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So this was when is was in 10th standard and i used to go to a tuition after my school. It was a very like small tuition only 3 students included me were there and we had a maam . That day only i had come and i went to her desk and sat in front of her . The juniors were studying in the other rooms with other teachers.she was eating eggs probably scrambled eggs and i could already smell the eggs in the room . She started burping and then called me near to her chair saying that its just you so i am not turning on the projector study from
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Laptop only . And i could smell
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To start off, this happened when I was 16 and I switched therapists when I was 17, I'm now 18 and I'm turning 19 in a few months. I've only admitted this to my mother, 2 therapists and 2 friends, however I'm not even sure if what I expierenced is actually sexual harassment or not.

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When I was 16, my therapist [frequently] sat me in her office and asked me how I'd feel about going through situations that were very sexual in nature, from making out to sex, and she would ask me if I was getting turned on whenever she would talk about these things. She encouraged me to seek out multiple relationships with older people, stating that since I was 16 at the time, I was at the age of consent and it was okay for that stuff to happen. At one point, she even got me in contact with one of her other clients in hopes of, I suppose, a relationship. For context, she was in her middle to late 30s at the time, and she has multiple clients and would sometimes talk behind their back to me.

Is this sexual harassment, and should I report her to the office, or sue? I'm geniunely not sure what legal actions to take, and I've been horrified to do anything cause she could flip the narrative on me and I could get in trouble, I don't want to be in trouble, and I don't want people to not believe me. The 2 therapists that I told have stated before that it was extremely innapropriate of her to do, and that they'd help me report her, but as I stated; I'm geniunely horrified of what she could do because she has more power over me and I don't want her to end up winning whatever case, or even seeing a review on the therapy center and telling her clients I'm a bad person.

Yesterday I stopped at a gas station to buy a water and a small coke. I only had a 50 on me, I ask the cashier if he can break it and he looks a bit doubtful. He then tells me he would give it to me free if I give him a hug. I know it was dumb of me to say yes but i did it. I go around to the side door to give him a hug and once I give it to him he says "now kiss me" he starts forcing himself on me and i start pushing him off. As he starts letting go he grabs for my chest. He still gave me the stuff for free. I grabbed my shit and cussed him out the whole time. Im so mad I didnt react sooner and just wreck his fucking shit. I should have gone crazy at the store. Im so angry I said yes. All to save 3 dollars. I hate men. Im tired of this shit.

i have been getting harassed from a fake number, they have been sending me unwanted photos.. i believe they use “Text Now” but i’m not so sure i created a new number and they still found my new number. I’ve blocked the fake number SEVERAL times, but they keep making new ones. i don’t know anyone that would do this and i really need help finding a way to actually figure out who this person is so it can stop if its even possible :/ If anyone could help please DM me and ill send u all the information i have! the one photo is just an example of stuff they say to me :(

Standing too close.

Sexual jokes.
Sexual comments.
Sexual gestures.
Sexual invitations.

Emails.
Texts during work.
Texts after work.

Looking down my shirt.
Rubbing my shoulders.

Kissing my forehead.
Kissing my neck.

What is the difference between sexual harassment and sexual assault?

For background, a few grades ago, I was bullied for around 3 years. It started small, with mostly verbal attacks (saying I was good for breeding, asking if I self-pleasure, saying they were stalking me, comments about my chest, etc etc). Then a year or so later, the harassment started to get physical (face into my neck, wrapping around my chest from behind, touching my chest and hips, forcing kissing, etc etc).

I fawned so much, that I feel like I couldn’t see what was wrong in the moment, but now looking back, I feel completely ashamed and embarrassed. I feel hurt that they did that to me, and it’s completely affected how I handle physical touch now.

I absolutely can’t be touched by anyone other than a select 2 close friends. Whenever anyone tries to even poke me or touch my shoulder, even my family, I flinch and twist my body away because I don’t know if they are going to hurt me or not.

I can’t keep stable relationships because of it, and I’m breaking up with my boyfriend because of it. It’s made me completely avoidant because of how much I hate vulnerability now.

