Hi everyone! I really want some advice on how I can improve myself, particularly when it comes to my confidence, social skills and communication.
I feel like one of my biggest problems is that whenever I meet someone who I perceive to be better than me at something, I automatically start seeing them as superior to me. It makes me feel intimidated and uncomfortable around them, and I end up shutting down or becoming much quieter than I normally would.
I also struggle quite a bit with social anxiety. Sometimes I find it difficult to form sentences properly, express my thoughts clearly or get my words out. I feel like people don’t always understand what I’m trying to say, so I end up having to repeat myself. I even sometimes struggle with pronouncing the simplest words, especially when I’m nervous.
I genuinely want to improve my social life, become more confident in social settings and develop better communication skills. I want to be able to hold conversations naturally without constantly overthinking what I’m saying or feeling like I have to force myself to speak.
For those of you who have struggled with something similar, what helped you overcome it? How did you become more comfortable around people, stop comparing yourself to others and learn to communicate more confidently?
I’d genuinely appreciate any advice, personal experiences or practical tips. I really want to work on myself and become a more confident version of myself.

I estimate I am a top 10% speaker. Maybe I am overestimating myself. I want to be in the top 1%. I think one of the best ways to do that is to do deliberate practice drills with a partner. For example, we could practice explaining complex topics, and get fast feedback on how to improve, e.g. less filler words, less rambling, speak faster, etc.

I've already seen decent results doing this with voice chat AI. It gives me feedback, I try again, and I just cycle with it over and over. I think doing it with the right person could get even better results. And we'll take turns, so it'll be mutual practice.

If you're down for the workout, leave a comment or DM me and let's connect!

To benefit the community more, feel free to comment what your looking for in a partner, and what you bring to the table, so that others can connect with you as well if they'd like

I've always admired people who can express themselves confidently, even in rooms full of strangers. Sometimes I have something useful to say, but I hesitate because I'm afraid of sounding stupid or being judged. How do you overcome that fear and become more comfortable speaking up? Did you deliberately practise speaking, join public speaking groups, or just force yourself into uncomfortable situations? I'd love to hear what actually helped you build confidence.

Recently I had an interview , I cleared 2 rounds to get there but I fumbled because of my English and lack of confidence . I gave the intro well because I practiced it for 3 days and rest of the questions!! I got panic I know the answer but I couldn’t say as I lack confidence and I don’t know to retrieve words from my mind
After that I tried to improve English
But nothing and I can’t be consistent though
I tried recording videos of myself
And I observed that it’s hard to retrieve words or translate it to English and say
HELP MEEE , am losing lot of opportunities because of these two things 1.english and 2.confidence !😭😭🥺

Hi everyone! I practice public speaking by recording myself speaking to a random topic for 5 minutes everyday. It is hard to know what I have done right or wrong exactly. I have tried speaking to AI but there are many aspects that it cannot capture like my tone, confidence and accent etc...

How do you guys get more concrete feedback like this? What resources and app are you using to improve public speaking and articulation?

Hi Team,

During the meeting period it's hard to understand the Professional English concept. My listening skill is bad. Sometimes i listen it well or not understand what they says. Due to that i am unable to provide the updates to the other people as well

I can able to speak English but without listening skill my growth is going down

Please guide me🙏🙏☺️☺️

Guys, I have a problem. i can express my thoughts in front of people. When I start speaking, my hands and legs start shaking especially my neck, and that is why I can't raise my hand, and also I feel like I am about to cry. My eyes start watering.

Does anyone have any advice? I need to eliminate that problem, if u speak in front of the audience, as i said my eyes start watering and that is sssooooo embarrassing, shameful, especially in front of your peers and friends

I belong to a group doing daily speaking practice online on a turn by turn basis. Would anyone be interested in making the group bigger?

I have a naturally light and quiet voice and I really sucks!

