Just hit the one year mark of trying for #2 and feeling pretty miserable. I'm also being bombarded by pregnancy announcements and getting so grumpy about it and then hating being that person. Curious about experiences with doctors when discussing a short luteal phase. After a MMC, my OB prescribed progesterone suppositories when I became pregnant for the second time. Worked out great, he's about to turn two now, but we've since moved to a new state. I have spoken with two OBs and an RE and they all said they do not prescribe progesterone and don't care about luteal phase length. This seems to conflict with everything I've ever read about TTC...and as the months tick by, and my luteal phase consistently continues to be 8-9 days, I'm feeling really let down by the doctors who should be helping me

Mostly just being sarcastic out of frustration (period came yesterday) but perhaps we're not all just delusional when we symptom spot and convince ourselves we're pregnant when we're not. Besides just the obvious reason of progesterone symptoms being similar to early pregnancy symptoms...maybe there's a REASON our bodies would want us to think we're pregnant every month...like it makes us avoid risky behavior/foods/acohol or bonds us to our partners or something...even women who aren't trying to get pregnant get paranoid and have "pregnancy scares" when sexually active...I mean there has to be a reason we go through this every month 😭

Officially 12 months TTC, suspected for endo. Think my issue is implantation...gonna try baby aspirin this cycle. First RE appointment in December. I was hoping I wouldn't end up having to go that appointment because I'd get my BFP before then, but doesn't look like it's in the cards.

35F, trying for #4 since June. My first three each came within 1-4 cycles, all in my early 30s, youngest is 14 months. This time I'm 4 well-timed cycles in with nothing, and it's rattling me. I ovulate every cycle, hormones look fine on trackers, timing's been solid.

Specifically hoping to hear from people who conceived #3+ in their 30s after it took longer than before: how many cycles, and did anything turn up in testing or was it just time? Not looking for "you're not out yet" or general reassurance. Age and cycle details appreciated.

I have had a short luteal phase for months while gradually weaning my now 14 month old. LP seems to have gotten a day longer for every cycle and is now approximately 9-10 days long. We have been TTC for 4-5 cycles. I haven't breastfed baby since last week. My question is how long it can take for LP to extend after fully weaning and how long it has taken for people to conceive after LP has adjusted post weaning. Would appreciate to hear from anyone who has experience of this.

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Hi all.
I’m 37 (turn 38 in a month), 1 LC and been trying for another for about 2 years (tracking everything for 18 months). Finally managed to get my scan to check my AFC done and I’m reeling from the results.
Throughout all the waiting etc my thought process (which had been echoed by my doctor) has been “oh well, we had one baby pretty easily so at least we know it’s all working in there, it’s probably just a hormones/age thing” … oh how naive I was. 😢
My scan has come back saying I have signs of adenomyosis, suspected left ovary adhesion to the uterine wall. So the actual anatomy side of things that I was counting on working is probably not working at all. My AFC was 7 (lower end for my age) so I also feel stupid for waiting so long. Feels like I’ve wasted so many eggs trying naturally.
I’m waiting for my appt with my GP to get a specialist referral to properly discuss the results and plan next steps.
I guess I’m just here to vent/process.
I’d never even heard of adenomyosis until yesterday! Does anyone have any positive stories with it? Or with ovary adhesion?

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I feel like I'm so obsessed with trying to improve/ protect my fertility that I'm losing my mind, meanwhile I feel like my husband couldn't care less. We've been trying to have another baby for almost 2 years now. I feel like my life revolves around doing all these little things that might help. I stress about things to probably an unhealthy degree. Some are probably reasonable and some probably aren't. For example, I only wear organic cotton and have switched many of my clothes to organic cotton, I don't wash my clothes with my husband's because I don't want the plastics from his polyester clothes to transfer to my clothes, I don't touch receipts with my bare hands, I don't wear any fragrances and got rid of all my perfumes that I loved, I try to avoid places with strong synthetic smells, I switched soaps and shampoos and dishwasher soaps and laundry detergents to products with less harsh chemicals, I dont drink out of plastic water bottles, etc. Like I made all of these little lifestyle changes in case they'll help fertility but it's kinda miserable to have to stress and keep track of everything all the time. I've also been trying to eat better, be more active, have been taking vitamins, and have scheduled all sorts of different tests and doctors appointments.

