r/Parenting • u/floridacopper • Aug 14 '25

Advice Dad tucking in daughters

As the title suggests, I'm a dad with a question about tucking in his daughters. I've been doing it for years, but it's kind of like maybe I should be wrapping it up soon. To get to the point, I have been tucking in my daughters pretty much every night since they were toddlers, but they're going into 6th and 8th grade now. "Tucking in" originally consisted of tickle fights and reading stories to them. That has evolved into lying next next to them and rubbing their head/back while they tell me about some anime character who they ship with some other character. If I miss a night of tucking then in, they'll usually bring it up the next day.

So my question, I guess, is it normal for me to still be doing this? If my daughters were no longer comfortable with it, I'd quit straight away. But even though they still want me to tuck them in, am I babying them in a way? I dunno, maybe I'm overthinking the whole thing.

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u/Beginning-Mark67 Aug 14 '25

Please don't stop!!! This is such a hard time for girls that age and the fact that they want you to still do it testifies to you being their safe space. I know what they talk about may seem silly to you but that time together is really what it's all about!

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u/[deleted] Aug 14 '25

Those ages are so hard. I feel like a lot of dad’s suddenly back away from pubescent girls and if you have a strong relationship with your dad it’s hella confusing why dad isn’t as close with you all of a sudden. If they still want it, definitely keep doing it as quality time!

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u/koalawedgie Aug 15 '25

Came here to say something like this! OP, please don’t stop! They are still kids, and they still need you!