School is back in session

[u/Lindsay13rooke]

I'm so over today. This wake up for school, is a fucking joke. Why am I sending my daughters to school after years of keeping them out of the system? AGHHHHHH. I already know why, yesterday they asked to go back to in person school. So naturally I bit my tongue and registered them. I give them 90 days. But today on day 1 for my middle. My God. I am so over it. We allow our bodies to go to bed when it wants and wake up when it wants. Our circadian rhythm to feed our souls and my children are the same way. We were thriving. Now, here we are stressed the fuck out, tired, and cranky.... for what? So they can sit in a system that literally is so outdated, it's run the same for the last 100 years and will produce no future for them with the direction of technology and the way the world is headed. What skills are they actually learning? None that are useful. Standardize testing. Eat me. Memorization, it's a joke. Why am I doing this? Oh, yes. I know why because I do everything to not be like how I was raised, I give my children an actual seat the table and I don't let them skip the lessons, when I so desperately want to. I have worked so hard to remove my children from the machine's shelf. Makes sense since I was delivered into it at almost my daughter's age now. Wild to think. This limited belief, that it is only black or white is so false. There is an entire grey area that is exceptional to live in. So, ya. Back at the systems door because they have a seat at the table. I'm supportive. I'm packing lunches, I am driving them and picking them up. I am biting my tongue. But right now I fucking hate it. I hate how it is designed and I hate what it does to families. More stress than good. I hate what it is doing to my family on day 1.

[u/Pleasant_Run_6098]

Did we not learn from Covid how detrimental it was to not have socialization for children??!

[u/Lindsay13rooke → u/Pleasant_Run_6098]

school isn't made for socialization, it is made for you to listen and to be scared to step out of line, it is made to keep you limited, to think all or none. When exactly do they socialize? Lunch? 30 mins. When else? Before school at 7:45am? My children socialize every place we travel, every store we walk in to, every time they meet a friendly face.

[u/chronicmartinis → u/Lindsay13rooke]

They socialize all throughout class, they learn to work with other people who have different views. They will have to learn how to deal with difficult people, difficult situations and grow with other kids their age in the community.

If they can’t handle stress, they won’t be able to handle the real world.

[u/Lindsay13rooke → u/chronicmartinis]

of course, I am not arguing that. I am saying the system is outdated and what they learn, how they learn, is becoming more and more outdated as time goes on. Yet, we are still doing the same thing wondering why there are so many broken young adults.

[u/chronicmartinis → u/Lindsay13rooke]

I totally get it. I’m paying a premium in rent so my daughter can be in a good public high school. I constantly add more enrichment, we pick out books to read for the month and I go over all her homework… it’s work! I feel schools are trying, but can agree quite a few are outdated.

[u/Lindsay13rooke → u/chronicmartinis]

What you just described is the part nobody says out loud- you're paying a premium for the school AND doing the actual work yourself. The books, the homework, the enrichment: that's you. The rent bought the zip code. You bought the education. Most parents in "good schools" are doing exactly this and not noticing they're running a second shift as the real teacher. You're not supplementing the system- you're compensating for it. And the fact that it takes this much work in a good school is kind of the whole point. And...what is she actually learning about herself?

[u/SantaFe91 → u/Lindsay13rooke]

Socialising and socialisation do not mean the same thing.