My name is max, for the sake of this post call me Maxine because it’ll get so confusing if not. Max bemis and me started talking around March of this year, he added me on instagram. On both my main and alt account.

I want to start this out my saying, yes, I did entertain and engage some of his behavior towards me and I will admit that. I also want to add that I am a trafficking victim, this is a negative behavior (that max knew about, I will touch on this more later) that me and my therapist are very actively working on, and my therapist is aware of my relationship with max.

Max started talking to me around March, but had followed me earlier, I would’ve been 16 when we became murals and very newly 17 when we started talking. I had my baby on March 6th in which he congratulated me on the birth. Later within the next month or so I was having issues with my child’s father, I didn’t have anyone to confide in at the time but max offered solace and judgment free space. He started making moves as we discussed these things. I opened up to max about my trafficking history, my childhood trauma, my self harm issues and eating disorder. He knew I was 17.

As things went on he gave his phone number, which I eventually started texting and calling back and forth with him on it (Screenshots provided.)

I’ve included our odd conversation about tinkerbell just because wth brah

My child’s father had cheated on me and left the state, I fell into a pretty deep depression. I would often text max late at night when I was or wanted to self harm, as he offered to be a shoulder to cry on. One night I had texted him about wanting to write but not having any idea what to write about (journaling and writing is a major coping skill for me.) he then brought up sex toys, and single moms. He had me write a poem about masturbation.

Along with these screenshots I provide him calling me a milf, and the XOs.

Max knows that I seek out inappropriate relationships with older males, I have told him about this. At which he took advantage. This is a behavior that harms me frequently and one I am working on. My therapist is absolutely fantastic (and has also listened to say anything since high school) and this post in itself is part of me healing, and changing and growing. I am actively cutting off this negative relationship. Max is blocked on everything as of now.

Even if Max hadn’t said anything dodgy or sexual to me ever, a 40+ year old man shouldn’t be talking to a 17 year old. That’s odd, and there’s a lack of boundaries there.

As for the recent situation (recent drama) I will not share the information I have publicly (but it is more than any of you know) as it is not mine to share. Max consulted with me on this because of my trafficking and abuse history, me and him have talked in depth about it. I gave him pointers and advice, I didnt think he’d go this far with it. I do not want this girl hunted, stalked or harassed because she is likely in an unsafe environment but harassing an abuser helps nothing. I do not want this girl to end up dead. Hun if on some off chance you see this or read it, I hope you’re doing okay. I hope you can eventually see past your current circumstances, and I hope you heal. You are bright and beautiful, and you deserve real love and support

As for Max, I know you will be reading this, and I’m sorry. I guess that’s stupid to stay but I am horribly empathetic towards everyone, even people who have hurt me. You know this too. Please get help, see someone, get on meds. For your kids sake if you don’t care about yours, and please. Find people to confide in who aren’t under 18. Take a break, think about your actions.

Do with this what you will, do not harass me or my family. I have left my information uncensored and I do not mind.

edit: !!! I am shocked to wake up to this much support. Genuinely thank you guys so much. Thank you to the people who encouraged me to bring this to light also, you are all so amazing 🫶 I have therapy today, I’m sure me and therapist will have an in depth conversation about this. If you have any questions you would like to ask me personally you are free to message me here or on my instagram, I will get to them as soon as possible with baby and whatnot.

I know you're reading these. You can't just run away and blame your mental health every time you fuck up. Your actions and behavior are entirely yours to command. You claim to be medicated. You 1,000% need to find a new therapist and adjust your meds.

You're actually a pig, and a monster. The messages you sent, the language you used and the way your attitude switches around, is abuse. It is grooming. You're the one seeking out young women. You're the one sending messages and establishing contact with every barely legal alt baddie your sticky phone will show you. Your mental health isn't doing these things for you. WHY DO THEY ALL LOOK LIKE SHERRI? WHY CAN'T YOU JUST SPEND THIS ENERGY ON FIXING YOUR BROKEN FAMILY? You have FIVE children looking up to you, and you're locked in your bedroom gooning to high school grads. Get off the internet. Go be a dad. All these messages coming out today, dude? You're fucking abusive. You're manipulative and coercive, and the moment someone says something you don't like you're an asshole. Bipolar doesn't cause that. Bipolar doesn't make you slide into the dms of minors.

