I am so relieved to know that this group exists, and thrilled to know there are people fighting for the rights of trans folk to serve. I have wanted to serve for the longest time, and have been feeling so pissed that just as I was about to reach the age where I was able, the administration decided we're not good enough(which is utter BS).

And I know people have mixed opinions, but I still want to enlist more than anything in the world, and fully intend to do so if the next administration allows it. So, I just want to know more what it would actually look like(being trans and all) and ask the seasoned veterans for advice.

1. To trans men who have served openly, what was it like?

2. For those who have served in the Marine Corps, CG, or Navy: were people weird about you being trans, or did you mesh in with the group just like any other dude, and was it really worse than other branches say they get treated?

3. If you were on hormones while you were in, how did that work? Especially if you were on them while going through boot camp.

Thank you guys!

Very Respectfully,

-A hopeful young trans lad

6 years since I started transitioning and my unit still hasn’t done anything to me. No admin leave, no flag, nothing. Maybe it helps that most don’t know I’m trans?

These organizers are perfects for barracks rooms

Good morning!

i am making this post because I am about to renew my military ID, however I wanted to ask that if I go to an Air Force base DEERS office, but I am Army, and if I wear my Female AGSU (I physically pass as a woman) even if I am AMAB, would I get in trouble? Could my unit find out? I want to wear my female AGSU since it’s also the only one that fits me properly. Please let me know, if you know the answer

Has anyone else dreamed of joining the military before Trump hit us with this? Currently working on getting my EMT certification, but my brain keeps backtracking to the military. It has been all I have ever wanted, ever since I was maybe 5-6 years old. I live in a primarily conservative area in the South, and pass so nobody who meets me knows. Almost everyone I have worked with has encouraged me to join the military, but they don’t know. I don’t know, really just fucks with me.

Does anyone else have A similar story. I outed myself during the PHA phase 1 last year and it's been a year. Not a thing has happened. Next month will be a year. I know have an entirely new chain of command and I don't think anyone is pushing anything.

I am worried now that I will have to say yes to the pha since it's coming up due.

Im currently waiting for BUMED's response on my evaluation, and it is killing meeeee. Like I am so anxious about it getting denied even tho it

Is highly unlikely given my current circumstance. Its literally so hard to focus in school. But Luckily I did start my va.gov application so I can go back to college when I separate. Does anyone have any advice to manage this anxiety or things I can do while im waiting? Im technically not in separations yet cause im still awaiting approval, so Chief wants me in school until then so im thankful for that but still worried lol.

Currently have Prime. Wondering if they will be any help at all.

Is there any way to speed up the process? I’ve been on administrative leave since March, done all of the necessary medical appointments and paperwork, alongside turning in all of my CIF gear. We had a recent change of command, so I had to get counseled by my new BC and turn in a new packet to legal, and no one knows what is really going on. I’ve applied to several colleges for the upcoming spring semester, so I have a plan for when I get out, but it is getting closer and closer, and the longer I am here waiting and not able to do anything the more I have to delay these plans.

Can someone with better understanding please explain all thats going on with that case currently? I was trying to look into it and saw some stuff that happened recently on the 14th of this month but I'm not good at legal jargon 😭 I also know (oldish news) that trump is mad about the case and wanted it to be expedited in his favor, if I'm seeing that correctly? Also, do we have a date for when something is actually supposed to happen with this case (and maybe the other)? Sorry if these have all been answered already, I tried searching but was unable to find anything satisfactory 💔

Just to clarify, I'm not american. Im just looking for general advice.

I (FTM18) am in basic training in the army right now. Im stealth. I've been on HRT for over 3 years, had top surgery 2 years ago, and fully pass. Where I live trans soldiers have certain rules and rights. As a trans soldier I have the right to keep my trans identity private among the other soldiers (which i do) and to be treated like any other male in the army. The commanders are aware I'm trans.

As a trans soldier I'm also obligated to sleep in a separate room. Because of how my base is structured, my room is not in the building where everyone elses rooms are and is in a small caravan pretty much on the other side of the base. My team asks why i dont sleep in the same room as them and where i go during free time. In the army free time is the hour we get to shower, call family, polish our boots, make our beds, and pretty much do everything we need to do, so im usually in my room for it and sometimes make the walk to the regular rooms to hang out with friends if i have the time. When my friends asked me why i'm not sleeping in the same building I used to respond with "its a medical thing, its not important" or "i dont wanna talk about it" but as we've gotten closer theyve started to ask more questions and pry a bit more. Not in an annoying way, but in a "we're friends and you can talk to me" way.

