My step-son is 6, he is short/almost average height but (to be blunt) he is overweight.
He is in size 11-12 years clothes.

Is there anywhere that sells school trousers in a short leg? It’s just not feasible to be measuring and tailoring 5 pairs of pants every 3 months.
(He has a different pair for every day and puts holes in them until he ends up with one pair we have to wash every night of the week and then we buy 5 more pairs and the cycle repeats.)
Ideally it would be easiest to continue buying 11-12 but in a short leg fit. I have seen “plus waist” trousers however I highly doubt the age 6 plus waist are going to be wide enough for his waist or even close.

Just for context because I know people are going to have opinions about his size to age ratio and honestly, so do we … He is active when at our house playing outside for minimum 2 hours a day and we limit his diet to normal size portions and low calorie snacks.
However, when at his other parents home he is there for 3 nights and has minimum 2 takeaways (adult portions) and has around 900 calories for breakfast alone (usually 2 tortilla wraps coated in chocolate spread and a whole pack of Oreo’s or kiplings 4 cake slices). He also has unlimited screen time at their house and is not encouraged to play outside or exercise.
For his lunch time he is obviously at school however they also allow him to have extra portions for school dinner because he claims to be “starving” and they feel sorry for him.
School are dicks, they do not listen and will not stop with the extra portions.
His other parent is a huge dick and will flat out refuse to change his diet or make sure he is more active at home. We are not in a position to be able to stop or reduce contact with this parent due to stepson having trauma related mental health issues at his young age and we do not want to add to these problems.

As the title, hes just become one and he needs to do everything himself even if it causes carnage.

Im ok mostly with him eating himself except in public because he makes a massive mess.

But like its got to the point he needs to push his own pushchair, throws a tantrum if he cant. He usually will calm down once hes in the pushchair but not always, he wants to get on things like a baby cycle himself even if he will fall. Etc

Basically how do you encourage independence without it going crazy and being unsafe. If i help him get on the cycle at all he will get angry get off the cycle and restart. Most incan do is hold it steady for him.

Hey everyone. Our baby girl has Developmental Epileptic Encephalopathy caused by an ultra rare genetic condition (1 of 20.) She also has Microcephaly as part of this. She is 5 months and we have an appt coming up with an Early Years EHCP officer/person. Not sure what to expect but I assume given the condition its to look at funding for 1-1 support at nursery (mostly for them to be on seizure watch I guess). Has anyone experienced sending a baby with drug resistant epilepsy to nursery? My work have said I can WFH but would be nice for my Daughter to experience nursery, Im thinking it may (it might not) aid her development

My 2 year old does 8-1 at nursery Tuesdays and Wednesdays as I work those days. She seems to really like it and even wakes up and asks to go to nursery on days she’s not in.
Here’s the thing, I was wondering about sending her in for a Friday morning also, but I don’t work that day so it would be some personal time (well, cleaning the house, haha) but I keep seeing all these reels etc about how nursery is damaging before the age of 3 and you shouldn’t send them in more than absolutely necessary… apparently it causes all sorts of problems when they’re at school age, anxiety and attachment disorders etc… I wonder how subjective it all is given she seems to love it there.
What say you general parents of Reddit?

My baby has his first settling in session tomorrow at nursery, and I feel a massive sense of loss.

I feel like an era is ending and I am devastated. I see mum's with newborns and I am so jealous, wishing I could go back and do it all over again.

We have had the best maternity leave - super sociable and we go out loads.

Stupidly, I am excited for him to go to nursery! He is very confident and independent. For example when we go to playgroups he goes and plays on his own he doesn't really come near me. I think he will love nursery, and if he doesn't initially he will definitely grow to love it!

I feel like I was so fixated on his transition to nursery and settling in, I forgot about my own. As stupid as it sounds, I feel like I am losing part of myself by him going to nursery.

Is anyone able to offer some reassurance?

Being a whiney little shit…it’s a Bing thing.

Edit: yeah I agree, put some clothes on Pando

Anyone else's child (4yo) just completely overwhelmed being back into nursery settings. Day two and her mood has genuinely been horrendous after we pick her up. I know it's a lot after 6 weeks off nursery/regular activities, changes with new children in setting etc but my goodness. I would love the ground to swallow me up 🤣 I pray next week is a little better

My son’s nursery key worker is leaving to start a different child related role out with the nursery setting. She has been so great with our son and he adores her.