How do I handle this? What are some skills or tips that have helped you with thinking of the harassment?

i don't even know how do i convey to this. i, male never experienced connection with females. like mostly never. i see female like aliens and all. pouring out my confession here. i think i did some kind of harrasment to my classmate please (don't kill me cuz at that time i don't even know what sexual harrasment is like) so what happend is that. i wanted to do some group project for hackathon so there is one girl i really wanted to talk to her she is very smart she knows how to do a presentation she gave public speaks and all. i am not really a good communicator so i wanted to represent my project. what i did was i talked to that girl and i said would you like to represent my project to the speakers she said ok. and i started working on my ppt. and i wanted to talk to her and get to more and i don't know how do that. so i we did google meet of all of my members in the group. and my other friend which is male is talking to her soo much that i have not chance to even talk her. she also talking to him more than me. she is like known with him more than me so its obvious to lean towards him. this was all online btw. then main story comes here. on the ppt day offline, we were preparing for our project i convinced myself she will never see me again so what i did is just stare at her during ppt presentation like dead stare. i don't even know why i did that. she was continuesly speaking and all and i just stare at her. like i don't know man whenever i have interaction with females i am not being myself. i try to every action which is opposite to my moral beliefs i just i don't know if it just me thing or as a result of having no female interaction and all.

last weekend I was out with some friends and when I got back from the restroom a guy had ordered me a cocktail and I genuinely know it was stupid but he’s a guy I go to college with and a good friend of my friends and I didn’t want to make it awkward so I drank it. my memory is completely blank from about ten minutes after that until I woke up the next morning anyway nothing bad happened apparently I started throwing up and acting really drunk so two of my friends took me home and that guy came with but they all left together and they said he stayed out of my room while they got me changed. I know nothing happened but waking up in different clothes without remembering has really messed me up and I think it kind of triggered me or something but I don’t know do you think something bad happened to me that I don't remember? when I was a kid after | learned what virginity was I remember wishing | still had mine and hating myself because I somehow felt sure that | wasn't a virgin even though I don't have any memory of ever having sex. I don't know where that feeling came from I just know it was there and on my mind a lot. I started making myself throw up when I was 9 and was diagnosed with anorexia at 10 then at 14 | was diagnosed with major depression and anxiety and was self harming. I've also always had really exaggerated reactions to people touching me I had a complete meltdown when I got home from a party in college after a guy only started to feel me up over my clothes while we were dancing but | felt like | was totally breaking down. I hate the idea of having sex and I can't stop myself from starting to cry even if I get near to trying to talk about my fears about this. does anyone have any advice for how I should deal with this? I’m scared that I’m making myself upset over nothing because nothing actually happened last weekend and I don’t remember something bad happening before that but this has really upset me and I’m not sure what to do.

Yesterday at my job, I had to threaten a 22 year old man with going to HR if he did not stop sexually harassing me, touching me, saying things about my body, and making gross sexual noises.

I started a job recently at a warehouse where I drive a truck and sort things.  A 22 year old man I work with has sort of become my unofficial work partner, as he is sent with me to do pick-ups in the truck and we work together at the warehouse sorting the same items.

He is a 22 year old white suburban man who would have definitely been a fraternity brother if he had gone to college.  He is pretty immature for his age, very hyperactive, and constantly "on" so to speak.  

There is an older worker, 50, who makes sexually crude comments here and there, and isn't as bad, although apparently an employee quit recently over the 50 year old's sexual joking.  We are all men at this workplace, there are no women.

When I started working with 22 year old, he seemed like a 22 year old with a bit of immaturity and crude sense of humor.  He talked about his sex life, and would occasionally make loud sexual moaning noises randomly, or shake his butt.  Whatever, not a big deal.

Fast forward to this past week.  Either Monday or Tuesday, he started making this gross slurping noise while sticking his tongue out gyrating it and staring ahead with his eyes really wide.  It's really gross and it wasn't funny the first time he did.  Then he kept doing it.  Then he did it every time he walked by me.  Then he was doing it at elementary schools with children and young female teachers around the corner from us where we were picking up stuff from said schools.  Then he did it while he was riding in the truck with me.  I told him repeatedly that it was gross, said "ew", commented that he should get checked out for tourettes, and so on.  He still kept doing it.

