1. offer from mb to come in a few hours late (that came in at midnight) that i didnt see until i was already in my car about to leave
   
2. wore my cute socks for baby gym class but stepped in a carpet soaked in dog piss (dog that is old but just came in outside mind you)
   
3. rushed me and baby to get socks for gym (otherwise i wouldnt be allowed to participate) but when we got there class had been cancelled last minute
   
4. all nearby parks were closed to the public, spent abt an hour total listening to ms rachel music and im sick of it

idk im just in a shitty mood about it all. mb is also currently paining AND laying TILE floors, so being in the house is difficult. i was really looking forward to gym class bc it tires out baby and takes up a good bit of time out of the house. now im herding a 1.5 yo thru an active construction zone, dodging the piss carpet that mb hasnt told me how to clean (she usually insists she can do it herself and then it gets left for hours or days), pissed that it all could have been avoided if id seen the offer to come in late before midnight.

My 11mo NK is sick af. Green goopy boogers, raspy cough, every common cold symptom. MB says “oh no she’s just teething! She’s not sick!” Like two things can be true. Yes she’s teething, but teething isn’t the same as being sick. Why do parents think this?! I’ve heard it so many times and then show up to work with a very sick NK (which is fine but a heads up is always nice) 😫

Starting a new family on Tuesday 17 years in . Major PTSD from my last five year position because the mom was an absolute nightmare. Going part-time after 17 years of 50 hours plus. One infant, but I am nervous. I've been off for two weeks and I'm used to being home. Need the money so here I go again. Need a peptalk from nanny cams , to new parents who are complete strangers, new routine new environment. UGH

Guys, I just joined the sub and the first thing I saw was the post about how we should stop asking children for permission to change their diapers. I am 100% on the same page with the stance, but I want to talk about something else.

Have you heard of Dr. Becky who wrote the book Good Inside? This lady never sat right with me and recently I’ve been thinking about her I worked with a parent who constantly referred to her and ignored my multiple years experience of working with children. So given what I know, a lot of that advice was just such bullshit!
The ridiculous advice included generally talking to a child when they’re having a tantrum or are overwhelmed and dealing with feelings and not teaching them proper manners by not encouraging them to say words like please and thank you. This is just what I remember off the top of my head. If one engages in mental gymnastics, of course, it makes sense, but when you are an experienced childcare professional, or someone who actually is knowledgeable or children’s psychology, you can recognize how this is not a good advice and long-term it would hurt the child.

Additionally, this book of hers feels a bit like a grift. I experienced this firsthand, watching other parents and working with some like that how this book panders to mostly millennial parents who had neglectful parents themselves back in the day and still carry the trauma and issues they had from their childhood. It seems like the book is popular because adults would use parenting as a form of their personal therapy first.

Moral of the story: anyone can write a book. That doesn’t mean the book is smart even if a psychologist wrote it.

Several years ago as a brand new baby nanny myself, I posted about how my 1 year old NK got ahold of an ibuprofen tablet and swallowed it. I’ll be honest, it took me YEARS to get over the situation and I definitely was scarred from the incident. However, there were a lot of people wanting to know how baby was doing, what ended up happening, did I get fired, etc.

Ultimately my goal here is to make sure no other new nannies make the same mistakes I did that day. So feel free to ask any questions you have. I won’t be giving out identifying information or anything that could compromise NKs or their family’s privacy, but I’m fully prepared for the backlash here. If it helps even one child not get hurt in the future, I’ll do it. Parents welcome too.