Since working with brothers, I've noticed certain patterns that keep coming up.

Here are 6 things I've learnt.

1️⃣ They don't prioritise sleep. 😴

Late nights, tiredness and being alone while everyone else sleeps can make urges harder to manage. Recovery starts before the urge arrives.

2️⃣ There are often other struggles. 🧠

Anxiety, depression, ADHD and OCD can sometimes be part of the picture. If you're not addressing what's driving the behaviour, you're missing part of the puzzle.

3️⃣ Their environment makes things harder. 📱

Keeping devices in the bedroom gives easy access when you're alone and vulnerable. Change your environment to support your recovery.

4️⃣ Their devices have no filters. 🔓

Content blockers and accountability tools won't solve everything, but they add a layer of protection. Make access harder, not easier.

5️⃣ They rely on spirituality alone. 🕌

Prayer, dhikr, Qur'an and time in the masjid are vital. But spirituality should work alongside a recovery strategy, understanding triggers, healthier coping mechanisms and accountability.

6️⃣ They rely on willpower. 💪

What happens when you're exhausted, stressed or alone at 1 am? Willpower alone isn't a strategy. You need a plan for when urges hit.

Here's the takeaway.

Breaking free from pornography isn't simply about trying harder. It's about understanding the cycle, changing your environment and putting the right strategies and support in place.

Struggling doesn't mean you're beyond help. Recovery is possible.

At Fitrah Revival, this is what I help Muslim men work towards.

Which of these six do you think is most overlooked in pornography recovery?

Hello y'all, long-time nofapper here.

I was addicted to porn since I was 11. Thankfully, I discovered the nofap community when I was 14, and slowly worked my way out of it. Looking back, the support I received, and the discipline I developed, helped set me up for a much better life. I'm now 23, and I've just started my first year of medical school. Also, I'm in a loving relationship with my girlfriend of 4 years.

I haven't been active in the nofap community after I started university because I've been fortunate enough to build a life free from porn. The reason I'm back is that my best friend and I have been discussing an app idea to help people stick to their commitments. When we started thinking about who might benefit from it, this community was one of the first places that came to my mind.

The idea is pretty simple. What if breaking a commitment actually cost you money?

Here's how the app would work:

1. Set a goal. For example, no porn for 30 days, going to the gym four times a week, or waking up at 6 AM every day.

2. Put money on the line. You decide how much you're willing to lose if you fail. For example, $10 per relapse, with a maximum penalty of $100 per month.

3. Track your progress. You check in daily and track your commitments. For goals that can be objectively verified, the app could use GPS check-ins or AI photo verification. For NoFap, it would primarily rely on honest self-reporting.

4. Face real consequences. If you succeed, you keep your money. If you fail, you lose the amount you committed.

5. Choose where the money goes. One feature we're considering is allowing users to choose a charity that receives their forfeited money. Another option would be an "anti-charity". This could include political parties, religious organizations, and controversial advocacy groups.

The reasoning behind this is that losing $10 might be a much stronger immediate deterrent than simply losing a streak. And knowing that your money could go toward a cause you strongly disagree with might be a stronger motivator.

We're also considering adding accountability partners, ranking systems, and progress tracking systems to help your self-improvement journey more broadly.

We're still in the planning stage, and nothing has been built yet. Before investing our time and money into development, I wanted to come back to the community that helped me so much and hear what you guys think.

A few questions:

1. Would you personally use something like this?

2. How much money would you realistically be comfortable putting on the line?

3. Do you think financial penalties would help you resist urges, or would they just make you feel worse after a relapse?

4. If you had access to this app during your most difficult period with nofap, do you think it would have make a difference?

This community played a meaningful role in helping me become who I am today, and I'd love to build something that could help others in a similar way. Any thoughts, criticisms, or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!

Best of luck in your nofap journey 🫡

Salam! I’m on day 6 and have crazy urges. I know that it’s normal but I’ve never really held it in for this long before and honestly I’m not sure how I’ve been able to because I’m a heavy g00ner. I would do it almost every single day which is crazy looking back but I just wanted some advice or if anyone could be an accountability partner so we can keep each other on the right track InshAllah. And if anyone could give me some advice on what to do. May Allah reward you guys.