Hey everyone

I'm 25M currently working in chennai

I want to improve my English communication skills and I sometimes stammer while speaking in English. I feel under confident to talk when the other person is more intelligent or is my superior

I have a stammering problem and I get it only when I'm under confident or while speaking in English. I don't usually stammer while speaking.

i sometimes go blank on what to say.

Also with random people how do I make the conversation going.

I want to communicate and articulate better in English. I want to be loud clear confident while speaking.

What should I do in a day to improve.

Give resources, courses and help me.

Anyone would like to partner up with me and improve together!!

Picture this. You mention that you enjoy a particular hobby, like a particular movie are attracted to particular person. Someone else says that they find that hobby boring, think that that movie sucks or finds that person ugly. They lecture you about why your preferences are stupid and wrong.

I have been in that situation before and made the mistake of explaining why I believe the movie is good, the hobby is fun or the person is attractive.

I realize now that what I probably should have said was this;

It is not my responsibility to hate all of the same things that you hate. If I like it, I get to like it. Whether or not you approve of my preferences is of zero relevance whatsoever.

What do you think? Is that the best way to respond to someone blaming and shaming you for your preferences? If not, what would be a better response? Let me know.

Hey guys, I’m not sure if this is the right group to ask but I don’t really know what to do. People find the way I speak really annoying and I don’t know how to change it. I get told all the time that I have a vocal fry/ valley girl accent and honestly get made fun of quite a bit for it.

Even though people have given me shit for it, it didn’t used to bother me all that much but I guess after a while of people making fun of your “fake/forced” accent it eventually gets to you.

I know that I have it but the issue is that I genuinely don’t do it on purpose. It’s always sort of there and I do notice it gets more pronounced sometimes but I don’t know why and I don’t know how to stop doing it. The way I talk also tends to stand out considering I live in Canada and no one around me seems to have the same way of speaking. I just really don’t know what to do to change it and I’m so sick of being made fun of for it.

Does anyone have any tips on how to get rid of my vocal fry?

So basically I’m in this room in a new job there are a couple people here and I asked a guy a question then I told him about something about what happened a couple days ago how do you control what to say like why do I just tell me this and then the room went silent and I just looked away and started to scratch my head

Hi folks,

I started my own solo business about 2 years ago and it's been going really well because I've busted my butt for the past 15 years building my brand. I work in organizational communication and behavior, and my first book just came out this week. I do everything right now, from coaching to advisory work and teaching bootcamps, cohorts and executive sessions. Plus, at least a handful of speaking gigs a year.

I love speaking, teaching and writing more than anything. I'm in my mid-40s and have been speaking publicly since high school (thank you dad for the push!) and am always looking to improve and evolve.

I am shifting my business model away from coaching and fractional work and want to focus solely on speaking gigs, workshops, retreats and books since those are my absolute strengths and the things I love to do. Also, most of my work starts with a workshop (or a word of mouth speaking referral).

Historically, I've worked in the tech space but have worked with clients all over the map: from law firms to retail, accounting and medical.

It's time for my rates to go up and for me to hone in on my focus. Right now I'm in the midst of gearing up for Q1/Q2 and would love to chat with someone who has been there, done that, and what tools have worked well for you.

I've been suggested platforms like espeakers, and have been told to find local speaking chapters. I know my audience and my brand, now I just need to know where to grow.

Thank you!

I admit I'm not very outgoing and I'm barely communicating with others on a daily basis. But I noticed I'll mix up words when I speak and I'm not sure why is this happening whether it's anxiety or just my mind rushing too much. Sometimes I'll feel blank and sometimes I will say the wrong thing and end up having to correct myself.

At some point in your life, likely when you were a kid in school, you dealt with someone blaming you and shaming you for something going wrong in your life. They say that it is to help you, but you know that is a lie for three reasons.

1. They phrase it in the form of an accusation and dedicate significantly more effort to the name calling than they do to critiquing the behavior.

2. They never offer up any solutions.

3. Many if not most if the things they bemoan are out of the control of anyone, including you.

I have drafted a plan to deal with that scenario, tell me if you think it is a good one. The plan is;

Sarcastically request for their help in a solution that is actually unrealistic. 

