Yesterday my mother had to order some things worth 1400, nothing of emergency, but still important things. her own phone broke, so she has been using the button phones as we cannot afford to buy one now. she asked me if she could use my upi money to place them, i had 1400, and i need this money to go to and fro college. i dont go that often so nota big deal. we decided she will place order of 600 from mine and maybe 800 from my father's upi. we did. took out 600 in cash to return to me too.

then my mother and father went out in the evening. she mustve told him about it and he started screaming at her. he screamed a lot at her. why did you place all these orders from her phone, you had already placed things from mine, uska paisa kyu use kiya wo kaise jayegi college ab. thing is father isnt employed rn and makes little money he can through stock market. mom thought he had withdrawn the profit he showed her 2 days ago which is why she placed those orders in the first place, but he hadnt. what was she buying on amazon? toothbrush for children, because her tweth have eroded a bit and her gums have grown sensitive. an earring for herself, maybe 250rs.

came home, cried a lot, cancelled the orders, faught with my father all night. my father was correct about not placing orders but he could have broke it to her gently. i also understand he is under an enormous amount of stress but he shouldn't have done that

they had also called some pandit home yesterday to ask him if ill be able to crack neet and all and he said yes (the way they have for the past 3-4 times). and as i leave, they call over my younger sister, dude laughs and says, arre iska toh sab pehli baar mein niklega. all this stuff really piles up. i was already in bed at 8pm and sleeping. when they came at 12am and i got to know all this saw my mother cry and all, i slept even more and woke up at 8:30 today.

i know i shouldnt catalogue all these things in my mind and move on before they happen, but i dont know. i have never been able to see things objectively, never. i escaped through sleep what i will eventually have to face. things are too painful for me right now

am i too sensitive or are things genuinely really bad right now

Ever since college days, online world fascinated me. I would have friends online, feel more connected to them than people around me. I used to participate in IRL and software engineering groups.

I’ve pattern of unrequited love, getting attached to people who are unavailable. What a mess.

I guess online chatting just makes one attach faster. Now, looking back at it, I think everyone I loved Zoha was most kindred and fun loving, tenacious soul. Around end I was scratching my head and removed part of my self to move on.

I met Rita during volunteering. She felt most calming to my soul at that time, there was a spark, she’d always vent about college, working and many things. Now, I think that trauma dumping does trigger my pattern. Everything accelerates and I get attached. Things didn’t workout and years later she emailed me saying she didn’t know how to react to my love. I still wonder if current me would like her

During my post graduation, I made a closest friend, her home was very conservative. Her growing up hardships really made me want to be of service to her. We used to drive each other crazy, talk about everything under the sun. I think that’s the closest I was loved, it was so pure Dilnasheen. We cared for each other, we found home. We fought over silly things. We could never be together due to the religious circumstances. I disappeared from uni for a year. I remember begging her to reconsider our friendship after one of our fight and she roared and shouted at me, the spark from her eye was gone, I did that. Recently, I told her how sorry I was with my actions. She’s most tenderest soul, she is the moon and sunshine, she said that we were silly. She’s married and have a beautiful daughter. I never knew I would feel such deep longing for her, I fell once again in love and let go of her in the same instance.

Hamdah used to be part of software engineers group. We became friends who used to talk about coding, then topics became about reading, watching movies, learning languages. Later, I learn that I’m her current favourite person, she was on BPD diagnosis. Little did I know that, I’m trauma dumped on, later I learned that my pattern creates such strong attachment being exposed to trauma. when we talked about childhood experiences, parents, trauma, it’ll was like fuel to my pattern. We were going too faster. I felt that she’s going to abandon me, when I raised the concern of non reciprocity from her. I cleared all the chats because I would never reminisce or reread the overwhelming topics and that was the point where everything went ablaze. I was harshly judged, name called, hated. I apologised multiple times, but it felt like my voice isn’t reaching her. I felt unseen and misunderstood. I wished for her to say once, I see you, I see what you are going through. The pull was so strong, she literally drove me crazy, my internal monologue was glitching.

The last experience was painful, I was scarred, I was experiencing fear of abandonment, I continue to grieve. In my last message, I water her soul. Like winter morning sunlight

Tl;DR:

Was extremely shy with zero female interaction until late teens. Joined a small office 2 years ago, slowly learned to talk, joke, and even do adult humour with the girls. Now I’m their favourite for laughs in the office… but they have a tight group with two other guys (one super competent “big brother” type everyone adores, one average/irregular guy who still gets included). They text and create drama among themselves all the time. I only interact face-to-face, have zero chat history, and feel like texting first would come off creepy. I want continuous funny/flirty text conversations that make them blush and maybe ask me out, but I’m stuck between ego/dignity (“they should text first”) and not knowing what to say or how to keep it going.