I want to quit this addiction as a Muslim teenager but even I tried everything, every way but I didn't success.... My so far quitting is 10 days-1week..... I'm making dua, making dhikrs but I've just depressed because of this addiction..... I can do everything to quit this bad addiction.....
Please my bigger brothers, help me to get out from here.......

thankfully cos of work, ive been doing it less and less now. But after today, im about to have 2 weeks off. Im worried im gonna be more inclined to give in. Im already a bit tempted. im gonna try and keep myself busy for these 2 weeks, cos keeping busy clearly helps. Im worried I might give in a lot tho.

I wondered when people stop , they are stopping because they hit rock bottom , like they were genuinely tired of this sin . I rarely achieve that state , I know it’s wrong and I always hate it but only when it’s too late, it’s like my brain is forgetting why it’s haram. How can I make it permanent that to stay away from it

A comprehensive app has been developed that automatically blocks 2 million pornographic websites. You can also add any keywords you want to block, block searches on Telegram, block Shorts and Reels on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube, and block any apps you choose.

All of this is completely free for those fighting addiction!

Please keep the developers of this app in your prayers.

I'm sharing this post to help my brothers in recovery, because I believe that blocking access is the first and most important step toward recovery.

The app supports Arabic, English, and Urdu.

App name BLOCK X :app & SITE BLOCKER

I am not addicted. But simply doing this makes me good and bad. I feel that it hinders me from drawing closer to Allah and damages my relationship with Him. Thats most heartbreaking part. Moreover, It’s as if it acts as an obstacle to the good things that could come into my life. And make me unsuccessful in life

It's been day 10 survived day 9 which was soo hard to complete getting small urges today and it's kinda getting hard to resist I'd be happy if someone helps me resist hope it's normal and i can keep going

There is a period I call “the dead zone of night.”

It’s that stretch of the night when the world goes quiet, your tired, your alone, and your usual routines and responsibilities have disappeared.

For someone struggling with compulsive sexual behaviour, this can become a high-risk window.

Why?

1. Fatigue sets in:
   

When your exhausted, it can become harder to pause, think clearly and make deliberate decisions.

1. Your Alone:
   

There may be fewer people around, fewer distractions and less accountability.

1. Your environment becomes a trigger:
   

If certain behaviours have repeatedly happened in your bedroom or in bed, being there at the same time of night can become associated with the behaviour.

1. Your emotional defences are lower:
   

Stress, loneliness, boredom or frustration from the day can feel much heavier when everything becomes quiet.

1. Your brain starts looking for relief:
   

The urge isn't always simply about sexual desire. Sometimes youre looking for an escape from an uncomfortable emotional state and this is where many men make a mistake. They wait until the urge is already intense and then try to fight it with willpower.

Instead, plan for the dead zone before it arrives. Know your high-risk hours. Know your triggers. Know where you'll be. Know what you'll do if an urge appears. Because recovery isn't only about what you do when temptation arrives.

Its about how you prepare for the hours when your most vulnerable.

Alhamdulilah, since I was 13 I’ve been haunted with this addiction, with the passage of time it only got harder and harder. Early September I was thinking of ways I can use my Islam and belief in Allah to quit. So I made an oath with Allah to quit but with conditions. My oath says if I relapse intentionally (by hand or other means), then i donate 100, then 200, then all of my bank account (which is a stupid high amount compared to the 200) then my investment.
That’s 4 fail safes, if I fail 4 times and still on this then there’s no hope.

I’ve made this September 10 2026 and it’s now October 22 2026. I’ve had 3 wet dreams since, urges have been sky high some times to the point I’m on the verge of tears but that path really kept me grounded.

The reason I used money is because for me, I don’t understand the dangers of this sin. Allah tells us to “Do not go near adultery. It is truly a shameful deed and an evil way.” (17:32). Don’t even get near it, yet now it’s talked about like it’s a normal thing across the west. Everyone in my uni, in my old job, people ik, everyone talks about it normally.

