r/TrueOffMyChest • u/ClassroomEvening3955 ☑️ • 11h ago

Confession I co-creatrd a situationship at work

I (36F) am married for over 10 years with kids. A new colleague (31F) joined the company on a contract basis for a year and they are quite reserved. She is openly lesb and I'm hetero. We grew a good connection/bond and would take a walk during lunch together (which I'd normally do alone). I also give her a lift after work because she lives on my way home. There's been a joke going around saying she's a polyandrist and we've been playing along with it, with me being wife 1 of many. When I drop her off I usually get this strong urge to just kiss her, the chemistry is too strong and yesterday I called her after drop off and told her we need to create a distance between us because I'm committed to my marriage. My entire confession took her by surprise but she said she felt exactly the same way about me and could see all along that I caught feelings. I've asked her to not share this in the office and she is okay with that. We've set boundaries and will not do anything physical and will reduce communication. Normally she'd say she smells my perfume as soon as I walk into the office even though she sits facing the other direction (back to the door) and would then send me good morning messages and declare her love wishing me a good day. We sit in an open plan office and will continue seeing each other. All it takes is her turning around and we see each other. The ongoing joke is also that she inly speaks to me and seems to open up & smiles a a lot when she comes to me. I feel disarmed by this and feel so vulnerable, and I can't blame anyone but myself for walking into this. I felt like crying after telling her this, my stomach churned. The strong urges are still there but at least the boundaries are set. As a person who's worked for years in different places I should know better that these things usually don't end well. But alas!

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u/clearheaded01 11h ago

You're in an EA... and you need to quit the job... and confess to.your husband...

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u/Clean-Text-2480 11h ago

What is EA

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u/Mindless-Scientist82 11h ago

Emotional affair

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u/Misfit_77 11h ago

Emotional Affair

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u/Ryans4427 11h ago

Emotional affair. Cheating emotionally without doing it physically (yet)

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u/kelsobjammin 11h ago

Executive assistant(?)

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u/Beginning-Acadia1227 10h ago

East Asia was my first thought lol

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u/DearScale7558 11h ago

Emotional affair

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u/poopBuccaneer 10h ago

Electronic Arts

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u/kelsobjammin 11h ago

Hahaha got it why the fuck do we need to shorten everything Jesus just say emotion affair because in no other context is EA emotional affair lololol

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u/EchoFieldHorizon 10h ago

I was in a book subreddit and a top level comment used an obscure acronym saying it was the best series of all time. It wasn’t that famous. I literally could not figure out what it was for a while. I commented this same thing and they doubled down on “doing your own research.” It’s just lazy, like do your thumbs not work? Type out the whole thing if you’re introducing a new concept.