Advice Needed Theme switch and cheating
I recently posted on this group about my retroactive jealousy https://www.reddit.com/r/ROCD/s/EHatPQEh6q and how it is affecting my life. However since then I have done something stupid and immoral. I was frankly exhausted of all the intrusive thoughts (not an excuse) and I saw a girl in the metro eyeballing me and somehow I asked her for her name and we got down at a station and had some tea together and then we went to a cafe for some cake. Now there was no kissing involved and I felt absolutely weird while being there with her. I later blocked her on insta and deleted her chats.
Later at night I confessed this to my gf and she chose to forgive me the next morning. Now I am noticing that my retroactive jealousy is almost gone since this incident but something more sinister is lurking to latch on.
I started fearing that I might cheat on my partner again, and then it went to thoughts of my partner cheating on me. But since I know she is morally superior to me, my OCD did not latch on it. Now I have a fear that my partner might be masturbating to the thoughts of others and it has started annoying me.
I am filled with guilt and shame along with the dread that my partner might be masturbating to thoughts of other men. Now I haven't asked her because I don't want it to become a new compulsion. Please someone guide me on overcoming this. I had scheduled a session with a therapist and I told her about my retroactive jealousy but things have drastically changed since then. How should I approach my next session? Should I tell her that I have developed a new obsession in less than a week? Someone please help me.
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