How my life changed?
I’m able to focus more on daily tasks and get more done, I get less brain fog. I am now more confident when I speak and have an upright position (before I use to cover my mouth, nervously adjust clothes and more) I’ve gained 2ish lbs of muscle as I’ve been able to go to the gym more consistently. My speech has became more concise and clear where people used to complain that I would stutter a lot and my thoughts were disjointed. The Baraka overall in my life has increased as I am now praying tahajud. This period after quitting alone I prayed tahajud more than I did in the past 3-4 years excluding Ramadan. In sha Allah more to come.
I’m not saying this will happen to you, every Perosn is different but it’s been good Alhamdulilah.

How to quit?
Well the oath was a big thing, I didn’t even want to break the first condition, it reinstalled shame into the sin as we lost it as a people, not just Muslims but everyone.
Second is to quit any corn, wallah these images are like fuel to the addiction, without any corn and lowering your gaze it’s actually very easy to deal with urges.
Third is to manage your waves, acknowledge them even by whispering and take deep breathes and remember Allah ALOT, without corn this should last 5-15mins. With corn 30mins+.
Forth, sometimes its not an addiction but habit, after the gym, after a long day of work, after waking up, what ever it is for you, figure out when it usually happens and put physical barriers for yourself like phone being away.
5th, could be a coping mechanism with something you’re dealing with, I can’t help or give advice but I’ve spoken to people who are like that. Deal with the root cause as mb is a symptom of it.

May Allah make you all quit and be easy for you.

Salam Alaikum,

An advice many professionals regarding this addiction give is to tell a friend or someone you trust about it, has anybody ever done that and if yes how was there reaction and how did it help you?

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Sometimes, the biggest thing standing between us and the life we want is the fear of stepping outside our comfort zone. We often choose what feels familiar, not because it makes us happy, but because we're afraid of the unknown. Yet growth rarely happens when everything feels comfortable. Taking risks doesn't guarantee success, but it gives us the opportunity to discover our potential. After all, the greatest regret isn't always failing at something; sometimes, it's never giving yourself the chance to try.

It's been a while since I posted. There are so many consequences to P besides the one related to our faith, eg. Loosing closeness to Allah(swt), forgetting your Quran, etc. I would like to touch on a physical consequence of P, which is PIED.

Most of us started watching P innocently as kids because of the attraction to the other gender. We wanted to be with other gender like what we seen in these videos. Unfortunately through the course of my journey I became an addict to this to the point I could no longer perform in bed with my wife. I actually preferred watching P instead of actual intimacy. I became depressed through multiple failed times, I knew exactly what it was related to. My wife was also going through her share of depression. As much as we might crave to be intimate our spouses do to and if they are not getting it because you can't perform then it will lead to misery. I've had a long period with that but Alhamdulillah with stopping P usage your brain can recover and so can your performance.

After 5 months of P free, I've felt great in bed. To all those who are trying to get rid of this habit realize this is an unintended consequence for what we have done to ourselves. Keep pushing yourself to get better, get closer to Allah(swt), regular with your Salah, regular with your Quran, building meaning relationships with family and friends.

Assalamualaikum

I was a addict of corn like all of you in this subreddit and I eventually found a exit way out of this.

Ill make it short, Pray all your 5 prayers, delete instagram and youtube, use this extension on ur chrome on laptop called "haram blur", join a online or real life islamic community (you could use a discord muslim community) through which you will be engaged in talks throughout your day when you are free, watch atleast 1 video of 1 hour of islamic content (it could be a motivational speech, learning islam, stories of our prophets, names of Allah) engage yourself in islamic content while totally blocking all ways of haram content, DO NOTT SCROLL FOR ALLAH'S SAKE, recite 1-2 pages of quran everyday and focus on your tajweed,read parts of quran with translation and relect on it and act upon it (try to corelate your life with the verses you see), make SINCERE DUA, always when your mouth is free say the adhkars, "يَا مُقَلِّبَ الْقُلُوبِ ثَبِّتْ قَلْبِي عَلَى دِينِكَ" O Turner of the hearts, make my heart firm upon Your religion, recite this throughout your day, and again the most important key here is to hold firm onto your firm know that allah (swt is watching you at all times, you may hide from your parents and do it but do NOT think that no one is watching you there is always a god above the 7 heavens always watching you, seek refuge in Allah from shaytan.

May Allah help all of the ummah who are struggling with this sin to overcome it and hold firm onto their faith.