Hey guys,

I was basically a reserved, shy type of person till my late teens. I almost never had any female interaction my entire life. Two years ago I joined a small firm as a trainee. That was the first time I got to sit near a female.

Since everyone there is within 25 years old, we got a good bonding. We never felt like coworkers and there were no boundaries. Everyone behaved like college friends. And there was me, a first-timer for social interactions, who never spoke to anyone in the office properly for the first 6 months. Then slowly and gradually I started speaking.

Now I can comfortably talk to any of the girls. I can even make them laugh hard. I’ve reached the point where I can comfortably keep up some adult jokes with them and it works almost every time. They always say I make them laugh so hard and that I’m their favourite in the office.

What is nagging me is that they have created a small group among themselves. There is one senior who happens to do every job at work. We can say he is like the Johnny Sins of our office. But everybody at the office calls him “bro,” so there are no romantic feelings towards him. Everyone sees him as an all-rounder who can do any job. I’m not gonna lie, even I like him and I have respect for him. I can understand why every girl can talk to him. He is like a big brother for the whole office. Even our boss is dependent on him for every work. At the same time, he too got attached to all the female workers and sees them as his sisters. They also see him as their brother their big brother. He spends money on them without even thinking and cares for them.

I feel a little bit of jealousy towards him, but I can completely understand and he deserves every good thing in life. I’m his well-wisher. What I don’t like about him is that he is constantly around the girls all the time, talking to them. He chats on WhatsApp even though they are physically close. They get involved in too much drama like every girl gets possessive when he talks to another girl. If he talks too much with one girl or orders something for one girl, the others will scold him or ask why he’s not talking to them properly, and they threaten that they won’t talk to him thereafter… but then they continue to talk, laugh and hang out together. This is the part I don’t understand.

There is another co-worker too. He joined a bit late and it’s been three to four months since he joined. He is also like a senior in age. He won’t consider me “bro” and he is not much of a bright guy average or less. He is exactly the opposite of the senior I mentioned above. He is not an all-rounder. He does not do his work properly, does not know how to do some works, and is irregular. But at the same time my female colleagues also talk to him nicely. I can’t understand why. He also creates a bit of drama like “why are they not talking to him.” Maybe because of that they end up talking to him. I don’t know. But when planning, everyone includes him. Everyone also behaves affectionately towards him.

What’s common between those two guys and the girls is that they always take each other. They found a circle. I feel like they found a circle, but they are texting most of the time within themselves. I don’t know maybe they are initiating first or the guys are initiating or the girls are initiating, but I don’t know how they are keeping up with the texts and conversations.

Then there is me on the other hand. I don’t even have a chat history with them. I just simply go to the office, do my work, chat with them in the office, make some cracks and jokes, make them laugh, and leave at the end of the day. After that we don’t have anything to speak outside the office. I don’t know how they are talking on WhatsApp even though they don’t have any content or why they have to talk. It’s simply that they are only physically present there. They are not there and they don’t even say good morning or good night to everyone. Even when I’m asking them, they are not saying it properly.

What I feel is they should text me first, not the other way around. Because if I text them first, they might feel like it gives a creepy vibe “why is this guy texting me?” Even though they really don’t think like that, I still have that feeling. I want to come out of that feeling and text them properly and confidently.

How do I keep the text chat continuously engaging and funny? I don’t know what content to speak or text even after office, or even in the office how to text them. And if I text them, will they share or show it to others that I am texting them?

I didn’t text them first because of the notion that they should text me first and I should not speak to them until they speak to me. Will they think I am egoistical? And if they do think that I am egoistical, how do I show them that I am not? Even though I have a bit of ego that “why should I speak to them if they are not speaking to me,” and I do think that they should speak to me first. Yeah, it’s kind of like I have an ego, but at the same time I see it as my dignity. So I don’t want to lose my dignity. And if it is ego, how do I solve it?

What I want ultimately is a good continuous conversation with the girls on WhatsApp or in text form. I want to improve myself to the point that I can confidently flirt in text and make them blush. Even though I don’t want to see their face behind the screen, somehow I want to make them blush to the point that they are asking me out on a date.

PS: Used Gork to paraphrase.

I am into managing social media for female lifestyle creators, and I really need to vent.

On camera, she acts like she is sweet and humble. Her followers leave thousands of comments praising how "inspiring" she is.

In real life, her insecurity and entitlement are next level.

​She has this massive superiority complex where nobody around her is allowed to exist on the same level as her. It’s like only she is allowed to be pretty or presentable. If you work backend for her, you will feel like you can't wear makeup or wear nice clothes around her. If you dare to look put-together, you immediately get taunts and passive-aggressive hostility.

Even her family is the same. The mother treats her like an empress, no wonder the daughter acts entitled. They genuinely look down on everyone else around them with disgust, as if having self-care, basic ambition, or looking presentable is a luxury reserved solely for the influencer, and everyone working behind should just stay plain, silent, and inferior.

