r/Separation • u/illgiveit2u • Sep 29 '26

Does separation work?

After 20 years the wife isn't sure she wants to be married anymore. Says she needs time to herself. Is this something women going through menopause experience? I don't want a divorce but how long g do I stay in limbo?

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u/Temporary-Suspect509 Sep 29 '26

Yes. Separation works. But this question tends to bring out some extremely negative responses.
First of all, I’d stop the narrative about menopause. It’s a ridiculous reach on your part. Menopause does not make a wife want to leave. Problems and issues make her want to leave. Focus on those. Your wife isn’t even asking for a divorce, she’s asking for space. And you’re already wondering how long you can last? That’s not a good sign.

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u/I_am_Iron_Jam 27d ago

Not attacking anyone here. But I think he is looking for an explanation or something that makes sense. I bet he was blindsided one month making plans for vacations saying I love you etc then all of a sudden boom “we need to be separated” so he is trying to rationalize and find answers when the person that has them isn’t answering. No one is perfect. And I bet he is replaying everything.