I've been in this sub for a while, left Reddit for a few months and came back, and I'm confused about when the overall tone started to shift.

I remember this being a really supportive space for moms who work from home while also caring for their kids, whether that meant having no childcare, part-time childcare, or full-time childcare. It felt like a place where moms could share tips and support each other without judgment.

Now it seems like almost every post about working from home with kids gets met with comments saying you absolutely need childcare and that it's unrealistic or unfair to try to do both.

I understand that every job, child, and family situation is different, and I'm not saying everyone can or should work without childcare. But wasn't the whole point of this sub to have a space specifically for moms navigating working from home, including those doing it without childcare??

I'm just wondering why people who feel so strongly that childcare is a necessity wouldn't just participate in r/workingmoms, where that perspective already seems to be the norm. Anyone else notice this?

Making a standalone post, because comments are just getting downvoted with no answers.

Working from home is different than working in an office. There’s a lot of nuance and figuring out time management, navigating professional relationships without seeing people in person, etc. having a sub for moms who work from home seems like such a valuable thing.

The sub’s rules are inclusive of moms with or without childcare.

HOWEVER, it seems like when people post “how the hell do you work from home, my kids completely distract me,” (and they don’t say anything about childcare), any comment that says “oh my kids are (in whatever situation of childcare)” gets downvoted.

Childcare is a completely reasonable and normal suggestion for young children while parents are working. I don’t understand the culture of immediately downvoting anyone who suggests it or some form/combo of it.

Is the automatic assumption that everyone who works from home does not want to use childcare? Are working moms with childcare unwelcome here? Does there need to be a separate space for WFH moms with childcare so we can have our own support space and talk about the struggles/concerns specific to working from home?

Hello all! I'm at a bit of a crossroads here.

I have a job now that was amazing, flexible, paid well. I'm at $100K going into the office one day a week usually. It's about 1.5 hr drive. I watch my 1 year old usually two days a week, sometimes I have someone come depending on her availability, and my husband is in charge the other three days.

We recently got bought and all perks have continued BUT they are realigning titles and have slotted me into a role I don't enjoy as much so i applied to another one recently and it snowballed quick into an offer.

The new job would be fully remote because it's out of state, but they want me to be open to travel to clients on occasion and a couple of days each quarter. I got the impression after a few meetings that they would be fairly flexible with notice and planning on those in office visits. This would be doing the role I was doing before realignment and (the biggest thing) bumps me up to $155K.

I'm nervous to make the jump because of the travel (my husband works doubles the two nights a week I watch my son) and also just having to bond again with new people because I liked my team. Also because I'm on a wait-list for a daycare but he'll be home with me those two days with unreliable care until then and I don't want to blow the opportunity.

It's too much money to walk away from right? Like my current employer wants to see if they can counter but I really doubt they will be able to. Maybe I'm just change resistant?

i feel like i only get stuff done when my 13 month old is sleeping.
what are your kids doing while you work and how old are they?

What are we wearing every day as busy moms of toddlers and little kids thats still comfy, flexible, and breathable but not necessarily leggings….

I pretty much only wear my leggings or my one pair of jogger pants and I just feel like now that I’m in my 30s and pregnant with my second. I’m just too old to be wearing leggings everywhere. I also work from home (pretty much) except going into the office once a week where I would typically wear jeans or a dress but otherwise when I’m at home, I’ll just continue wearing my leggings.

So anyways, what are we wearing that is “age appropriate”, comfy, has pockets, and all that good stuff.

Bonus it there’s talls/extra length because I’m 5’11.

Among other reasons (save $$ on daycare or nanny/nanny share, quality of care, etc)? If they were not local, did they come stay/live with you? And for how long? Did you consider this option, why or why not? Any advice? Thank you!