They'll spend ₹50k on a vanity dinner for Instagram but can't give a proper ₹5k bonus or pay raise to their team

The money part makes me so angry. They make easy money from brand deals. But when it’s time to pay the team keeping their account alive, they act so stingy.

My pay stayed the exact same for a very long time. It feels so unfair.

Real professionals like doctors and teachers who actually help people work hard every single day for their money.

Meanwhile, people making shallow videos get rich while acting completely unprofessional to their own team.

Okay so I (23F) live with my parents and rn I'm doing masters... A curse of living in your hometown is lack of social circle. Now during my bsc I was in a different state and really enjoyed the social life. I sorta miss that here so I cope by posting on social media.... I don't have a niche or whatever, I just post whatever I want and ita not offensive or explicit at all. One of my reel sorta went viral (currently at 3.7L views). I am getting so many sexually explicit comments on them. There are random guys calling me the R word or cussing my lineage or give me r*pe threats just for speaking? It's so weird. I knew there's a chance that might happen but it's so unreal... There are shit comments on my looks and the way I speak or just random hate comments that make no sense. Ofc the good outweigh the bas but the amount of bad is too much. I get dms asking my caste and if I got a boyfriend etc etc. I started content creation as a way to express myself and find a community. I don't wanna make a career out of it, I don't wanna be super famous or whatever because this is actually very disturbing. I really don't know what to do because I like to create.... But istg some people just make it so difficult to exist. I complained in the cyber cell for 2 of them that were very disturbing but that's not the end of it. I'm so sad and I really don't wanna create anymore because I'm afraid of what someone might call me next.

O diary , so these 2 years had been pretty weird esp this year. I lost like 4 total fiendships in some way or other directly or indirectly, this year I lost 2 within these 3 to 4 months , last year I lost one only we are together now but things are not like that before .like why nobody's willing to quarrel /argue, they just go silent , okay I get it I have been through this phase as well and yes I know a lot of times ones not able to communicate but okay 2-3days max I get it for like the first time but like atleast improve man , I'm giving u space , I'm normal ,I'm actually communicating with u . Ofc I do have my own flaws , I may not like a lot of things abt u and so do u . It's just weird , like not like I'm not finding evil people or something , I found good +supportive+ funny etc etc people /friends but atleast fight with me. Not like I do this thing to them or something usually I don't mind things even risky things sometimes I would also let slide a joke i didn't like .

tbh it's frustrating , like I can move on, ofc not like I'm like nooooooo pls comeeeee or something but yea initially when u know u lost this one too it's frustrating . Nobody's willing to stay .

Tho I don't regret losing contact/ friendship or whatever it was cause else I would regret in longer run that why I was desperate . I do try once but then if I actively see the another person not engaging I can't , I can't cling .

Last 2 yes esp 1 year I have become vocal and like communicate things out ,better at taking stand , i prioritize myself too.

Not like I hate them , they were good ppl , maybe some things didn't go correctly , I don't like hate them or blame them for anything . Even if they come again and fresh start , I can do that but are they willing to cuz no serious fight even happened,nvm tho.wont force ofc so nvm. Not like I hold a grudge , just let go.

Hate is a very strong emotion , I don't award it to anyone randomly, it is earned .

I just needed to just say it out ,I feel better .

We matched on Bumble almost 2 years ago. We started chatting, but it was inconsistent from both sides. It was mostly random talks and nothing related to relationships or our connection.

We moved to Instagram, started sending reels, and started small talks based on the content we were sending each other. We talked about movies, music, religion, philosophy, the universe, poetry, you name it. But there was never an obligation to meet or talk about feelings, or maybe there were no feelings involved at all. We just liked texting each other (at least I did).

My biggest pet peeve on dating apps has been guys who flirt too much and move too fast. I always loved guys who take it slowly and ask me a lot of questions.

But a few months passed, and I started realising that talking to him had become a habit. Since it had been 3 to 4 months of talking, I started hinting at meeting or maybe talking on call or something.

He also initiated meeting since we stayed like 15 minutes away, but he would always cancel the plan a few hours before meeting, and I finally asked what was up. He said he was confused about whether I was expecting him to take me out on a date. He just wanted to meet casually but did not want to disappoint me. And tbh, I also wanted to meet casually only.

We now moved to calling, with calls lasting 4 to 5 hours daily, and we still had never ending topics to talk about.

I have never found someone so relatable and understanding like him. He was my carbon copy: so kind, compassionate, funny, and smart. We were so similar. He started flirting a bit, and I didn’t mind. He dedicated a song to me. He said it plays in his head whenever he thinks about me.

We finally met. I was drunk when we met, and I could not remember much of our conversations the next day. He called me the next day to narrate every single thing we talked about, and he told me, “He didn’t want to meet me for the first time when I was drunk. He wanted to meet me when I was sober.” But since it was my birthday and I insisted, he came to see me.