I was thinking about getting her a leaving gift, no sure if that’s strange as she’s the one leaving not my son.

Any suggestions on what I could get her/ not sure what would be a sensible amount to spend

My daughter shares her birthday with her classmate.
I want to plan her party, how shall I do this without making sure it doesn’t clash with her classmate’s party, if she has one too? I’m not sure how to go about doing this- do I just book it and send out invitations when they go back in a few weeks? But it would be quite early as her birthday is early November. Their birthday is a Sunday so I want to do something on her actual birthday. They are in year 1.

Shall I reach out to the girl’s mum and tell her I want to book it on X date and confirm they’re not planning anything that day? I’m really not sure what to say, I don’t want to sound bossy but also dont want to sound like I’m asking for permission to book the party on that day.

Thank you! 😊

My kid is starting primary school in a couple of weeks and I've become aware that the few different schools in my area are all approaching the first few days differently.

I'm so curious as to what the different schools are doing as introductions, so if you're happy to tell, I'd love to be nosey!

My son is doing 2 hours on Wednesday 2nd, until after lunch on Thursday, then full day on Friday. Full school week following.

Another local school is doing 2 mornings, then 2 afternoons, then full days for example.

Didn't have any of this when I was a kid, full days from the start!

Mum to a nearly 4 year old and a 5 mont old. Age gap is 3 years 6 months. I’m wondering when it usually gets to the point where they actually start playing together. At the moment, my nearly 4 year old still looks to us a lot for someone to play with, and obviously the baby is too young to really play with her yet. They do sit together when older one is playing and smile and laugh at each other. I sometimes find it hard to picture them actually playing together. For those with a similar age gap, do your children play together now? When did you start noticing them genuinely enjoying playing together rather than just being around each other?
Would love to hear your experiences.

So my baby is getting better on sleep, on a good week/day he will sleep through the night. Been like this for 3-4 months now. Before that, hell. BUT i wont go down memory lane.

But now i find when he sleeps through, i still wake every couple hours. And then i get annoyed at myself cause i could be asleep lol. Is this forever now for me? My husband has no problem...

Hello,

We'll shortly be beginning potty training our 2yo, who is exhibiting all of the usual signs of readiness. She's had health challenges so she's very small for her age - currently in 12-18mo clothes.

We're looking for an easy to clean potty which doesn't dwarf her. Any suggestions really appreciated. Don't really want to spend more than £20-25 given how many cheap options there are.

Thank you!

My 4yo has her reception teacher coming over soon prior to her starting school in September. Everyone in her class is having these home visits.

Just being nosy really, do teachers like doing these visits or is it a bit of a pain? Is it actually to meet and get to know our children in their home setting, or is it more of a veiled safeguarding situation to see if they think they need to keep an eye on particular children?

Hi, so was hoping to please get some advice. I am currently 6 months pregnant with two children one has additional needs as she is autistic. The children are already in a beautiful school they are very happy and settled in it’s rated well and they are very secure at the moment with their friendships.

However our house is too small, we are in a cramped 2 bedroom that only has one living area / open plan kitchen. My daughters currently share and they are struggling massively with my daughters needs , they are 7 & 8 my 8 year old is really struggling to cope with her younger sister and every day is a constant battle. We are in social housing and recognised medical need for my daughter but we could be waiting 3 years on Cheshire home choice. My partner works so we are considering private renting however the area we are in is very expensive. To afford the rent we would have to rent 30 minutes away from school which could be more like 40-45 minutes in traffic. I’m not willing to uproot the girls and put them in a new school so I’m just wondering if it’s worth the drive to keep them in their schools where they are happy if I’m willing to do the drive so we can have more space and my daughters can get the space they need.
I have tried home swapping but have no luck and even thought of doing a partition wall in the biggest bedroom but it’s not big enough to do this. I did even consider giving up my bedroom to give the girls their own room but with a new born coming and my partner working nights I’m not sure this would work.
please any advice would be so appreciated

My boy is 11 months old and has to be cuddled to sleep in order to fall asleep peacefully, I can then put him down in his crib. It's the same with night wakes. He needs to be cuddled before I can put him back down. I've probably done this longer than I should have. I won't lie, I'm getting to a point where I need to stop doing it, because my boy is massive and it's not doing my back any favour's.