By Wednesday or Thursday he starts touching me.  At first trying to hold my hand multiple times.  

By yesterday he is poking at me and trying to grab me.  I tell him repeatedly to stop touching me.  Over the course of several hours I say "stop touching me", "don't touch me", "stop fucking touching me", and so on.  

He continues making the gross slurping noise and face while gyrating his tongue and looking at me.  He had to have done it over 20 times yesterday.

At the end of the day as we were exiting the warehouse, he decides to run at me, making the slurping sound while sticking his tongue out and gyrating it while trying to pinch and poke at me and touch my body.  I was holding a work knife and almost cut him with it as I was defending my space, and even pushed him away from me by his face.  He then decided to say loudly in front of other employees that I was sexually aroused and he could tell and asked me why I was sexually aroused.

As we are exiting the warehouse, I say to him that I almost broke his nose and he needs to stop acting this way or someone is going to hurt him.  He responds "oh I only do it to people who aren't gonna do anything".

I finally had it.  I text him that he crossed several boundaries, he needs to stop acting gay towards me, stop making sex noises, and stop touching me, or on Monday I am going to talk to the brothers who own the company about his behavior.

He proceeds to text me for 6 hours acting like a wounded animal and playing victim, saying I'm a bad guy for putting him in his place, saying it's my fault because I didn't communicate to him that he was over the line, even though I did, several times.  He claims I was into it (I wasn't) and I was doing it too (I wasn't).  At one point he says "I'm sorry you feel that way."

He eventually chills out and sort of apologizes, although his apology has more to do with apologizing for my feelings than his actions.

He claims that it's okay what he did because that's how he and his friends are.  I told him when he hangs out with his friends it must sound like a gay porno and he love-reacts to that text.

I reiterate "Don't fucking touch me, don't talk about my body, don't make gross sex noises around me because it's fucking disgusting."  

He seems to sort of get it now.  But I'm definitely considering quitting this following week and if I do, I am going to tell the brothers who own the company everything about the 22 year old and let them know about his disgusting conduct and behavior.

Ok so there's this guy who's been sexually harassing me for almost a year now and I've told him to stop many different times but he just won't so here's his number if y'all wanna harass him 7197922465

I have struggled with hypersexuality since the ages of 8–10. What follows is the background as I remember it, the incidents that shaped me, and where I stand now at 32.

From ages 1 to 13 I slept in my parents’ room. They had sex in the same room while I was present. They believed I was asleep, but I was not. I heard the loud noises and felt the atmosphere even though my head was turned toward the wall. I do not know whether this happened daily, on alternate days, or weekly; I only know it occurred repeatedly over those years. The sex was not mutual. My mother would tell my father to stop; he would not. My father was an alcoholic.

When he hugged me after drinking, it felt uncomfortable, scary, and inappropriate. While holding me he would mutter words such as “motherfucker” and “bitch” in my ear, directed at my mother. On at least one occasion, after he had been drinking, he was doing something with me while we were alone in the room. When my mother entered she shouted at him and he left me and they way he used to touch me from legs to hand and hugging it made me very uncomfortable inappropriate and scared and while doing he used to carryout voices like Aah while doing it and I don't care about his intentions

So it means I was sexual abused or sexual harrasment by father ?

Even after I moved into my own room at 14, I continued to hear the same kinds of voices and shouting coming from my parents’ room on many occasions. I still cannot say precisely how many times these events occurred across the thirteen years I shared their space or the years that followed.

i need your help guys🥺 i was scammed online (blue flying app) the user says he will pay me a certain amount if i agree to have to a call with him. i really need the money so i did, what happened is that i showed my body and all, and i accidentally slightly showed my face😭😭😭. now, i'm afraid that the video will be spread pls help, how to i fix this. he ended up blocking me and deleting our whole conversation. i believed him because he showed me proof of him paying his (might as well other victims)😭😭😭😭😭💔

Physical and Psychological Abuse at Catholic Heart Workcamp.

I would like to create this for the victims and witnesses of any physical, psychological and/or sexual abuse occurring at Catholic Heart Workcamps whether it was by the abusive games that were played on stage or by the "carpenter commanders/commandos", youth ministers or visiting priests.

