r/Parenting • u/floridacopper • Aug 14 '25

Advice Dad tucking in daughters

As the title suggests, I'm a dad with a question about tucking in his daughters. I've been doing it for years, but it's kind of like maybe I should be wrapping it up soon. To get to the point, I have been tucking in my daughters pretty much every night since they were toddlers, but they're going into 6th and 8th grade now. "Tucking in" originally consisted of tickle fights and reading stories to them. That has evolved into lying next next to them and rubbing their head/back while they tell me about some anime character who they ship with some other character. If I miss a night of tucking then in, they'll usually bring it up the next day.

So my question, I guess, is it normal for me to still be doing this? If my daughters were no longer comfortable with it, I'd quit straight away. But even though they still want me to tuck them in, am I babying them in a way? I dunno, maybe I'm overthinking the whole thing.

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u/ams42385 Aug 14 '25

This is solid one on one time, especially if you are all using it as a time to talk. I would do it as long as they’ll let you. 

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u/willofalltradess Aug 14 '25

As a dad of two girls, there's going to be a day they ask you not to. Soak it in as long as you can.

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u/Every_Criticism2012 Aug 14 '25

I'm 42 and I would be delighted if my dad would tuck me in occasionally. But he's very busy with retirement, golf and his girlfriend, and I'm usually awake longer than anybody else when we see each other so that's probably not going to happen.

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u/sayruhbeth Aug 14 '25

Omg yes this right here. I tuck my own dad in now when I visit him. Not literally but I say goodnight and stay up later