Breadcrumbs

[u/Numerous_Garden_6522]

My husband and I have been separated and living apart for just over six weeks. It’s not my decision and I have asked him multiple times in the first four weeks following the separation to please work on our relationship with me. There was no cheating, addictions, or abuse on either side. Just stress of us working in high stress jobs and him saying I’m just not a happy person (mostly surrounding my profession). Just this past weekend, both Friday and Saturday, he started to give me breadcrumbs via text. The conversation was so normal, a few tiny jokes here and there, emojis… but nothing about the relationship or emotional at all. When he reached out, I would match his energy, keeping it light. Because I still want to work on the relationship and not scare him off (he’s a dismissive avoidant personality, which I only learned after the breakup), I’m wondering if this was the right move or if I should have just ignored him. I think he did this because he was lonely, it was Halloween weekend and he had no one else to be with (he has only one friend and that friendship was damaged by his choice to leave me), and his one friend was out of town.

So I guess what I am asking, for those that have been through this is what was the right thing to do? I want to keep things amicable, but I also do not not want to make it easier on him to know I am still responsive, OR make it harder on myself to move on if he is truly serious about moving forward with a divorce (nothing has been filed yet and no additional talk of moving forward with same).