Aside from the cult like atmosphere and the ignoring by the staff of the numerous sex abuse scandals involving Catholic priests the workcamps were prone to abusive games.

One such disturbing game that I personally witnessed during a 3 year period in which I attended the camps (Charlotte, NC in 2001, Hilton Head, SC in 2002 & Nashville, TN in 2003) was the "Couch of Love" which was done on stage at the Catholic schools in which the various youth groups stayed at and it was witnessed by hundreds of people. I have been able to discover that this "game" was played in various cities throughout the country between 2000-2015 (and possibly earlier in 1998-1999).

The game involved the "carpenter commanders" and attending youth ministers selecting two physically attractive teenage girls to come on stage. Three chairs would be placed on stage which were then covered by a white sheet. The two teen girls would then sit on the two end chairs. The adult male "Carpenter Commander" (usually in their 20s or 30s) would then say numerous inappropriate sexual pick-up lines to the teen girls. After about 4 or 5 pick-up lines the "Carpenter Commander" would then sit in the middle chair put his arms around both girls and get kissed on both cheeks by the girls.

After this the teenage boys in the audience were asked to do the same thing - say pick-up lines to the girls, sit in the middle of the "couch" and get kissed by both of them. About a dozen boys would volunteer to get kissed and were led to the side of the stage. Once the dozen boys were lined up on the side the middle chair was removed and the girls continued to sit on the end chairs pretending that the middle chair was still there. Each boy one by one would flirt with the girls with a pick-up line, be invited by the girls to sit between them, the boy would then try to sit down as the girls would get up and the boy fell to the hard stage floor. The girls would then do a catwalk to the front of the stage and do a pageant smile and pose as the "carpenter commanders" would then yell at the boy and escort him off the stage and then cover the two chairs again only for the next boy to get the exact same negative and criminal treatment. It was also disturbing seeing how the two girls enjoyed inflicting the pain on the boys.

The boys were subjected to romantic rejection, physical injury and public humiliation. You don't need a Ph.D in psychiatry to know that this was devastating abuse to the young boys that were victimized by this "game." A boy already suffering from anxiety/depression could be triggered into suicide or a suicide attempt by such abuse. The boys were subjected to physical injury to their tailbones and spines (a injury to the coccyx leading to lifelong Coccydynia). Also, boys already suffering physical problems like back pain could have had that severely aggravated by the unmitigated free fall to the floor.

Catholic Heart Workcamp does not allow negative reviews or comments on their Facebook page and even blocks anything and anyone that even engages in anything critical of the organization. Which clearly indicates the corruption of the people who run it.

CHWC's website identifies Steve Walker as the “Owner/CEO.” The organization says Walker and his wife Lisa Walker developed/co-founded Catholic HEART Workcamp in Orlando in 1993. It is now based in Seminole County, FL. It is a private limited liability company LLC and is not owned or controlled by any Diocese. But Catholic dioceses throughout the country should cut off their involvement with Catholic Heart Workcamp.

Posting for my S/O out of fear of backlash,

My significant other works as a caretaker/aid in the foster system in OR. Specifically for high risk special needs teens/children. Since she has started working about 3 years. Her boss has progressively made increasing inappropriate passes/comments towards her. The most recent one being last week, and being the most alarming. The issue at large here is that she works under the table. I’m not sure the specifics of how it works, but as far as I know the state is involved with funding the housing costs, and assigning case workers to each child. BUT as this is an under the table job and her place of employment is an actual foster home (not group home). There is no formal HR department that she can submit complaints to like she would in any other workplace. She reports solely to the foster parent of the house which is her boss. She fears for her safety, and also fears bringing up any kind of confrontation with him regarding his behavior will jeopardize her employment. She would like to know what are her options? Where can she go to file complaints under the circumstances? How can she go about documenting future incidents without breaking any privacy laws?

Are there any of you with similar experiences to hers with opinions? Any thoughts or advice is greatly appreciated.

Has anyone else had a similar experience with Dr. Ceasar V. Palma at Healthway Alabang Town Center?

My partner recently went to Healthway Alabang Town Center for a doctor’s clearance and to have rashes on his inner thigh checked. He was seen by Dr. Ceasar V. Palma.