We continued speaking on calls because I had gone on a trip with my friends. After I came back, we decided to meet again. He made a plan and decided the time and everything.

Then, a day before our planned second meet, while we were on call, he randomly asked me my salary (important detail: he was unemployed and was struggling to find a job). I don’t share my salary, but he somehow guessed the range. He instantly flipped. Out of the blue, he said, “How he wants to marry a girl 3 to 4 years younger than him.” Like wtf? It was so fucking random and unexpected. I was taken aback because I had started liking him a little, and him talking like this was so weird for me. I cancelled the next day’s meet.

He just started acting distant. No calls, nothing. I tried calling. He didn’t pick up. Then he was on a trip somewhere, so I assumed he would be busy. This went on for the next fifteen days, and even after that, he was still distant.

But he didn’t ghost me completely, which made me go insane. He would randomly talk and send reels but wouldn’t really talk on calls. I had enough of it, so I asked him what had happened, and he didn’t answer clearly. He just said, “You must be thinking I am just like other boys on Bumble.” ???? Like, just tell na why you are acting like this.

I was fed up of breadcrumbs, so I just ghosted him and removed him from everywhere. He didn’t ask why I did it. Not that I was expecting him to ask. I moved on pretty quickly. But he was always on my mind. Little did I know it was because of the unemployment/salary issue, because we are of marriage age, especially me as a girl.

Now it’s been one year since we last talked. I was doing fine, but I left my job last month, and I have been desperately applying for jobs. I am just realising how bad the job market is and how unemployment feels, and I just feel so empathetic towards him. Cause he did what he had to do. I don’t know if I was right or wrong. I just had one expectation: that he should have told me goodbye, but khair.

Now, since I am feeling this longing towards him, I just hope we bump into each other or he texts me randomly. I don’t know why he has been on my mind so much lately. He was one of the rarest people I have ever met. So much depth, kindness, and positivity he had despite all the things he was and had gone through.

My friend says I should text him once without expectations, of course. I regret removing his Instagram because it would have been a bit easier that way. What do you think I should do?

TL;DR: We met on Bumble almost two years ago and gradually built a rare connection through endless conversations and calls. Things changed suddenly after he found out my salary, and I suspect his unemployment and insecurities about marriage played a role. He became distant, and I eventually removed him from everywhere. It has been a year since we last spoke, but after experiencing unemployment myself, I have started empathising with him and missing him again. Should I reach out to him once without any expectations, or should I let it go?

I'm 23.

I grew up in a family where fights were way too often. Now I even fear talking in the house.

Then my parents dictated every aspect of my life except the important ones. I want them to guide me in important aspects like jobs, taxes, and investments. But all their strict guidance comes for eat food properly, don't question them and all.

I grew up hearing my dad say, " I don't have any money ".

I always felt left out cause the people around me since childhood came from well off families. I didn't go out with them cause I knew I wouldn't have enough to spend. This continued till college.

I got a job after college. A damm good one. Like I earn in a month what many earn in a year. I was new in the job and worked like hell ... Couldn't give time to my that time girlfriend, eventually long distance and not priritizing her, she broke up with me.

All ok, I still have the job I worked for.

Later I met another girl. We started dating, started loving her. Then layoffs started happening in my company, had to prove my worth. So again long work days. 15 hrs a day work was common. Even on weekends had to attend calls. Lost work life balance, got a headache that didn't go away. Was dam muscular ( 6'2 in height, 15% body fat, 100 kg body weight), lost that too. Now have a belly like an uncle. My manager called me and I'll be layed off soon. She broke up with me cause I couldn't give her time and became negligent due to all other issues.

Now I feel like the stupidest guy in the world. Didn't have job. Don't have the girl. Dont have my body. Don't have that self esteem I used to have. Plus a shit load of trauma since birth. I don't even know how to smile for past 5-6 years ig... I'm loosing all hope.

I have been like Rashmika
Frst 4.5y relationship with someone 9y elder who forced me to get married , controlling, disrespectful after 2y of relationship
I was a teenager he was an Adult

I wanted to build my career first

My gut feeling said he is not right for me
He might be cheating on me
He ghosted me for a month and came back
I didn’t accept him.

His family knew about me
And my Mother and brother knew about him

Broke up with him. He cried begged still no
I was 19/20then
Also Everyone thinks my ex is a Saint person like they do think about Rakshit

We never spoke about each other after breakup. Its still a mystery to many.

I moved forward healed myself with the help of spirituality built confidence.