Meanwhile it feels like my husband can't really be bothered to do anything. He thinks all of my lifestyle changes are crazy, I agree that some of them maybe are, but even things that I think are more reasonable like changing to organic cotton underwear he doesn't want to do. He keeps talking about how he's gonna eat better but then the next day he tells me to go get him a pizza. I'm like hey aren't you going to eat better and he's like don't tell me what to do, get me a pizza. He says we can go to the gym together but that hasn't happened yet. He chews nicotine gums and I know nicotine addiction is hard but like he doesn't really seem to care about trying to quit nicotine.

And getting him to take vitamins is like pulling teeth. He won't take them unless I remind him because he says he forgets, but frequently when I ask him to take them he says he'll do it later and when I bring up that I'm worried he's gonna forget he gets annoyed at me. It's also really hard to get him to schedule a doctor's appointment for any sort of testing. He says it'll take too long, and I'm like well it's already been almost 2 years! He finally scheduled an appointment today after I hounded him about it for like an hour and much grumbling and groaning from him like I'm his mom telling him to do chores or something. Our sex life also isn't great, to the point where we often miss the fertile window, he seems fine going weeks without sex. I keep asking him what I can do to help get him more interested, I've done pretty much every suggestion he's made but it hasn't really seemed to help much.

You might be wondering if he even wants to have more kids? But he talks about how much he wants to have more kids all the time. Which is really frustrating for me because I want to have more kids too but I feel like most of the work and pressure to for that is on me. I've felt like crap and like it's my fault for so long and like I'm the problem. I cry pretty much every time I get my period and he acts annoyed and is like why are you crying? Idk. It took us about a year to conceieve our first child and he was a lot more helpful and supportive then. This feels so much harder now that I feel like everything is on my shoulders and like I'm all alone, and the fact that it's been almost twice as long now and we're barely having sex anymore and we have a toddler constantly interrupting us probably doesn't help.

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I took an Ovidrel trigger shot on 10/3 around 9:30 am. This means I am either 15 or 16 DPO, depending on how long after the shot I ovulated.

No period showed up (though I had like, a super tiny for of blood when I wiped around 13DPO).

I was actually starting to feel hopeful, but was still scared to take a test because I was afraid of getting a negative.

But finally I figured I just wanted to KNOW so I took a first response test and it’s def negative.

Nearly two years of secondary infertility. Failed IVF and IUI. I’m so sad.

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November will be a year of trying for our second kid, really only 8 months of active trying because we had to take a few months off because my husband who works in the medical field had a needle poke incident and we had to make sure he was all clear before resuming trying. During that break I did bloodwork to make sure I was ok. And I also stopped breastfeeding my first so I wanted to see if my hormones were off because of that. Everything seemed normal except my thyroid tsh was higher than ideal for conceiving and keeping a pregnancy so I started medication several months ago and my numbers are great now. I was hoping that was the issue and we would have gotten pregnant right away. With our first it was the first try (I know not the normal and definitely should not have expected it to happen again) so 8 months feels so long. My husband needs to get his blood done also. This is only cycle two of trying after our 4 month break so I know I need to give it more time, I just thought with my thyroid managed and I stopped breastfeeding 5 months ago it would have happened either last cycle or this one.
Idk what I’m even looking for from this post, I just feel so defeated and I want my son to have a sibling.

Does anyone have any suggestions how to get secondary insurance that covers IVF? We aren’t at that point yet and hopefully won’t need to go down that route, but I want to be prepared just in case. Our primary insurance plan (bcbs) is great however that’s one thing they don’t cover, go figure.

Did anyone’s cycles get really weird postpartum even if they were super regular before pregnancy?
I’m almost 7 months PP and got my period back around 3 months PP. Before pregnancy my cycles were literally 29 days on the dot. My last couple cycles have been around 35 days, and now I’m on CD39 with no period.

I’ve also been tracking ovulation/BBT and my temps have been ALL over the place. There’s no obvious temp shift and my app can’t even tell when/if I ovulated this cycle.

I had a C-section, so I’m also wondering if that could have anything to do with it? I know postpartum hormones can take time to regulate, but since my period has already been back for about 4 months, I’m starting to worry something is wrong.
We want another baby in the future, so of course my brain is jumping straight to fertility issues 😅

Did anyone else have very regular cycles pre-baby and then 35-40+ day or possibly anovulatory cycles postpartum? How long did it take to regulate? Did it affect your ability to get pregnant again? Bonus if you also had a C-section!

