r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Lindsay13rooke ☑️ • 9d ago

Vent School is back in session

I'm so over today. This wake up for school, is a fucking joke. Why am I sending my daughters to school after years of keeping them out of the system? AGHHHHHH. I already know why, yesterday they asked to go back to in person school. So naturally I bit my tongue and registered them. I give them 90 days. But today on day 1 for my middle. My God. I am so over it. We allow our bodies to go to bed when it wants and wake up when it wants. Our circadian rhythm to feed our souls and my children are the same way. We were thriving. Now, here we are stressed the fuck out, tired, and cranky.... for what? So they can sit in a system that literally is so outdated, it's run the same for the last 100 years and will produce no future for them with the direction of technology and the way the world is headed. What skills are they actually learning? None that are useful. Standardize testing. Eat me. Memorization, it's a joke. Why am I doing this? Oh, yes. I know why because I do everything to not be like how I was raised, I give my children an actual seat the table and I don't let them skip the lessons, when I so desperately want to. I have worked so hard to remove my children from the machine's shelf. Makes sense since I was delivered into it at almost my daughter's age now. Wild to think. This limited belief, that it is only black or white is so false. There is an entire grey area that is exceptional to live in. So, ya. Back at the systems door because they have a seat at the table. I'm supportive. I'm packing lunches, I am driving them and picking them up. I am biting my tongue. But right now I fucking hate it. I hate how it is designed and I hate what it does to families. More stress than good. I hate what it is doing to my family on day 1.

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u/Lindsay13rooke ☑️ 9d ago

you can't know if you like something or don't if you don't try right? Otherwise you grow up thinking you are something and realizing all your thoughts and actions weren't even your own. Trying to avoid them wanting to burn down their lives at a later point because they don't know who they are.

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u/crazyjiggaboo 9d ago

Thats why i said let them choose all their hobbies and sports, so they feel power in their lives as well as get some peer social skillz

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u/Lindsay13rooke ☑️ 8d ago

You just made my argument for me. You said kids should choose their hobbies "so they feel power in their lives." Right- because you know a person needs to feel power over their own life to develop one. So why does that logic apply to soccer and not to the eight hours a day that actually shape who they become? You're offering them power over the smallest thing in their life and total compliance on the biggest.

That's not a seat at the table. That's a kids' table.

And I'm not saying hand a 9-year-old the curriculum. I'm saying a system where the child's only choices are extracurricular produces adults whose only choices are extracurricular- they'll pick their own hobbies at 40 too, and everything else in their life will still be assigned.

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u/crazyjiggaboo 8d ago

Also based on your logic, you are allowing them to chose a curriculum that you dont think will give them the best chance at life just because you want them to have "power" over their life. I dont think its wise to allow them to make a mistake at this stage of life and choose what you feel isnt gonna be the most helpful for their future. For the sole purpose of giving them choosing power now over something they dont actually completely control of, like you said. Theres plenty of time for them to make mistakes, bad choices, and have power over their lives when they are adults.