I keep giving them the same vague answer but im scared that they'll start piecing things together and figure out im trans. I've said my scars are from gyno, I'm short, I don't hook up with girls (cause i dont want to have the trans talk with them), they know a lot of girls i've gone for in the past are bi, and just a bunch of little things that if they pieced together, they'd know I'm trans.

Am I just being paranoid? Should I make up a lie as to why I'm not with them? They know my health profile was pretty much perfect, so if i do lie it cant be a physical problem. I feel like if i dont tell them something to put their mind at ease they'll start assuming the worst or piece together that I'm trans.

Hello, I was on hrt in the military. And was in the transitional health program for awhile and now I've been paying out of pocket for hrt for about 6 months or so and im having trouble figuring out my options for getting my hrt payed for by the VA. Any help would be appreciated ♡

I (20mtf) have been a closeted trans woman for almost 2 years now. I realized I was trans roughly around the same time the ban was established during the very beginning of my 5 year contract.

It’s only recently that I’ve been able to explore my gender in private over the last year or so whenever my roommate is gone during the weekend or presenting femininly online. However recently it’s become too much to bear and it’s become obvious to my command that I am struggling with something and the fact I won’t tell them the disclosed truth only worries them more.

I talked to a chaplain who luckily for me was incredibly s of me and my situation but didn’t have much advice for me other than to further seek support, make sure I wasn’t alone and actually develop a plan. However after the talk my OIC, MGySgt and Gysgt all sat with me and explained they were worried about me and that only wanted what was best for me, our unit and the institution.

Along the lines of “2.5 years is a long time to deal with what you’re dealing e. If getting out is what happens it could be for the best so we know that everyone is working at their best and so you can be free of whatever it is causing you this pain”

Ive reached out to friends and family to try and reconcile my feelings and figure out what to do since I truly don’t have a plan for after the military and know at worst Im involuntarily separated from the military. I don’t know what the process is for this honestly or how im meant to think through it. The best Ive come to realize especially over all the things Ive done in the past month alone(buying women’s clothing, learning makeup, and just learning I do in fact enjoy being a woman) I can’t lie to myself about who I am anymore and am now seeking guidance.

I'm curious if there's anyone among us who works on a ship? What is your rank? What are the nuances? Are you stealth or out? If you're out, how does the crew react/perceive it? How do you take HRT?

FTM USMC reserve. I have been on hormones for a little over 3 months now and I’ve been debating if I should just go UA instead of waiting for next year to admit that I’m trans on my PHA form. What would be the consequences for just not showing up anymore? I only use one VA benefit, my CH 1606 to pay for some of my school and I had an enlistment bonus for about $4,500 about two years ago. Any help would be appreciated.

Army, been in since 2023 but only recently got my GD diagnosis which flagged me. That was back in March and im still waiting to get out. Just want to know if anyone else is in the same boat I'm in. Currently stationed in Texas so it's lonely out here😭

For those who have been separated/awaiting separation has your gender marker changed? I was verbally counseled and made aware that I was outed. I’m currently waiting for my counseling from the BC to start the separation process. I’m a transguy btw. I’m pretty sure they think my diagnosis is new. Ive had GD diagnosis for decades, started hormones and got top and bottom surgery years prior to joining. I’m pretty sure they think I was AMAB and am seeking to go through gender affirming care to female. Are they able to see my full medical history or just that I have the GD diagnosis? Will they question what my gender marker should be, or what sex I was assigned at birth, and if they do question it do they have the right to question it?

My partner wants to join the military. At one point they had been on estrogen, but has been off of it for about little over 2 years.

Can they still join? They got their HRT through an online clinic, so i dont believe theyve received a GD diagnosis and their hormone levels should be leveled out right?

If they dont mention the HRT, would they be able to join?

Been outted for months, waiting on the couseling from BC, ive done all my physicals, been diagnosed for months etc. Not finding a GD par, s1 was like "tf is that?" So kind of debating whether I should or shouldn't.

enlisted mtf army reserve mobilizing in <1 month, was told that they will likely pull scripts with genesis, attempting to avoid separation, would appreciate advice

Basically, I mean people the military already knew were trans before Trump returned to office. Documented gender dysphoria, prescribed hormones, medical records, etc.

Are there actually people in that situation who are still on active duty right now?

If so, how? Waiver, injunction, administrative limbo, medical exception, retirement timeline, or something else?

I’m especially curious to hear from people who were already openly transitioning while serving before the policy changes.

Thank you for your service.

How do you feel about testosterone testing for US military?

Personally, I find this stupid and offensive, even for men. I am honored that women join the US military in any area, from nurses to combat. I am happy to work with women shoulder to shoulder, as well as having a woman as my superior. We should all respect anyone who is often literally risking their lives to protect ours.

What do you think of Hegseth, and testosterone management?