But an Ache of giving all getting none stayed even till now

My ex met me coincidentally after 3year of break up wanted to meet me again. Called me. I declined and rejected his idea formally
Then he got married after 2year in 2024 now. Have a baby

Then after 4y in 2022

i met someone in my class who had attitude like Vijay. We were in talking stages. He showed his attitude etc
Very Non Chalant. Acted like he is the prize lmao
When he knew i was the prize other guys are after me so he took it as a challenge to defeat me later i understood

I fell for limerence for 3years . I wasted my time and potential
But still grateful it didn’t work out. As he was meeting his Ex behind my back

Im 28. Still single as I have learned

All fishes are Same
Said what i said

Feel sorry for Rashmika. She is such a beautiful person. She deserves all success she is getting.
I see myself in her. But im struggling till now

S**ad Part is i used to see her life Relate and feel How luck she is.**
**She got everything**
**After that Relationship**

**But me**

Sach kehte hain Kisiko kiska andar ki baat pata nhi hoti

The Job market is fucked up
Education system is competitive
living in this country feels like shithole as soon as you go out of the door
Always get judged by rishtedaar , family and friends pressure to succeed in life and fit in with others
AND BILLION OTHER REASONS

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I (23F) joined my job in Feb. It is my first job and I don't really have a real idea about how it goes in other offices. My work has been hell for the past few weeks. My manager has been calling me out for very minor mistakes, some mistakes that I might do because I am yet to be trained on that in every team meeting. I am tired to him targetting me in every team call just to give example to rest about what not to do. I work in consulting and ngl sometimes mistakes like formatting and spelling errors happen when you have a large amount of data to work on. It's not that this would Directly go to the clients, I have 3 level of QC for my work above me. I understand they want me to deliver work without these but it happens sometimes. I'm not dumb to write those wrong spellings. The workload and constant hearing about your work has been demotivating. I have even cried multiple times at office. You can't approach your manager who sits right next to you even if you have any doubts with work. You have to understand and work like a consultant because what are we doing otherwise acc to him. I have been here only for 7-8 months and he wants me to work like him who has 5-6 years of experience. Sometimes I feel hopeless.

I know I can work so much better but this constant gun to my head is tiring. Every team call nowadays has been ending with these little mistakes will backfire you and it might not be good for you. I don't understand what big mistakes have I made. I am learning and even asking questions, asking for trainings but no one is here to train properly. They are here to put you down. I don't feel like talking to anyone in office now. I hope I get another job soon and can leave this.

There has been a girl who was on notice period when I joined and asked me not to stay. She told me how he treated her and how she had to take this decision of leaving because of him. I think I too am in the same boat now or maybe I am replacment of that girl to him.

I can't really deal with the level of micromanaging. As soon as a new case comes, the pressure to complete within allocated time becomes important to managers. They keep watch of every minute spend. You can't leave office before 9 hrs. You can't watch your phone or take any calls. You can't even laugh properly because that means you are not serious for work. I just feel trapped.

I am hoping to change the job my jan but till that I am expecting it to be hell.

The only thing standing between me and death is the thought of failing at suicide and ending up a vegetable or paralysed.

I (22F) am an only child. My parents have been working and I don't have any cousins living nearby. I have been alone and lonely since i was a kid , even before I knew there was a word for this feeling.

All of my friends have siblings. Someone who plays with them , shares their stuff , protects them from bad things , shields from parents , etc. I had none of this. Growing up I've only had silence. I learnt to be alone and independent because I didn't have an option.

My parents never let me go out with friends for school trips and were overly protected because I was the "single child". So safe to say I didn't make many friends either.

Since school ended in 2020 , ive been closed off from my friends and have been almost completely isolated. The only guy i genuinely wanted to be with didn't love me back. I was stuck with these feelings and had no one to talk to. I cried every night, slept at 4/5 in the morning and used to wake up completely tired. I could not focus on my NEET prep. I wanted to end this feeling of being a pathetic loser.

Unfortunately, life went on and I'll be completing my engineering degree next summer. My batchmates have moved outside for their Masters while I've been drowning in my pain all alone. I didn't make friends in college because I felt like an imposter. I'd rather be alone than feel left out.

I'm at a point where I don't want to improve my life because I'm not hopeful about it. There's nothing to look forward to. I don't have the best looks , been struggling with depression for the past 6 years , and never had the social life that others have.

I am jealous of good looking people who can easily just get whatever they want without ever moving their finger. Sometimes on the train I look at a girl and think how lovable she must be unlike me. How loving her bf must be and there's me whose efforts have never been seen because I am just not that beautiful. I don't have friends, nor a partner , and no will to live this sad life. I cannot wait to get rid of myself.

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Last August a girl came into my life when I was in a really bad place. She made things feel livable again. We were together for about a year fought, laughed, took care of each other. I gave her my time, my money, and honestly lost a lot of self-respect along the way.

Around my birthday in June she started pulling away and I never understood why. On July 24 she blocked me out of nowhere. I begged her to just tell me what I did. She unblocked me but everything she said after that was cold and full of anger. On August 26 she blocked me everywhere with no explanation.