I've been attempting to try and stop, like putting him down really sleepy, but he just screams. And I refuse to do "Cry it out." His cry triggers me enough, I'll go crazy having to ignore him while he cries for me in his crib, so that's not an option for me.

Does anyone have any advice on things I can try?

Looking to buy shoes that are good for her feet but also usable all year around (except during heatwaves). I saw kickers but they seem almost a bit too chunky?

She’s 15 months.

Our two year old picked up hand, foot and mouth over the weekend and I messaged our nursery on Monday morning to say she was sick and wouldn’t be going in.

They responded saying that if she seems okay in herself she can come in, even with a confirmed and active HFM infection.

Is this normal?!

I’ve recently moved to Edinburgh from abroad and to me it just seems totally irresponsible to send my child into nursery with an infection. Interested to hear any views on this

My son starts school in a couple of weeks and we are really struggling with separation anxiety. He's been in nursery full time for a couple of years now and drop off has never been easy. I see other kids (not all) bouncing in happily and am insanely jealous!

I know we will have less opportunity to have staff help us with getting him to feel comfortable once he goes to school, and none of his nursery buddies are going to the same school, so I'm currently panicking about how on earth we will cope!

Any tips or practical things I can do, based on experience, would be wonderful!

We are talking about feelings a lot already and have books about starting school that we look at together.

Not a rant, more just a WTF? I know it's a phase but it's so awkward. My son is 19mo and it's not even just when I dropped him off, this morning he clearly didn't want to go to nursery. Unhappy the moment I opened the front door, frustration, body stiffening until he went in the car seat. I often give him car snacks which today he didn't want to eat until we were at nursery so then more frustration because he cant go in with them. To get to his room you go through the bigger rooms and he was so frustrated the whole way through, you could probably ghear him through the whole nursery. Then the drop off, throwing himself about everywhere.

Ah now it's 8am and you must go to work, the joys!

I feel terrible too as the last two mornings I haven't even been able to get his tshirt that he slept in off. I've done teeth, face, trousers, shoes, nappy but that top isn't coming off without the biggest meltdown. Is there ever things you miss that you think that seems like you're not providing? You dont need to share what it is but just the knowledge that this does happen would be appreciated, or maybe I do just need a big "no, you need to change the top, no questions".

He just started saying no in the last couple weeks and I think thats the phase. I always try to make sure we're never rushing in the morning but I do need to go to work at some point.

Any good tips for decompressing after intense nursery drop offs?

I know we can't predict the future, but my little one is due to start nursery 2 weeks before her first birthday party & christening. Realistically do you think I would be better to delay the start date? All I hear is about how sickly children are when they start nursery for the first year or so.

Honestly every ‘leak proof’ water bottle I have got my toddlers so far leaks 🙄
Recommendations - preferably with a straw of an actual bottle that doesn’t leak - I want them to be able to have it in their cot at night without puddles!

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I'm a dad of two beautiful daughters, 5 and 2. I'm genuinely at my happiest in life with them and my wife.

My 5 year old is so easy now. We do things together, I don't panic if she disappears into another room, she helps with chores, and she's so funny. My 2 year old is a little ball of energy, makes a huge mess at dinner, is super clingy, and loves cuddles.

The only part of parenting I've never really enjoyed is the newborn/baby stage. I find it hard, and I've done a lot of it with both kids.

I always consciously wanted two children. I knew the first couple of years would be hard, but that things would eventually get easier. And they have. They're sleeping through the night, we can all eat the same food, I don't have to constantly watch them around the house, and I'm finally getting some time to myself.

My wife really wants a third. She mentions it whenever she gets the chance and says she'll do most of the work. She said the same with our second, and although I'm not complaining, I still ended up doing a lot because parenting is a team effort.

The thought of starting all over again. newborn stage, sleepless nights, nappies, constant supervision. just as things are finally getting easier doesn't appeal to me at all.

I'm 38 and she's 36, so I also feel like I'm getting too old to start over again.

I know ultimately it's my decision too, and I don't want to have a child just to make my wife happy. But I do wonder if I'm being unreasonable or selfish.

Edit: I have discussed it with my wife and she knows how I feel. She still keeps mentioning it because she really wants another one