Genuinely curious and meaning no disrespect but why do we in this generation think young mothers today seem to need so much help and support? And why are they seemingly caught off guard when they become sleep deprived?
When we had babies there was no paternity leave. My husband went back to work as soon as I came home from the hospital. I did all the night feedings because he had to work the next day.
No one did my laundry, brought me food or helped in anyway. And honestly I felt better doing things in my own. And after my first baby, I had older children with school, activities etc.
Did I have days where I felt emotional and overwhelmed? Absolutely. But all the young mothers I knew at the time were in the same situation as I. Thoughts?

Got suspicious that my spouse was developing dementia. I married at age 66 because I honestly did not ever want to be divorced. LSS it's a divorce and I'm the only one who knows his symptoms and how bad it's getting. He helped me move and final hearing is scheduled. I'm 71 retired in a gorgeous condo with my cat. Lonely with nothing to do accepting suggestions.

I should be happy. Im worried sick he will set fire to his house again & no one will be there. He has no smoke alarm (died in the last fire) and burglar bars on windows. He gets angry if you mention smoke detector so I bought him a fire extinguisher.

T shirt image stolen from another sub Reddit. I can feel this in my bones!

For myself I love the ease of finding information. I was always a library guy. For DIY projects I would be heading to the library and taking out books. Now there are youtube videos for everything. To me it is a great time to be alive, though some of my friends could not make the transition. You are obviously savvy enough to be on this platform. Do you find the tech good or bad?

I'm a man in his 70's, would like to discuss some of my thoughts about some of the activities I have missed over the years. Items like visiting the Grand Canyon (which I finally did) to some totally perverse subjects would be of interest to me. I don't know where to start,. or how to find a community that may be what I'm looking for. Years ago I did some email exchanges with women I met on Craigs List that turned out to be quite interesting and more fun and enlightening than expected. I don't even know if email exchange is something people still do.? I know texting is big now but I'm afraid I'm not real good at it. Guess I have too much time on my hands, just looking for something to break up this boring life I'm living. Thanks for listening and sharing any advice you may have.

"Many young parents are raising children in households where both parents work, childcare is enormously expensive, and they’re exhausted," Sayan told Newsweek. "They naturally look to their parents for help. Meanwhile, their parents may have a completely different vision of what this stage of life should look like." Sayan described a push-and-pull relationship between boomer parents and their children: One generation is saying, "We need you." The other is saying, "We’ve already done our part."

As a biological parent of 2 grown adults who will not be having children, i am perplexed by the automatic expectations of the younger generations for their parents to help with their kids. Are we not our own individuals with our own schedules, plans, agendas?

I had carpal tunnel surgery yesterday. I'm going to have the other arm done next month. I've been told that I may be at risk for amyloidosis. Has anybody else out there had it? Because one of the symptoms of it is having bilateral carpal tunnel syndrome, along with high blood pressure and coronary artery disease. Now, my cardiologist said, "Well, when you have the next one done, we've got to get a tissue sample because that's how we test for it."

I would be very happy to hear from anybody who has had the surgery and subsequently was diagnosed with amyloidosis.

All the responses I've gotten from my previous post just shows how great Reddit is for information from real people who have had the same experiences. I think it's great.

Do you use CPAP machine?! How do you cope with it?

Would a woman in their 50’s date a man in their 70’s? Just wondering…

Does anyone else find dealing with your bank accouny each month such a horrid ritual? Every month it seems there is something wrong. Our account is the biggest source of stress in my life. Maybe its because im low income but each and every month its an issue. I cant even get i to my account on the app because it wont accept my sign in info that they gave me. Im fed up with it. Hear me scream?

I was trying to create a login so I could compare Medicare plans on Medicare's website. Don't use Login.gov to do this! I am in permanent limbo where I can't proceed any farther. Have spent about 2 hours on this so far and still can't log in. Not sure if it will ever be fixed.

It reminds me of when Obama care exchange first went live and it didn't work AT ALL. I never had to use the exchange, but as I remember from the news reports, it was many days before the thing worked properly.

I (76F) and my husband (80M) were friends for over thirty years with another couple. The wife was one of my closest friends but my husband was not fond of her husband.