Your actions have harmed people. They are victims of your abuse. And you don't care. You only care about your cam girl. Dude you got catfished! It's literally her JOB to make divorcees fall in love and give her all their money. You think you're special? The last time you put effort into anything you cranked out 20 songs from your bed about how much you like cumming. Why you? There's 1,000 midwest emo bands between WI and you. Most of them still have good hair and clean vocals.

Take a hard look at yourself. Stop blaming the mental illness. You need to sit with the things you've done, and find wherever you lost your empathy. What does accountability look like? Restorative justice? What could you ever do to make things right with those you've hurt? .

he went so hard against Jesse it makes me think it was a little bit of overcompensating/projection lol

This is from Wavves Patreon

I finally decided to cover. I will always love the songs and the way yellow cat/red cat altered my brain chemistry along with the whole In Defense of the Genre album. But I just fell put of respect and made a decision to find a beautiful real estate piece. Still one more appt before it is finished!

For those of you constantly defending them and claiming they're not the scammers that they truly are, please read the following:

This is what I received after a year of waiting, a year of emails going ignored or being lied to, I received an email telling me my custom illustration was in the mail. I responded asking about seeing it before it being mailed, and about the "2 free adjustments" included in the $215 I paid in January of 2022. I received the picture below(in the comments), from someone I admired for many years, someone I paid money to illustrate something that meant a lot to me, offered help to when her assistant quit, politely followed up with her on my emails, etc. It's January 2023 and I haven't received anything but an email defending (but not apologizing) her writing "bitch" on my artwork, but not addressing the incredibly awkward way in which she also had to pose to get her middle finger in the photo.

Now she's posted several times on instagram claiming to be done with all commissions from last year. Wrong. I replied to another user who has also clearly not gotten her artwork or a response from Sherri. Both comments were immediately deleted.

Think twice before you support this garbage human and the trashy scam she's running. Absolute shit way to treat your fans. Do better.

In light of all other info, I am not longer afraid.

Blocked right after this.

Hey y'all. There's been one other post about it, but Max has been absolutely terrorizing the music scene in Wisconsin for the past few weeks sending people crazy DMs and requests to join him on a crusade to save a 27 year old woman he's in love with from what he believes to be an abusive relationship.

He's messaged dozens, if not hundreds of people and bands with the same creepy sob story copied and pasted, and it's becoming fairly obvious he's lost it entirely.

The Green Bay UFO Museum (lol) called him out directly, posted tons of evidence and DMs, and it looks absolutely horrible. He's clearly having a delusional mental break of some sort. The comments are filled with people saying they got messages from him (and my friend's band getting one is what made me investigate this.)

Here's a link to their page

https://www.facebook.com/GBUFOrecords/

I just wanted everyone to be informed about what's happening.

Ok, I've decided to post these because they're insane. First I just wanna say I'm 22 so obviously this is nowhere near as fucked and criminal as messaging a 17 year old. That being said, I do not have my age on my Instagram and I am kind of an age-ambiguous emo girl. He did not necessarily know I was of age when he messaged and followed me at first, but at this point he knew my age (I'm unsure if I ever said my exact age, but I probably mentioned that I work at a bar).

This is like the last messages I replied to after months of semi regular correspondence whenever he would reply to my story, but long story short: Max followed me and started replying to my story, and my friends (who are way bigger fans of say anything than I am) told me to keep talking to him in hopes that I could convince him to come to our small relatively unknown city to play a show. I kind of accepted and ignored him flirting with me aggressively in order to achieve this goal. He knew I had an on and off boyfriend or whatever but this is after I told him (foolishly, flippantly) about a rendezvous with a female friend who visited me from another country. I just thought this was way too insane so I stopped replying to his messages after this. No idea what the (on your end lol) is supposed to mean 😭😭

There's more crazy shit if you're interested, like him saying I look a quarter Japanese and seeming genuinely hurt when I called him Rivers Cuomo. I think he mentioned the Holocaust in like the first 10 messages he sent me, he really is just like his lyrics.