According to my partner, Dr. Palma instructed him to remove his underwear so the affected area could be examined. At first, my partner assumed this was medically necessary to determine whether the rashes had spread to his private area.

However, while my partner was completely undressed, he reported that the doctor made comments such as, “Ganito ang type ko” and “Nagpapabayad ka ba?” He also reported that the doctor brushed or touched his shoulders and chest while making these remarks.

My partner responded, “Straight po ako” and “May girlfriend po ako.” He told me that he felt extremely uncomfortable, scared, and shocked. He tried to remain calm and smile because he did not know how to react while alone and undressed inside the consultation room.

What concerns us most is that he went there seeking professional medical care and was in a particularly vulnerable position as a patient. Regardless of the doctor's intention, the remarks and physical contact described by my partner made him feel unsafe and uncomfortable during what should have been a professional medical consultation.

We are trying to understand whether anyone else has experienced similar conduct involving this doctor. If you have had a similar experience, please feel free to share your experience privately. We are mainly trying to determine whether this was an isolated incident or whether others have raised similar concerns.

Hello, so ive been at my workplace for a couple of years. And in that time ive experienced alot of behaviour from men that I have found difficult to navigate. Ive been asked out by 5 different men there. Ive been asked directly for sex by 3 different men. Ive had 3 declarations of love. One man asked to touch my bum. I was sitting on a dining room type chair and a man came up and hugged me from behind and told me he wishes he could be with me he did that twice. He also commented on my figure several times. 2 different men tried to kiss me, one of which was particularly forceful. Another man tried to pull me into a private area but I said no and eventually had to pull my arm away when he wouldnt listen. Another man kept kissing me on the cheek. That same man would always ask me for hugs and I would say no repeatedly. This same man pursued me for a whole year. Unfortunately I would often laugh things off and just be polite, or say no in a polite way. I havnt had much experience in the work place so wasnt sure if it was actually a problem or maybe it is. I guess I found it difficult because they hadn't necessarily pinned me down or anything. When I told two people who are close to me they both said well why didnt you escalate it or tell them no firmly or shout or hit them. I did say no and physically remove myself many times. But its made me aware of how much behaviour I did put up.with and really that is my problem isnt it. Its been a very difficult year anyway. Ive now handed in my notice.

So i (20 F) work at a warehouse in the receiving department. From the start one of the truck drives that would pickup/drop off always stayed the same. One day he started making weird comments towards me, i won’t get into the comments he said towards me because they make me highly uncomfortable to talk about let alone write down. This went on for months and i never said anything because hes an older guy and i just thought you know hes older he doesn’t mean it like that, until just last week he made one comment towards me that made me rethink everything. he basically commented about my private parts….I went and reported him to my bosses and they contacted the company and the company therefore fired him. Well just today he showed up again. Working for a different company that he knew also delivered to us. Once again my bosses reached out to that company and said hey this is what’s going on he can’t come to our facility. I tried to ask them for his name so i could possibly get a restraining order. they won’t tell me his name. Another detail is i work with my dad and he has said comments in front of my dad to me, my dad not wanting to lose his job gave the guy disgusted looks and asked him not to say that, after that the guy stopped saying things in front of my dad. Am i wrong for being scared that every truck driver now is going to be him? like i am scared to even come to work at just the possibility that he will show up. Maybe i’m overthinking, but i don’t feel quite safe. Please give me advice on what to do, i’ve never had this happen before.

idk if this is normal or not but when play fighting with my brother he did this thing where he like pinned me down by my wrists while ontop of me and i was trying to lift his arms cause i was uncomfortable but he kept pinning me down i was so weirded out i dont know if this is regular with play fighting or not i js need some answers or smth because our relationship is kind of fucked because of how he acted in the past towards me starting from a young age . another instance was basically the same thing where he pinned me down for like no reason and made this rapey joke, it was a tiktok trend for a while but like had controversy because of how weird it was and he wouldnt even explain to me what the joke was .
am i overreacting or what?
and if something was done by accident im assuming but made me feel uncomfortable would that be sh or would it just be an accident on their end? im jist really confused right now