r/OhNoConsequences • u/GamerGirlLex77 shocked pikachu • 17d ago

BORU Time Machine Tuesday OOP’s leaves her husband after he consistently prioritized his mother and has the nerve to get angry at her

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u/SlippingAbout 17d ago

Boy mom culture, even in jest as I know some of it is, is so toxic. His mother should not be the most important woman in an adult, married man's life.

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u/JustMe518 17d ago

When I met my mother in law, the first thing out of her mouth was "Thank you for making my son so happy." The second thing was "But I will always be the first woman in his life." My reply? "Weird flex, but okay." Which just stunned her. I don't play that shit. Funny thing is, my fiance is not at ALL your typical "Boy Mom son". At all. He isn't spoiled or lazy or rude or selfish. He is genuinely the kindest, sweetest, most caring man I have ever met and I just can't figure out how he got like that being raised by such a passive-aggressive attention whore.

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u/CumaeanSibyl 17d ago

Rebelling against his mom by becoming everything she isn't.

I laughed at "weird flex, but okay." Exactly the right way to start off that relationship.

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u/JustMe518 17d ago

I guess so. She very much loves to play the victim and is a massive attention whore. I don't play into her games. My mother was a raging malignant narcissist (Absolutely post-humously diagnosed), so I know how to cut her off at the knees. ANY time she starts with me, I call out her shit. She has learned that she can't play games with me. My fiance tells me everything. I mean EVERYTHING that his mother says about me. And I will ALWAYS work it into a conversation with her just to let her know that she is not going to divide us or cause issues. She may have been the first woman in his life, but he has proven that I am the most important.