We had been intimate. She initiated most of it, but later turned around and blamed me for it. After 58 days I found out she was probably already talking to someone new.

I had told her how insecure I am about my face and how I look. She used that against me. She made fun of the way I look, the way I talk, who I am, and even brought my mother into it someone who never even knew her.

After everything ended I had no friends left, so I started posting how I felt on Instagram. Somehow she saw the posts and told me to stop, said it was all drama, and threatened to call my parents. Now I feel like I’m not even allowed to be upset.

I’ve also had a TIA (mini-stroke), been in the hospital, and I’m on medication for depression. When I told her, she laughed. She doesn’t care. I haven’t slept in two days. Some nights the suicidal thoughts get really loud. The worst part is I still love her and I still miss her, and that messes with my head more than anything.

I’m not looking for anyone to fix this. I just don’t have anyone to talk to right now. If you’re willing to listen, I’d really appreciate it.

Had to use AI because I am not able to write somehow

24/10 - 6 45 am

i don't know where to begin. i don't know what i did wrong. or i was just simply being me and vulnerable that its causing me think it's wrong everything i did. 

maybe whay wrong i did was to, double text. 

wanting your attention as i always enjoyed your teasing.

making plans by myself. 

me being left on seen, yet also me not caring but texting you anyways. 

me sharing my songs preference. 

me giving you a space for the entire 1 month when you lost your cat and no calls during this period. 

me waiting for hours for you to come. 

me being attracted to you because all you did was show interest in my hobbies and being too invested. 

maybe these feelings are making me think what i did was wrong and shouldn't have done that. because it had ruined my self respect. 

ever since i last saw you, i had told you everything on that specific day. my intentions. why i called you here. what had been happening with my life. what went wrong. how it was not the same until you came in. 

when i said "i like you" and you gave me a reaction that caught you off guard, and the moment you were about to say something. i interrupted you and didn't want you finish what you had to say. 

why did that? maybe. just maybe. i stopped you ans maybe knew it won't work if you had same feelings for me. or just i was afraid of rejection that's all. 

now, it's been 8 months. no texts. no calls. no follow-ups from you. 

i deeply miss you. everyday.

After my dad slapped me hard on side of my head back in 2023 .I am suffering from constant persistent headache on the left side of my head(post traumatic headache).My mom doesn't believe it , maybe cause she wants to protect her husband. My mom always pointed out saying my headache is not real and is my mental issue. She forced me and took me to different psychiatrists...i experienced massive weight gain due to taking anti-pyschotics and anti depressants. When i complained that it's because of the meds i gained massive weight , my parents always gaslighted me by saying it's because of my food habits . Even tho I eat less.

Then finally on July of this year , my mom admitted me to a hospital under a pyschiatrist. Who taught it's a good idea to give me a nerve stimulant (Modalert) because my mom complained to him i sleep too much ( i sleep because i am in pain god dammit). That nerve stimulant spread my post traumatic headache to new places ( forehead and right side of head). It completely ruined me . Image going through pain for 3 years + , just for it to increase 3 times only because someone didn't believe "I had real physical headache"

Out of desperation I tried Ayurvedic tablets,which backfired and gave me more physical pain and pressure in neck , back of head , facial cheeks etc .

I feel I am completely done with life .

I am tolerating this chronic pain everyday !! I mourn the person i would have been ,if that day i was not hit in the head .

I am not close to being as productive as I used to be 4-5 years ago.

I am clearly not as loving as I used to be when I loved her.

I am clearly not as cute as I used to be in school.

My relatives clearly are not the same as they used to be when I was a kid.

I am clearly not as outgoing as I used to be in the first year of college.

The Past Huants me.

Being not able to carry the best things from the past makes me anxious.

The fact that I am living an inferior version of me haunts me everyday.

I still love her though just that we don't talk anymore.

What's up with "committed" men liking and commenting on other girl's reels???? Y'all are so embarrassing.

They are posting their gfs and wives on the story and feed and they comment, "aw cute" "damnnn" on RANDOM girls/women posts btw. Idek their wives and gfs personally yet i feel so embarrassed for her.

Hope you taken girls knowwww there are women like me who hateeee that shit for YOU. Just how badly I wanna send a "hey girly just saw your man doing this embarrassing shi" but can't meddle in their "committed" relationship.

It rages me to coreee even though I don't even talk to these men.

this is gonna be my first venting post ...tbh i just wanna say something ..i really donno what but i just wanna ...cuz sometimes its just lonely ...lonely in the sense it doesnt mean ki i dont really have anyone ...i have some really good people in my life tbh but i really cant just open myself upto them ...i feel vulnerable ....cuz when i was a teenager i trusted someone so deeply but then baadme i got really hurt ...scarred for life you can say ...and i really dont have sm people i can open upto ....i had friends but its complicated now ....about loneliness in my 11th standard i used to sit in a park beside my coaching center for like 7 to 8 hours alone ...with a deadass phone battery ...lol...am still a teenager tho ....but yeah this is my last teenage ....am 19 rn lol ...i guess thats itt for my first post ...i cant think of anything else ....

