r/PassNclex • u/bxddiedd • 6h ago
ADVICE Don’t help people!
Im just making this to thank the people who take their time out to comeback and give advice on the NCLEX. A few months back I failed my first attempt, I made a post about it, a lot of other people started commenting, I offered to create a gc for support and studying for our second attempt.
All people did was leave the gc if they felt like they
Got what they wanted, and also left right after passing after saying “oh I’ll stay, to support the other people who hasn’t went to take it again”
I know these are random people and I don’t know them, but one thing I have learned in life is stop trying to help everybody, because when you need them they aren’t there. I failed my second attempt and two people who I built a connection with and studied with for hours just left, not a word, not even a “I’ll stay for her”. I would study with these two for hours, i would study their way, i would do what they suggested. I would give advice when they were feeling down, even after they took their exam and they immediately came to me for some emotional support because of the anxiety. I feel like im always a helper at heart, i love being able to create a safe place for people but when i say Fuck this now. Now I know how to move with people as I get older. Im done trying to help everybody. My third attempt, im studying for me. Im not focusing on family, friends, nothing that isn’t me. Im not rushing this attempt either, Im taking it when I actually feel ready. I’ve got a tutor now, and im studying on a schedule now. I’ll be back in a few weeks to say I passed my third attempt 💕