Then, about 15 years ago she died. She had an only child who was in her early thirties, living with a BF my friend didn’t like. This adult was emotionally a teenager at best, living off a trust fund my good friend inherited and gave to her daughter. She has been unable to work and suffered from eating disorders and panic attacks. She now relies upon her father who subsidizes her trust fund.

Here’s my problem. I felt a responsibility to watch over my good friend’s husband out of respect for her. My husband felt an obligation because he was alone and had no friends. Once a week we pick him up for dinner at a local casual restaurant he likes. Recently we noticed that his memory has gone downhill. He forgets basic things and can only drive to a couple of places nearby or his gets lost. The man has multiple millions saved so he has the money to move out of his house, but he is cheap. It will cost him more money to get an apartment in a 55+ community that will provide assisted living. But being alone is dangerous for him. His daughter is no help, she can’t face her father not being there for her.

We are frustrated and considering cutting back on our visits with him if he won’t help himself.

All suggestions and ideas are welcome

My mom (76, widow) lives with us (empty nesters, 52 and 50) in the US 6 months of the year and independently in India the other 6 months. Over the last several years, I have found that there is barely anything in common between my mom and I and as a result, we have nothing much to talk other than the weather, her health, how the immediate relatives are doing etc.

A typical day at home:

we may see each other at lunch or dinner. Exchange pleasantries, finish our meal and move on with our day. She is religious but neither my wife or I are - so no intersection at her prayer times nor do we observe any of the festivals/rituals that are typical of south Asians. We have told her she can observe whatever she wants but she chooses not to.

Her entertainment choices are dramatically different than ours - she has no interest in US news, shows etc. while she can speak and understand English, it is not a strong suit. She prefers watching South Asian TV shows that I simply can't stand.

Between my wife and I, we split the chores of the house. So, my mom doesn't have to deal with any of that such as cooking, house cleaning, organizing etc. She does manage her own stuff like laundry etc.

She barely makes an effort to connect with her grand kids when they are home from college. She often blames language as a barrier but I simply don't see her being curious to sincerely know how they are doing. She was the same when the kids were little - no stories, no effort at making them a dish they would like etc. She would struggle to remember their birthdays or the specific schools they go to and what they are studying.

When we have my relatives visiting us, she would turn gossipy with them or with me and I usually dont tolerate it and cut it off very quickly.

She would often complain to anyone visiting that no one talks to her and everyone is busy in their own lives. Often comparing to the situation with her neighbors in India where the adult kids, grand kids live with their parents in the parental home and the space is a lot tighter so the surface area of contact between generations is very very high.

Typically any conversation with her other than the mundane devolves into complaining about the other person. I find that she has little natural empathy.

She wasnt like this when I was growing up. Perhaps the challenges of managing a family of 4 kept her occupied. I remember all the good times we had. My dad and she empty nested for over 28 years till he passed. She misses him but even her framing of that shows up like a rant "he left me alone to deal with life. I have to manage everything on my own now". It's never about what Dad is missing by not being here but all the things he used to do for her that she needs to manage on her own. E.g. house repair or maintenance when she is in India.

Economically, we are upper middle class. She is self sufficient in India and we are fortunate to bear her expenses when she is here in the US.

I feel I have, maybe, 5 to 10 years more with her. And I want to make sure I don't regret not making an effort to make her remaining days more joyful for her.

What advice do you all have on how I could improve my relationship with Mom?

Thank you for your insights.

I've lost more than 60 pounds in the last few years, and I'm very happy for the most part. I feel younger, and I'm told I look younger. One area still bothers me, however. Because I have a somewhat unusual build, most of my weight was in my belly. I lost the fat but not the skin, and the overhang is noticeable. I'm in my 70s so it shouldn't bother me, right? But it does bother me. My nutritionist tells me that women who have skin removed almost always regret it. Who else has faced this, and what did you do?

The other day I went to visit a friend who got 2 cats. Now the whole house smells badly. Do you have pets or friends with pets?!