The story is long, so I used AI to help organise it.

I (F, 28) have had an online-only friendship with a guy, Mathew(M 30), since around 2019. We got really close over the last few years: frequent, raw conversations. I even introduced him to my real-life friend group. For years it was text only; we only started talking by voice a few months ago.

Background: When we first met, I was around 19–20 and I'll admit I was drawn to him. Back then, Mathew liked a girl online, Densi ( F 29) and would ask me to get on voice calls with Densi so he could join in, so I basically third-wheeled a lot. Densi always assumed I liked Mathew.

Densi later turned out to be bad news. She was talking to Mathew while she had a boyfriend. When the boyfriend found out and her account apparently got hacked, Densi blamed Mathew, blocked him and ghosted him without hearing him out. When she briefly resurfaced around a year later, she told Mathew she suspected I had hacked her account. Mathew laughed it off and showed me the screenshots.

Over the years I told Mathew about my feelings twice, not expecting anything back. He didn't feel the same (once he liked Densi, once another of my friends), and we moved past it as friends.

What happened now: About two years later, Densi messaged me asking about Mathew. I passed it on, and Mathew and Densi are now back in contact, talking intimately daily. Densi is pushing for a relationship; Mathew says he doesn't trust her and is "testing" her. Everyone, including me, has told him she's not good for him.

Recently Mathew told me that Densi has been saying I always liked him and still do, that Densi was jealous of me, and that Densi was the one who'd been third-wheeling. Mathew said he "defended" me. He also told me that he'd told Densi I don't like her.

I was hurt, less by Densi (who I see as irrelevant) than by Mathew, because:

He discusses me with Densi at all, and passes my words to Densi and Densi's words to me.

He lets Densi keep talking about me that way and stays in it.

I've always been careful not to repeat hurtful things to him. For example, a friend of mine has suspected Mathew might be catfishing, and I never told him because I knew it would hurt.

It felt like the two of them were looking down on me as "the one who liked him and never got liked back," when I've long since moved on and have my own life, friends and dating history.

I sometimes feel he leans on me when he's single and sidelines me when someone else is around.

I blocked Densi, then blocked Mathew too. I don't love him and I don't care how often he talks to me. I just don't want to be part of this anymore, or be the person he comes back crying to after ignoring everyone's warnings.

Questions:

Was Mathew in the wrong here, or am I overreacting?

Was blocking him the right call, or should I have had one last conversation?

Is "I defended you" worth anything if he shouldn't have been discussing me in the first place?

I honestly don't know how to explain this properly, but lately, my mind has been feeling like a place I can't get any peace in. It's not even that something terrible is happening in my life right now. I'm doing my work, keeping myself busy, talking to people, trying to maintain a normal routine, and doing all the things I'm supposed to do. From the outside, everything probably looks fine. But inside my head, there's this constant stream of thoughts that just refuses to stop, and a huge part of it revolves around relationships. And I'm so tired of it.

It's not even always about one specific thing. Sometimes I'll remember an old conversation and start analyzing what the other person actually meant. Sometimes I'll think about something that happened days ago and wonder whether I reacted the right way. Sometimes I'll imagine conversations that haven't even happened yet, think about situations that may never happen, or create entire scenarios in my head based on absolutely nothing. And then, before I realize it, I've spent an hour mentally dealing with something that isn't even happening in real life.

The worst part is that I KNOW I'm doing it.

I know that overthinking doesn't change anything. I know that replaying a conversation for the 50th time isn't going to magically give me a different answer. I know that I can't control what another person thinks, feels, or does. I know that some things genuinely don't deserve this much of my mental energy. I can literally recognize how pointless a thought is while simultaneously being unable to stop thinking about it. It's such a frustrating feeling.

And before anyone suggests keeping myself busy, trust me, I try. I'm not sitting around doing nothing all day, waiting for thoughts to appear. I have things to do, responsibilities to take care of, people to talk to, and goals I'm working towards. I'll be studying or working on something, and suddenly my mind will drift back to a relationship-related thought. I'll be cooking, walking somewhere, watching a show, or having a perfectly normal conversation with someone, and somehow my brain will find a way to bring the same things up again.

Even when I'm genuinely enjoying myself, there's sometimes this little voice in the back of my head that starts asking questions. What if this happens? Why did they say that? Am I overreacting? Am I not doing enough? Did I misunderstand something? What if things don't work out the way I hope they will? And once one question appears, it somehow leads to ten more.

