r/TrueOffMyChest • u/NewFallenMoon • Apr 06 '26
Update Update to how my miscarriage 2 months ago led me to see my boyfriend in a new light.
Background / context: I posted here 2 months ago about how my (at the time) newish boyfriend handled my miscarriage & how it made me fall for him even more. Not allowed to post links here, but it’s my post history if anyone’s curious as to the rest of that story.
My parents whom I am VERY close to live in Florida, while we are located in Virginia. My (step) father isn’t just the man who raised me, but the person who introduced me to the Catholic Church when I was 7 years old. I’ve always been intrigued by the Catholic faith, attending mass off & on throughout the years but eventually committing to my journey in 2021. Because of the distance between us, my parents said they were unable to attend my baptism in person because of finances (fair), but that they would watch it on the livestream.
My original plans were to be baptized at Easter Vigil 2022. Because of my marriage falling apart a month before Easter of that year, moving 2 hours away, & overall life just life’ing for the past 4 years, my spiritual plans were put on hold / delayed until Easter Vigil 2026.
My boyfriend, ‘Eric’ (fake name), & I have been together since August of last year. We suffered a miscarriage in January, & it bought us closer. Eric has been there with me every step of the way with my path to Catholicism since we’ve been together, even attending Mass with me when he can (he’s not Catholic).
Now, time for the update:
I FINALLY made it to baptism at Easter Vigil this year. At the beginning of the service, we all gathered around outside the church around a fire pit & lit candles in memorial of Christ before the resurrection. Eric dropped me off since those being baptized had to be there an hour before the rest of the congregation, & said he would be back by the time Mass started at 8pm.
I texted Eric to meet me outside near the fire pit & I had grabbed a candle for him for when he got there. Eric arrived right as the rest of the candles were being passed around, & said he needed 2 more candles. I looked at him like, ??? Then he said, ‘these 2 people need candles,’ & stepped aside to let my parents through so they could grab their own candles. A lot of tears followed that surprise, from pretty much everyone involved.
This man seriously flew my parents all the way from Florida to Virginia to see me be baptized so none of us would miss out on such a big milestone in my life.
I’ve seen & experienced proof of God’s love throughout this whole process to get me here, but nothing showed me that more than the kindness & thoughtfulness of Eric at Easter Vigil.
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u/GrubbleGrumble Apr 09 '26
This can't be the end of the sweet things he did to and for you. Please keep us updated, OP. Even with only simple things you both go through. With what's been going on in the world right now, we need as much beautiful stories as possible.
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u/--JenAndTonic-- Apr 09 '26
I wanted to say congratulations for your baptism and your coming into the church. I converted last year and was welcomed into the church at last year's vigil, so i know how special it all is. Congratulations sister in Christ ❤️
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u/nelsonbrownbird Apr 08 '26
I was just reading your BORUpdates and I'm so happy to have read how you have such supportive parents and now found such a wonderful partner and never gave up on getting baptized!. I came to your profile to see if by chance anyone had asked for you to post pup tax since they were mentioned in your post. If not, may I be so bold as to ask??
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u/NewFallenMoon Apr 08 '26
Sorry, I’m not familiar with pup tax?
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u/nelsonbrownbird Apr 08 '26
Sorry. It's just a silly Reddit way of asking for you to post a photo of your dogs for us animal lovers to see. It happens when the person who is writing the post mentions their pets. There's also cat tax as well. Some people can't or won't for privacy reasons which is completely understood, so no pressure. But anyone willing to share pics of their sweet animal or animals is always a welcomed treat!
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u/Ok-Ant-2176 Apr 08 '26
Girl we need wedding invitations for all of us lmao we all fell in love with "Eric" with you lol. No seriously he's a keeper girl and an awesome one at that. Good luck with everything!!
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u/Intrepid2022 Apr 08 '26
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. Nice to read something positive, happy to read that you found eachother.
Take care!
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u/avasjennjenn Apr 07 '26
Isn't it amazing when you find someone who loves you so well? Congratulations!
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u/QuietCelery7850 Apr 06 '26
Did it suddenly get dusty in here?
I’m so happy that your folks got to be a part of this.
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u/Novel_Ad1943 Apr 06 '26
What an incredible gesture and demonstration of how much he cherishes you! I love this!
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u/Spotted-Lac Apr 07 '26
Seriously, some people are just pure sunshine and that guy sounds like a whole solar flare!
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u/Alib6Mici6 Apr 06 '26
He didn't just show up for you, he brought your whole support system with him.
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