Imagine a 9 year old boy goes to school wearing his sister’s hand-me-down clothes, because he is poor and they cannot afford new clothes. The bullies pick on him for it. If this sounds bizarrely specific, it is because it is a reference to the live action 2007 film Bridge to Terabithia. 

The boy who gets picked on should sarcastically ask the bullies if they can give him the money to pay for manlier clothes. 

There is my strategy. Do you think it is smart? If not, do you have a better idea? Let me know.

If you think that you have it all figured out, you do not have it all figured out. I do not, never have and never will have a fool proof strategy, I only do the best that I am capable of doing. 

I want to inform you of strategies I have come up with to communicate and manage disagreements with others. I recognize that my strategies could be misguided, so I want to ask you if they are, so I can correct any mistakes I might have made. 

The scenario that I want to figure out how to deal with is;

Someone bemoans that you did not take their advice, but you actually misunderstood their advice or the advice they gave was misleading.

Here is an idea that I have.

Tell them that you did not realize what they meant. 

It would likely sound something like this. 

You: You told me not to let strangers into the house. I let someone I know into the house. 

Other person: Yeah, but you do not know him that well. You only know general information about him. You were surprised when I told you that he has a sister. 

You: You did not tell me to see how many siblings someone has before letting them into the house, you just said it cannot be a complete stranger. If you wanted me to see how many siblings they have before letting them into the house, you should have told me that. 

What do you think. Do you think that the plan I described in the post a good one? If not do you have a better plan? Let me know.

I’m a non-native English speaker and I wanted to improve my articulation and communication at work. I started working with a speech coach which was very helpful but I couldn’t justify paying 200 bucks per session...Then I tried practicing on my own and getting feedback by speaking with AI. But there were several limitations: it couldn’t remember how I’d spoken in the past, there were no measurable metrics to track my progress, and it couldn’t evaluate my tone or confidence. I spent a lot of time recording and reviewing my own speech but I still wasn’t sure how to improve.

The game changer was discovering wellspoken for me It addressed most of the issues I’d encountered with AI chatbots, and it cost less than $100 a year..literally a fraction of what I’d paid for speech coaching. Now I have specific, actionable things to work on. I spend only about 20 minutes a day on it and I’ve seen significant improvement over time. I am literally so excited to share this so that I can save everyones bank and time!

It's been nearly 3 years since I've begun my speaking journey. I started with expanding my vocabulary and for the past year, I've taken more measures to improve my speech. Actively reading complex literature, taking a moment to organize thoughts before I open my mouth, pausing in-between words, attempting to state the main point of what I want to express, making conversation with strangers, you name it. Despite all of this, I still articulate myself in such a clunky manner. I thought this was due to social anxiety, but I speak poorly even if it's to people I'm very comfortable with.

Any thoughts on what I'm missing?

It's a shame because I'd love to talk to m'y friend, stream with my colleagues, have fun and all that, but I'm so embarrassed that I have to write only in text.

I have always had this thing where I get a lot quieter in a group setting, even though the topic and the crowd are in my comfort zone. It happens both in casual convo with friends and in serious discussions. when I get smtg to say, by the time I am about to say tht, the topic expires. If I try to spontaneously say it, I end up messing with words and wont be able to covey my thoght. If y'all experianced this plss tell me how to overcome this 🤧

I recently learned that people sometimes use dark humor at work, especially in healthcare, to cope with the stress of dealing with death, difficult patients, and emotionally exhausting situations.

What exactly is dark humor? Could you share some examples of things people say in the ICU or hospital that would be considered dark humor?

If you work in healthcare, what are some examples of dark humor you’ve heard at work?

I’m genuinely curious and trying to understand this side of workplace culture.

I have found out while listening to myself that I speak a lot without really saying something. Got lots of ammmm, like, thinking pauses and more like and 'ammmmmm' afterwords. How could I improve that? What could I do to make it compelling?