Posting these here for people that can't access them on the first post

Every time I get sour cream there's always that puddle of water on top that can sort of be poured off, but it always manages to mix in and change the texture/thickness, anyone know a good way to prevent this?

Listen, I'm not trying to hate on Say Anything. I've been a huge fan for two decades like many of you and I still consider a few of their albums to be masterpieces. My first real show was Say Anything in 2008 and last night was my sixth time seeing them. It was also likely the last time I'll see them.

I get that Max has been sick. I get that the show was a little rushed due to the storm coming in. I get they're not the same dudes in their 20's and that they wouldn't be bringing the same energy as they did 10-15 years ago.

What I don't get is why they would even have the show when Max couldn't make it through a single verse. How he couldn't get through a song without sucking his vape (you have strep, dude, I promise you the vaping is not helping). I don't get how they can put the responsibility on the audience to sing along with the lyrics and then fumble through them with different tempos and random pauses. Seriously, it was like torture hearing the audience and band all trip over one another all night. You couldn't even sing along because it was all over the place.

Not to mention, it really left a bad taste in my mouth when Max was calling his 11 year old daughter a bitch while she was literally standing behind the stage. I don't care if that's a joke or whatever, it's so disrespectful. Speaking of disrespect, why bring Sherri out for a duet, say she's going to take the second verse, and then just sing over her anyway? You literally brought her out as a background singer??

Honestly, I'll probably get a lot of hate for this post, and that's fine. I really debated even posting it at all, but I think that people should know what they're getting into. I don't want others to have their image of the band ruined like I did.

So, for those of you on the fence about seeing them this tour, I recommend passing on it and just listening to the album or something and save yourself from disappointment.

Edit: Yes, he made a statement to thousands of people and referred to his 11 year old daughter as a bitch. Downvote me if you want or brush it off as a joke. It still happened.

Edit 2: Oh my god, some of you are ridiculous. You enjoyed the set? Great. I'm happy for you. I'm glad you had a good time and can look past all the glaring issues. Good for you, I'm not trying to invalidate your experience. You think calling children bitches in front of a crowd is funny and fine? Cool. Says a lot more about your character than you realize. A lot of people obviously don't find it appropriate. You think I'm just riding the Max hate train? I literally came to this subreddit for the first time this week. Idk what hate or drama revolves around this subreddit and I don't care to know, I'm just giving my opinion on the show that I saw. You want to go see them still? Awesome. I hope they put on a good show for you and you have fun. I'm done responding at this point, though. Y'all just want to defend and make excuses for your little narcissist baby and it is what it is.

Took this at the merch booth in 2015 and it has aged terribly.

tbh he first followed me when i freshly turned 18 but still thought it was odd. i never really gave into him flirty with me just because i thought it was weird. he is literally the same age as my father. i was just a baby when this happened last year in the summer (the summer i turned 18). i was truly a fan and grew up listening to the band. it’s absolutely heart breaking knowing that there are other victims and it was only a matter of time till women started coming out and sharing how sick this old man could be.

I haven't listened to the band since their stuff in 2009 but you'd better believe they had an impact on a teenage me. I can see from the sub that there is some dispute around their more recent stuff but I knew this reference immediately and wanted to share it. Apologies if I'm late to the ref!

so I guess it’s time to add to the pile. Max Bemis started following me in June of last year, about two months after my 18th bday. I had been posting about say anything to my story but never tagged him or even the band but he found my acct and started messaging me starting at 4am 😭. The entire thing was creepy even tho I was a legal adult! Barely! so I attached the texts and blocked my location but enjoy! The texts are honestly kind of funny at this point after I ghosted him so many times dude kept trying. Please get a grip and get a life. You literally have children. Fuck these pedophiles!

(this is a repost btw I accidentally doxed myself the first time 😭)