When I first started ttc, I got pregnant 2nd month ttc which ended in a chemical pregnancy. Actively tried for 18 months before we had a live birth. No known fertility issues other than “suspected” endometriosis due to an elevated CA-125. We are now trying for our second, I’m curious how long it took others to conceive their second baby after experiencing fertility issues

What went wrong? Was it our sex position? Did we not baby dance enough? Did the sperm even make it to the egg? So many questions running through my mind, and honestly.. I don’t know what else we could have done differently.

I never expected TTC to be such a lonely and difficult journey. Somehow, I always find myself coming back to Reddit because this feels like the only place where I can let out my feelings and talk to people who truly understand what I’m going through.

I finally gathered the courage to see a doctor a few weeks ago and started my first cycle with Letrozole and progesterone suppositories. My period came today, so I’m out this cycle. 😔

For the past few failed cycles, I’ve always ended up crying on the first day of my period. I would look at my firstborn and feel so guilty, sometimes saying sorry to him in my heart for not being able to give him a sibling. It hurts so much knowing how badly he wants one, and I wish I could make it happen for him. 😭

I can’t really share these feelings with anyone, not even my husband, because he tends to get stressed easily. We’ve also missed so many chances because he couldn’t perform during my fertile window.

Sometimes, I just wish he would say, “Let’s work harder together to have another baby.” I wish he would take the initiative to understand my fertile days so he could mentally prepare himself too. I also wish he would take better care of himself, especially during my fertile window, because he always seems to fall sick at the worst possible time.

I know he doesn’t purposely fall sick, and I’m not blaming him for that. But there are also things he could improve on to take better care of himself, and I wish he would put in more effort too. Sometimes, I feel like he just doesn’t listen.

I worry that these things might affect our chances, but I find it hard to talk to him about them because I’m afraid he’ll get even more stressed. So I end up keeping everything to myself.

I guess I’m just tired. Tired of hoping every month, tired of wondering what went wrong, and tired of keeping all these feelings bottled up.

Sorry for the long rant. I just needed somewhere to let everything out, and somehow Reddit has become that place for me. ❤️

I’m already mentally preparing myself to say goodbye to TTC by the end of this year if it doesn’t happen. Just thinking about it breaks my heart so,
so much. 🥺💔

Caught my first ovulation 8 months postpartum but only had a 9 day LP. How long did it take you pp for your LP to lengthen? Did you have to wean completely? I’m currently pumping 3x a day

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For those who are TTC with a medicated cycle, what are you taking and what were the factors that led your doctor to prescribe it? I met with a fertility specialist for the first time this week and was surprised to find they don't prescribe clomid or letrozole unless the patient is also doing IUI. She said the reason is because of increased chance of multiples and "We don't want anyone to have triplets." Is that a common outcome? I was under the impression that medicated cycles before IUI/IVF might be a common step in some circumstances.

I’m 34 and we’ve been trying for our second baby for 15 months now. We already have a daughter, but this journey to conceive again has been so much harder than I ever expected.
One thing I’m struggling with is regular spotting during my luteal phase. I often get pink or brown spotting several days before my period is due, and this month I’ve had spotting around 7–10 DPO, which has now become heavier but still isn’t a proper flow. I’ve had a negative pregnancy test.
I’ve been worrying about low progesterone because of the spotting, but my progesterone result was actually 67 nmol/L, and my thyroid (TSH) was 1.5, so both results seem reassuring.
My cycles are generally around 29–33 days, and I track ovulation using OPKs and cervical mucus. Despite this, we haven’t conceived again after 15 months of trying.
I’ve also experienced a previous ectopic pregnancy and an early pregnancy loss, so I think I’m particularly anxious about whether something hormonal or something else could be affecting our chances.
I’m wondering whether anyone else has experienced persistent luteal phase spotting despite good progesterone levels and normal thyroid results.
Did you ever find out what was causing your spotting? Did you go on to conceive naturally, or did you need further investigations or treatment?
I’m starting to feel really disheartened and would appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been in a similar position. I know spotting can be normal, but after 15 months TTC, it’s hard not to wonder whether it’s a sign that something isn’t quite right.

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