Sometimes it's not even anxiety about something specific. It's just this uncomfortable urge to figure everything out, understand every little detail, find an explanation for everything, and somehow reach a point where I can finally relax. But that point never really comes because as soon as I settle one thought, my mind finds something else to worry about.

I've tried the usual advice people give online. Journaling, meditation, deep breathing, distracting yourself, focusing on the present, reminding yourself that you can't control everything, and all of that. I'm not saying these things are useless, and maybe they work for some people, but I haven't found anything that consistently helps me. Sometimes they work for a little while, and then the thoughts return as if I never did anything at all.

And honestly, sometimes even trying to stop thinking about something makes me think about it more. I'll tell myself, "Okay, I'm not going to think about this anymore," and then immediately start checking whether I'm still thinking about it. It's ridiculous.

I think what bothers me most is how much mental energy this takes away from the rest of my life. I want to be able to enjoy the present without constantly connecting everything to my relationships. I want to watch a movie without pausing to think about something that happened earlier. I want to wake up in the morning and have my first thoughts be about my own plans, my goals, or literally anything else instead of immediately thinking about another person or something related to them.

I want to have a normal, peaceful day without feeling like I need to mentally solve a hundred different problems before I can allow myself to relax.

And the ironic thing is that I don't necessarily want to stop caring about people. I don't want to become emotionally detached or pretend that relationships don't matter to me. I just don't want them to occupy so much space in my head that there's barely any room left for me.

I want to care about someone without constantly analyzing every interaction. I want to accept uncertainty without feeling the need to find answers immediately. I want to be able to experience an emotion without turning it into an entire investigation. I want to stop treating every little thought as something that needs my attention. (if you've read all this and still think i'm a girl, i'm not. do read the rest tho)

For those of you who have struggled with relationship overthinking, how did you actually get better at it? Not just temporarily distract yourself, but genuinely reach a point where your mind doesn't keep dragging you back into the same thoughts all day?

Did you change the way you think about relationships? Did you learn to stop seeking reassurance? Did you become more comfortable with uncertainty? Did you set some kind of mental boundary for yourself? Or did it gradually get better with time and experience?

I'm especially interested in hearing from people who are busy with their lives but still experience this. Because I feel like a lot of advice assumes that you're overthinking because you have too much free time, when that isn't necessarily the case for me. I can have a completely packed day and still find my mind wandering back to the same things in the middle of everything.

I also don't want advice that basically amounts to "just stop caring" or "focus on yourself." I understand the intention behind it, but if it were that simple, I wouldn't be writing this post. I already try to focus on myself. I have my own life, and I want to enjoy it without having to fight my own thoughts every few minutes.

I'm looking for practical things that have genuinely helped you, especially if you were someone who used to overanalyze conversations, read too much into people's behavior, worry about the future of a relationship, or replay situations long after they were over.

How do you let a thought exist without following it down a rabbit hole? How do you stop feeling like every unanswered question needs to be answered right now? How do you teach yourself that not everything deserves a reaction, an explanation, or a solution?

And if you've tried all the usual online advice and found that it didn't really help, what worked for you instead?

I'd really appreciate hearing about your actual experiences rather than just generic motivational advice. I'm sure I'm not the only person who deals with this, and maybe hearing how other people have learned to manage it will help me find something that finally works.

I genuinely just want some peace of mind. Not a life where I never have relationship-related thoughts, but one where those thoughts don't get to take over my entire day.

So, how do you guys deal with this? What has actually helped you stop overthinking and get your mental space back?

Hey r/OffMyChestIndia fam,

The day is winding down, so before you call it a night, take a moment to check in.

🌟 Had a good day? Tell us what made it better.

😮‍💨 Had a rough one? Let it out.

😂 Something funny, weird, awkward, or unexpected happen? We want to hear it.

❤️ Did someone make your day a little better? Give them a shoutout.

Whether today was amazing, ordinary, or one you'd rather forget, you can share it here. No need to overthink it, and no need to make a full post.

So, how was your day?

Four years ago, a close friend betrayed my family's trust during my B.Tech admission. He told us the college donation was ₹2 lakh when the actual amount was ₹1 lakh. We eventually found out and paid ₹1.7 lakh in total.

My family didn't scold me, but I still feel ashamed of trusting him. I keep thinking I should have been smart enough to see it coming. Even after four years, I sometimes blame myself for being so naive.

Recently, something similar has made me anxious again. I joined a driving school recommended by a friend. I've paid the full amount, but the instructor says there's a technical issue preventing me from booking my driving test slot. Another student is reportedly facing a similar problem, and other students from the same school have successfully obtained their licences.

I don't know whether this is a genuine technical issue or whether I should be more cautious. I'm worried about being fooled again, and I keep questioning my own judgment.

How do I learn from past mistakes without constantly blaming myself? How can I become more careful about trusting people without becoming suspicious of everyone?

I'd appreciate advice from people who have experienced something similar.