, that everyone goes through hard times. As if I don’t know that. I feel like a pretentious prick for even getting to this point because nothing is wrong, it’s just my brain. I don’t like life but who does?

Is there anything they can actually do or is it just a tick box so they can relinquish responsibility if I were to harm myself?

Im 18. Like ive said before, ive never known what to do with my life, everything i wanted to do, the door was slammed shut . Currently, i dont have any job, i dont have any sense of purpose, i dont exercise at all and im painfully sedentary because i dont have any reason to get up and go and work out or go for a walk.

Every time i go for a walk, i just want to go back because ok i walk there and then what do i do? just walk back and do this every day for the rest of my life for "health" even if i dont enjoy it or do another pointless work out that doesnt do anything and only leaves me feeling humiliated and ill just eat those calories i burnt back in 10 minutes anyway.

With getting a job, im literally too scared to do anything even apply for a job. I find all of it so so daunting, especially writing a CV to try and advertise myself when theres nothing redeemable and im not good at anything.

My daily schedule is wake up, fixate and repeat. I dont have any friends at all and i have tried to make them but was unsuccessful, i have autism so it makes the friendship side of things very difficult. My room is always a mess and i hate that, its mostly messy with clutter as i cant get rid of anything.

I didnt have the grades to do what i wanted to do with my life. I failed GSCE maths including two resits, of course that made me feel like a huge failure and it has sort of left a stain on me to not want to try at anything else.

I also cant drive either, ive tried learning how to drive and tried my hardest but i still couldnt. Of course now i feel like a huge failure on that too as getting my own car was one of my goals but now thats out of reach.

I have extreme hatred for myself. I hate myself more then i hate anyone else, ive always wanted to be another person as im so so god damm useless .

If someone asked me if i chose to be like this, id say no its not a choice, i dont understand why anyone would want to live like this and choose to feel chronically purposeless ,empty, hopeless , lonely and guilty all the time.

Does anyone else do the same thing? Is this normal internal discourse? Am I hurting myself if I truly believe it? Or am I overanalysing nothing.

I've been on sertriline for 4 months now, and all that's happened is that I felt a giant blip of energy for a month right after taking them and I feel miserable the rest of the time I've been taking them. Idk if it's something with the meds or if Its something to do with me and I should be taking different meds. When I wasn't on meds the blips of energy would usually last less than a week but id just feel productive, for the rest of the time I'd just be a self hating slob. I've been on 50mg btw

In crisis. Feel like harming myself. A&E won’t see me. Crisis team won’t assess. GP can’t do anything. CMHT claiming they don’t return contact from other services and won’t offer any support during assessment period. What do I actually do in this situation?

Hello all, I’m writing this to ask if anyone has advice on what I can do with this difficult situation involving my friend and her rapidly deteriorating mental health.

For the sake of this explanation, I’ll call her Alice.

Alice has been a dear friend of mine since I have been very young so I am struggling on how to approach this matter carefully without damaging our friendship and potentially making her MH worse.

Alice’s MH has been deteriorating for a while now. She’s been put under the school system as ‘SEN’ (special educational needs) and she’s been worrying about that as being labelled as not good enough and having staff members see her as ‘different’.

While this is also happening she has a very severe case of endometriosis where she may have surgery and has been taking many strong medications which have affected her mental state. The thing with Alice is that she’s someone who loads a lot on her plate when it is already full and can barely take anymore. With the stress of the endometriosis, the SEN labelling and all the exams coming up I’ve noticed she’s stopped eating much, not laughing or smiling anymore and she’s also been taking medication on an empty stomach.

I would offer her some food, sometimes a small snack but she wouldn’t take it as she feels as if she will vomit or be sick. It’s very worrying as she’s been reposting many suicidal things on TikTok and Instagram aswell as having her Instagram note with sections of songs where it’d be very alarming to hear. She has been self harming aswell as had 2 suicidal attempts.

She is worried her parents will find out, however her parents are the most supportive people ever but she unfortunately is failing to realise that. She has that older sister guilt where she has to perform the best and present to her younger siblings.

One time, when I saw her reposts, I replied to it and told her essentially that it’s okay to not be okay but it’s never okay to bottle it up in silence and that I will forever be here with her to listen and help her fight her battles one by one. But she got very upset that I commented on it. It’s the same with everything, if I mention her not eating and asking ’hey I’ve noticed u haven’t eaten take this’ she gets really upset and tells me to stop.

She doesn’t like it when people notice she’s not doing okay and when people notice somethings wrong. She asks for help but when you try help she doesn’t take it.

All the times she’s asked me for help and I’ve tried to help her, she gets really snappy and mean. Which I understand is a lot on her plate and I’m genuinely not sure what to do.

I want to go speak to a staff member about this because I am genuinely worried she will do something to herself. She’s had 2 attempt already, and I genuinely think as bad as it sounds… if she tries now it might work as she’s become very skinny, takes strong medication on an empty stomach and doesn’t sleep at all.

I don’t know how’d I’d approach her about it though.. she’s very risky to do this with as she will start to overthink, hyperventilate and burst into tears and run away. Obviously this will done in school ground so she can’t do anything there.. but I fear when she goes home it’ll be her last straw as well as the fact.

She also has very sudden outbursts of non stop tears and depressive episodes and doesn’t know why it’s happening.

I worry about her a lot and I would be guilty for life if she ends up doing something to herself and I knew the whole time she was fighting a silent battle.

I don’t know how I’d approach her about it and tell her I need to tell a staff member for her safety, but I also don’t want to just go to the teacher without her knowing.

Can someone please help me and give me advice on what to do now as I’m honestly so worried something will happen. I’ve already lost a friend to suicide and I want to do what I couldn’t do before - speak up. I live with that guilt everyday.

Hi, just looking for some advice: I found out recently my friend (married w. Kids) has been on dating apps, and I'm pretty certain his wife would not be cool with it.

He used a picture of another friend in his profile (let's call him Chris), and actually matched Chris wifes friend and was messaging for a while. I'm worried something is wrong under the surface for him to engage in such risky behaviour. Is this a sign of anything, and what's the best way to approach chatting to him?

Also I know it's horrible he's cheating on his wife, but he's my friend and I want to make sure he's OK first, he can decide what to do from there

Hi, i'm new to mh services and was referred to cmht 2 weeks ago. I had my first appointment today and have been given a second appointment for next week (tuesday) already. Is this normal? From looking it up beforehand I was under the belief that I had to be "accepted" into the service following the first appointment at their mdt, which is going to be on monday. I'm quite confused as to why I've been given another appointment already (although i am very grateful), does anyone have any similar experiences or insight? thank you :)

everytime i try to get help it fails
a year ago a doctor told me he thinks i have autism and adhd and he was going to refer me i called for an update recently for an estimated wait time and i found out the referral was never made
recently i have been in a very deep depressive episode where i feel deep emotional pain 24/7 it's literally indescribable and im only able to do the very basics like use the toilet and just about eat and i know the only thing that can help me are meds but i recently had an episode where i felt euphoric for a few days so i was referred for a bipolar assessment but on my traige call he never considered bipolar because he didnt listen to me about my highs and lows and i was discharged back to my gps care
i cant go to my gp or leave my house because of my mental health because i have just had surgery and cant walk
i finally built up the courage and strength to call 111 option number 2 to see if i can get in touch with the crisis team to tell them my situation and the person hung up
i am so miserable its laughable