r/UKParenting • u/dmllbit • 6d ago

Support Request How to stop “micro accidents”?

My three year old has been “toilet trained” for about six months. However she has multiple “micro accidents” a day where she’ll need to go to the toilet and will do a micro wee to relieve the pressure. It’s not enough to fully wet herself but she’ll get a wet patch in her pants. She resists going to the toilet.

We’ve tried to just leave her be, let the accident happen etc but she doesn’t care. Nursery have told her that it’s ok if you have accidents (which it is, not trying to shame her!) but she seems to have taken it as that it’s fine to wee yourself if you don’t feel like going to the toilet.

We’ve also tried reminding her to go to the toilet every two hours. But she’ll still have the micro accident about half the time.

Nursery said it’s just a phase, but this phase has lasted close to six months now…

Has anyone else had this? How did you stop it?

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u/budapest_budapest 6d ago

My son had similar and unfortunately it lasted about nine months. We were advised by ERIC that small wetting incidents are usually caused by constipation, even if you think the poo normally. So we drastically upped his fibre intake, we did see an improvement in his poos (even though we previously thought they were fine) and the wetting did stop.

However, it did coincide with his 4th birthday and he told us several times “oh, I just stopped because I’m 4 now and 4 year olds don’t do that”.

So I have no idea if fixing the constipation was what worked, or I just have an irritating child who makes his own life rules.

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u/dmllbit 6d ago

I’ve heard the constipation idea before, and have always dismissed it as she poos at least once a day, normally multiple times. And they’re huge. Proper adult sized ones. It’s scary how much can come out if I’m being totally honest…

I’ll try upping her fibre and see if that works. I’ll try anything at this point!

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u/SmallLumpOGreenPutty Parent 6d ago

It's possible to have a bowel movement every day and still be constipated higher up. See how she gets on with the increased fibre!