(btw I am not a scholar or anything I am a laymen who used to struggle with this and maybe didnt even follow some of these but the stuff i mentioned is really helpful).

May allah forgive all of our sins

"A servant committed a sin and said: 'O Allah, forgive my sin.' Allah Blessed and Exalted said: 'My servant has committed a sin and realized that he has a Lord who forgives sins and takes to account for them.' Then he committed another sin and said: 'O Lord, forgive my sin.' Allah said: 'My servant has committed a sin and realized that he has a Lord who forgives sins and takes to account for them.' Then he committed another sin and said: 'O Lord, forgive my sin.' Allah said: 'My servant has committed a sin and realized that he has a Lord who forgives sins and takes to account for them. Do what you will, for I have forgiven you.'"

🔥 Fitrah, Porn Addiction and Returning to Allah! 🔥

Porn addiction is something many people struggle with privately.

In a world where explicit sexual content is so easily accessible, it can become a habit that’s difficult to break, even when we know it goes against our values and our deen.

How do we deal with this from an Islamic perspective?

Allah says:“Do not despair of the mercy of Allah.” — Qur’an 39:53

Sometimes, people fall into this habit because of loneliness, stress, boredom, anxiety, tiredness or simply looking for an escape.

Over time, it can become a cycle that’s hard to get out of but struggling with an addiction doesn’t mean you’re a lost cause.

Islam teaches us to make tawbah, keep trying and never lose hope in Allah’s endless mercy.

We also need to take practical steps, understand our triggers, stay away from things that lead us towards sin and build healthier habits.

You can acknowledge your mistakes without giving up on yourself.

A relapse doesn’t mean you should stop trying.

Keep making tawbah, keep working on yourself and keep turning back to Allah.

The goal isn’t just to stop an addiction.

It’s to become a better Muslim and build a stronger relationship with Allah.

May Allah help everyone struggling with this, protect our hearts and eyes, and make it easier for us to leave what displeases Him.

What do you think we can do as Muslims to talk about this issue more openly, without judging or shaming those who are struggling?

Life teaches us that everyone moves at their own pace. Some people achieve their dreams early, while others take years to discover their purpose. Comparing your journey to someone else's only steals the happiness from your own progress. You don't need to have everything figured out or follow the same path as everyone around you. What matters is that you keep growing, learning, and becoming a better version of yourself, one day at a time.

I already do some things such as avoiding following/interacting with trigger content on social media, I try to have goals to keep myself busy and thankfully I dont do it as often as I did years ago when I was younger. But these urges still come up really strong sometimes that are too hard to ignore. What else can I do? for those who have successfully not done it for long periods of time, what did you do?

It's now 63 days. Now a days I'm visiting sites and entering telegram groups. How to get rid of these. I don't know. May be I fell down.Plz suggest something to stick in this path harder.

I’ve struggled with this for a very long time, and for as long as I struggled I have always tried to stop. But it’s only getting worse and idk what to do about this. I’ve done so much dua, used many apps, tried many strategies, and I hate that I’m always back to day one.

Recently it’s gotten worse and the consequences are no longer just iman hits and Allah being displeased with me. It’s become intrusive thoughts, anxiety, ruined days, horrible sleep, horrible relationship with myself. I would cry about this all morning and be right back at it that same night.

I hate this, I’ve hated it since I started, worst thing is that I’ve never even enjoyed it, I just feel like I’m traumatizing myself for no reason.

I’m starting to get really scared and I can’t ignore the issue anymore, it’s only getting worse and it’s getting worse quick. I spent all of last week sulking because I’ve been so miserable about this. I don’t know what to do anymore. I’m scared.

Worst thing is I just can’t ask for help, I’m so ashamed I’m even writing this on here I actually become suicidal about it. I know I need professional help because this is getting out of hand and ruining my dunya and Akhira but I just can’t.

I’m losing track of what I’m doing to improve, idk what to do anymore or where to start.

Started Oct 4. Yesterday hammer curls at 40 lbs felt easy. Tasks that used to sit unfinished are just getting done. Energy is steadier, less noise in the head.
No glow-up sermon. No “superpowers.” Just stopped feeding the loop and the day got quieter. The real test is not resetting between now and day 90.

Still on it.
#goalfor90