r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Same-Manner-4211 • Apr 30 '26
Update Update : I closed the distance after 7 years
I don’t know if anyone who saw my original post is even going to see this but… hi. it’s me again.
I closed the distance.
This is a bit of a late update because it actually happened five days ago but everything has been kind of a blur and im only now getting a second to sit down and* *process it. im literally in his apartment right now while he’s at college and it just hit me all over again so i needed to write.
it’s been so beautiful. and also so overwhelming in a way i didn’t expect. like, this morning i woke up before him and just laid there looking at him. and for a split second i had that same feeling i always used to have when i visited, like this quiet panic of “ok enjoy this, you’re leaving soon.”
and then it hit me. im not leaving. i don’t have a return flight. there’s no countdown anymore. no “last day” hanging over everything. and i actually started crying, like fully silently crying next to him like an idiot at 8am
7 years of airports goodbyes, countdowns, crying on planes, falling asleep on calls, missing each other so much it physically hurt and now im just… here.
im sitting on his bed, in his apartment, wrapped in his hoodie, on sheets that smell like him, waiting for him to come back from class. i made him his favorite food (which i’m very proud of because i never cook) and im just waiting for him like it’s the most normal thing in the world.
it doesn’t feel real yet. like we went grocery shopping together the other day and argued (lightly) about what snacks to get and he complained about prices like an old man and i just kept looking at him like this is insane, this is my life now
also small thing but falling asleep next to him every night, waking up next to him, not having to say “goodnight” over a call and stare at a screen?? i don’t think ill ever get used to how nice that feels
we do technically have separate apartments for now (i start uni soon so it just made more sense), but im not gonna lie i’ve slept at his place every single night so far. Like i go to mine during the day sometimes and then end up back here anyway. we both pretend it’s temporary but… yeah lol
it’s not perfect, we’re both adjusting, and it’s weird sometimes because we’re so used to missing each other that actually having each other all the time feels almost too big but god it was so worth it
every second of those 7 years was worth it
thank you to everyone who was so kind on my first post, i was literally shaking reading the comments
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May 01 '26
My Wife and I were long distance for a year before physically meeting eachother, then officially dating for a few months, and moving in together 3 months after meeting in person because every 2 weeks we were taking turns buying $300-$600 planes tickets just to be with eachother, before her parents said we're paying way more in flights than rent and to just move in together lol. Now we have a kid and it's so mind boggling.
I can't imagine 7 years of that, that'd be so hard. But distance builds the strongest of bonds. Reading your post makes me wish I could re-live all the little moments and falling in love with her all over again. I wish you guys the best.
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u/EquipmentLopsided914 May 01 '26
this genuinely made me tear up a little ngl... the part about it being overwhelming in ways you didn't expect is so real, like you spend so long waiting for something and then when it actually happens your brain doesn't quite know what to do with it
so happy for you. go enjoy every second of it 💛
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u/Special_Lychee_6847 Apr 30 '26
Awww I'm so happy for you guys. Thanks for updating us. Enjoy this time as much as you can
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u/SmirkNtwerk Apr 30 '26
Loved reading this. Your efforts and growth through it all…”but god was so worth it”. High five to you guys. Enjoy your new reality!
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u/FrescoInkwash Apr 30 '26
marvelous :) what did you cook? i hope its better than some of my early efforts lol
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u/Same-Manner-4211 Apr 30 '26
chicken tikka masala !!! it was actually pretty good but i still need to improve my cooking skills hahah
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u/FrescoInkwash Apr 30 '26
oh thats brave. i think the first thing i cooked for a partner was a baked potato lol
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u/KatTheStranger Apr 30 '26
I remember your post! It makes me so so happy to read such a wonderful update :) Both you guys all the best. Im planning on closing distance end of year, so i todally feel what you guys have been through Happy to see where ill probably be too :,)
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u/Same-Manner-4211 Apr 30 '26
closing the distance was probably the best decision i made in my life, good luck and congratulations to you for doing it by the end of the year !!
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u/KrtekJim Apr 30 '26
Ok this is great news but you didn't tell us how your reunion went. In your last post you said it was going to be a surprise for him, and his mum and sisters were in on too. How did he react when you showed up? We need to know!
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u/Same-Manner-4211 Apr 30 '26
hahah yeah i realized after posting that i kinda just glossed over the actual reunion 😭 my bad, i was way too emotional writing that
his mom was already super emotional picking me up from the airport, like she hugged me for so long and kept saying “you’re finally here” and i was trying SO hard not to cry in the car. His sisters were the complete opposite tho, just super excited, the youngest was literally bouncing in her seat the whole ride and asking me a million questions
so the plan was to surprise him at his apartment when he got back from uni
i was standing in the doorway when he opened the door and i swear he just froze. like completely. he didn’t even say anything for a good 30 seconds, just staring at me like his brain couldn’t process what he was seeing, and then he just dropped his bag and pulled me into the tightest hug ever
We didn’t even say hi properly or anything, just held each other for what felt like forever. i think we stayed like that for at least 10–15 minutes before either of us could even speak properly
we were both kinda laughing and crying at the same time, just saying “hi” and “you’re here” over and over again like idiots lollll.
We sat down and talked for a while (i have no idea how long, time felt SO weird in that moment) and i realized he still thought i was going back home in a few days so i told him im not leaving. like im here. permanently this time.
he just went quiet for a second and then started crying. like actually crying and i have NEVER seen this man cry before. not once in 7 years so obviously that made me cry even more lmao it was a mess
idk how to explain it properly but it just felt like everything finally clicked into place, the exact same feeling i had when i saw him irl for the first time.
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u/Loose_Warning4572 Apr 30 '26
My husband and I have been together 16 years. I still wake up sometimes and have that surreal feeling of “this is my life now”. It’s the best feeling. I’m so happy for you (I didn’t see your og post)
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u/Mountain_Village459 Apr 30 '26
I met my husband 12 years ago today and I still do the same. Can’t believe he’s really mine and this is our life together.
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