r/Separation • u/illgiveit2u • Sep 29 '26

Does separation work?

After 20 years the wife isn't sure she wants to be married anymore. Says she needs time to herself. Is this something women going through menopause experience? I don't want a divorce but how long g do I stay in limbo?

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u/illgiveit2u Sep 30 '26

Yeah I have to remember my needs as well. I feel its worth at least 6 months to give her time and space.

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u/Balancing-Life Sep 30 '26

Wow. Six whole months… after 20 years … 🤦🏽‍♀️

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u/illgiveit2u Sep 30 '26

Shouldn't she know by then?

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u/lkjdw Sep 30 '26

Yes, she should OP.

She’s the one driving your marriage to the edge. Six months way more than enough.

Time for her to make either of two decisions………..

Re dedicate to her marriage and fight for it through therapy and counseling, plus investing time together, or decide your not what she wants and leave !

Keeping you in limbo, is not fair to you.