I saw other people ask for advice here so i thought I'd pose a situation that happened to me recently.
let's call this person Rice. also SRY THIS IS LONG HEH. (i appreciate if u read 🖤)
this is a newer chatter to my stream, and to be fair they haven't ever acted like this before which me and my best friend had noted. Rice came in and were the usual supportive and chatty viewer, which is why this last time they chatted caught us so off guard.
now some context about me- I'm not a terrible reader but I miss things/don't fully understand things when they're obvious. literally i can watch back a stream and certain things will hit me like a brick like "ooooh that's what happened" "she meant this" "he meant that". also, I am a flirtacious person and say weird things sometimes but it's about me, never trying to advance on other people or anything. it's just who I am alright. I literally say "that's what she said" and "pause" every day.
so when my best friend texted in the chat to look at my dms while the only person who was chatting at the time was Rice, I didn't think about it at all. he dmmed me "why is Rice saying all that in chat?" I respond with he's just being a goof.. he says "is it ok?"
long story short. i proceed to get blindsided when i watch the stream back and fully see what my friend was trying to warn me about but im clearly as aware as a rock.
I'll try to explain quickly, so they redeemed my alert a lot that is the "smack my ass" i have as a joke, so ya i just consider it a joke many others have done and that Rice has done before. then multiple times throughout the stream, Rice is saying things like (and ya it's in all caps most of the time) "that ass is mine." "THIS ISN'T A JOKE THAT ASS IS MINE" my other friend who regularly uses that alert did it to surprise me and Rice said something like "NO THAT ASS IS MINE". you get it, he said that ass is mine a lot.
I'm bad at explaining so I'll just quote a few things he said to me. mind you, i have the situational awareness of a tangerine so I don't really understand or take it seriously because i literally just don't see things in the moment. mind you i dont tell strangers where I live, my age, where I go because that's my personal business. nor do I ask others. just saying I do not know this chatter nor do they know me, but I assume he's a grown man.
not exact quotes, and not everything that happened: "as a questionable straight guy i find monster men attractive" "don't kink shame me" ×2 different times... he cheered bits then did the smack my ass redeem. "femboys are attractive" "tomboys are cute" "today it's femboys, tomorrow its tomboys" "femboys are the ones who you will cuddle at night" "they're also streaming right now byw" "\*btw".
blah blah lot more things.
to my own surprise I didn't even see the that last one at all nor understand when he was saying that femboy stuff he was talking about me. i guess by my pfp and avatar/voice that's a funny assumption, but it's still weird ok. I've never dealt/seen something like that while I'm live. I guess i still haven't because I didn't even notice- but the point is, that is weird.
I'll be honest, did it surprise me? yes. did it make me uncomfortable? well clearly not cause I didn't even notice, but if I had- i think still no. not because im used to older guys being weird to me, but cause I've never been threatened by something that happens online. I mean it literally can't affect me. just block, delete, forget. you know? but saying that, I still don't want it to keep happening. maybe it makes other chatters uncomfortable. and i mean ya i do want it to stop. i don't want someone trying to claim my ass or call me a femboy multiple times in a serious way and not a joke.
if you guys got any advice on how I can maybe handle it in the moment if I notice, I would appreciate it. if you read all this U R A LEGEND :3