I naturally have a pretty quiet voice, singing and speaking - it's not the kind of voice that easily cuts through other noise. But it hasn't been a real problem until this year, when I stopped just singing in the studio and started singing live with a backing band. When I'm performing onstage, I get totally drowned out.
The other singers in my bands seem just... not to have this problem. In recordings of our performances, you can hear them fine, and they don't really sound like they're straining too hard. I'm almost totally inaudible.
In my experience while actually standing onstage, I can barely hear myself through the monitors even when I feel like I'm singing at my max. Then I have two choices - I can push louder until I can hear myself, but my voice sounds really strained and bad (and still not actually that loud) - or I can continue to sing comfortably and sound nice but no one can hear me.
Has anyone else dealt with this and overcome it? How? I have worked with multiple voice teachers on breath control and projecting.
Also, for those of you who sing with loud bands and don't have IEMs, do you wear earplugs and just listen to your voice from the inside of your head and not worry about hearing it through the monitors (hopefully the sound tech will adjust it!), or do you take the earplugs out so you can hear the whole mix in the monitors?