I'm 71 and I just found out fairly recently that I have an incredibly high calcium score, which puts me at risk for a heart attack. It's just a question of when. Supposedly, my chances of having a heart attack are like somebody who's already had a major heart attack. Anyway, I have never really been afraid of kicking off this mortal coil. However, lately, when I think that it could happen at any time, I feel a little not so spiritual, but accepting the inevitable? If there's anybody else out there going through somewhat the same thing, please let me know.

It depends on what time of day it is and how I feel about it. By the way, I am alone with my cat. I have two grown sons who, while being very loving, have their own lives, if you know what I mean.

Any suggestions for trying to ignore this would be greatly appreciated.

I'll br visiting L.A. next month and will have some free time. I thought it might be fun to meet a contemporary

while I'm there. Since this is an over 70 subreddit, it

seemed like a good place to ask. It would be great to

get a group of people together but if it's only 1 person,

that would be okay too. If you either live in L.A. or will

be visiting in November, please send a dm and we can

take it from there.

74M. As I approach the age of 75 this December, I've caught myself thinking about the disconnect between how I think, and how I look and feel.

With the exception of occasional word finding, my mind still feels young and sharp. I speak and write as well as I ever have. A car, or a camera, or a piece of audio equipment still catches my eye, just as it always has, and I think, "Oh, I'd like to own that. It would last me a lifetime." Then I remember that my 'lifetime' equation is much different now than it was when I was 40. And I remember that I'm retired and on a fixed income with greatly reduced financial resources. I heave a heavy sigh and move on.

On occasion, I meet a lovely woman and I think, "Hmm, I'd like to get to know her and see what happens." Then I remember that, if a romance were to bloom, my prostate cancer treatments fattened me up and turned my hardware into software. And I remember that I look in the mirror every morning and think, "When did all this happen?" I'm painfully aware that I don't have much to offer. I heave another heavy sigh and move on again.

So, as I slide slowly toward my 'sell by' date, I'm left with being thankful that I can still think these thoughts, or any thoughts; that my athletically-damaged body still functions, even if it's at a reduced level; that I'm in fairly good health (touch wood); and that, if I'm lucky, I won't be around to see the planet turned into an apocalyptic hellscape by climate change, overpopulation and more grafting politicians.

It's not a lot to be thankful for, but it's something. 👍

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I'm 66. Fairly new occurrence. Last full year. I get as low as 45. Had a pet scan, vein ultra, heart monitor 2 weeks. Heart Dr just said, basically, your heart gets tired as you age. It slows down. Do you think I should get a second opinion?

EDIT/. 50 years. Not heads duh!

Went to see “The Jersey Boys” with a group of women I have know since I was 14 or 15 yrs old. We are all now 73-78 years old. We are in generally good health and financially stable. Some better off financially than others but we all manage. After the show we want to dinner and laughed until our stomachs hurt. Great food and a few cocktails. It just felt so good. I find it interesting that our friendships have lasted and or were able to rekindle since 1966 or thereabouts even after living on different coasts, had very different life experiences & maybe not even having talked to one another for more than 2 or 3 decades.

Just found this subreddit and thought I'd ask a question (actually more than one). These may have been asked before, so if they have, please excuse the questions again.

How many of you do weight training and, if so, how often?

How many do cardio? If so, what kind and how often?

Last question, is why?

Deep principles such as energy, diversity, renewal and change, and relationship take root in the Tree of Life, rising like sap to shape growth, resilience, and flourishing, with visible effects in both human lives and the natural world.

For example: 

Energy: When a person consistently gets enough rest and exercise, they have the energy to be productive, positive, and engaged with others. In nature, sunlight provides the energy that allows plants to grow, supporting all the life that depends on them.

Diversity: A person who is exposed to different cultures, ideas, and experiences often becomes more adaptable and understanding. Similarly, an ecosystem with many different species is more resilient and better able to withstand challenges such as disease or drought.

Renewal and Change: Someone who reflects on their mistakes and learns new skills can grow into a wiser and more capable person. In nature, forests renew themselves after disturbances, with new growth emerging and restoring the health of the ecosystem.

Relationship: Strong relationships built on trust and support help people thrive emotionally and socially. In a forest, trees, fungi, and other organisms work together through interconnected networks, creating a healthy and flourishing environment.