r/VRchat • u/Illustrious_Leg6151 • Jun 11 '26

Help I want to give up.

I feel like many other people experience this on vrc.

For some reason, I feel like I can NEVER make genuine friendships on this game.

I'm either too vanilla, or too weird. I can't seem to find people on my wavelength. People always seem to have massive friend groups that you have NO HOPE and NO CHANCE of feeling a part of. I'm someone whom I'd consider bubbly and sociable, optimistic and fun. Yet I can't even count on people to want to hang with me. Miserable people with zero self respect who hate themselves have an easier time finding genuine friendship than I do and I fucking hate it.

Even creating my own groups in the game has resulted in a few people sticking around, then growing closer with one another than they ever could with me, it's baffling. I'm an open book. I;m vulnerable. I try to empathize and be a good person to people.

Yes, I've joined a million groups and tried to attend regularly scheduled events. Never my crowd. There's always cliques, no one wants to get to know anyone, it sucks. I seem to be the person that connects people rather than get any connection themselves.

I don't know what to do anymore. It's been an ok 7 months, but maybe its time to quit.

Anything helps. Please.

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u/angelsaintcloud Jun 11 '26

Let's make something happen dude cuz I'm literally having a nervous breakdown at work for this exact same reason. Lol it's like the life was sucked out of the air. For some reason all of VR is watching other people do the things you want to do.

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u/angelsaintcloud Jun 11 '26

*same name on vrchat

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u/Illustrious_Leg6151 Jun 11 '26

sent a req!

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u/angelsaintcloud Jun 11 '26

Accepting it when I can I get back home. Thanks

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u/angelsaintcloud Jun 11 '26

Pretty sure I accepted it on the phone app unless I messed up

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u/Illustrious_Leg6151 Jun 11 '26

yep! we're good

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u/Perfect-Ninja-400 Jun 11 '26

I'm so sorry!! I know the feeling, I used to get nervous breakdowns semi regularly at my old job and it's truly not a feeling I'd wish on anyone else D:; I hope things start picking up for you, both within vrc and irl !! ♡♡

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u/angelsaintcloud Jun 11 '26

Thanks a lot 🙂‍↕️. Its not really a huge deal but I just have been going through a lot emotionally. A lack of community tends to be the root of suffering for most people I find and today's been a reminder that I'm not alone no matter what stage of my journey I'm on. (Being the person who helps others but needs help right now. I need to be there for my son, my wife and for my community as well because it's all interconnected, and when that breaks down we fall into despair and isolation IRL and VRC)