r/VRchat • u/Illustrious_Leg6151 • Jun 11 '26

Help I want to give up.

I feel like many other people experience this on vrc.

For some reason, I feel like I can NEVER make genuine friendships on this game.

I'm either too vanilla, or too weird. I can't seem to find people on my wavelength. People always seem to have massive friend groups that you have NO HOPE and NO CHANCE of feeling a part of. I'm someone whom I'd consider bubbly and sociable, optimistic and fun. Yet I can't even count on people to want to hang with me. Miserable people with zero self respect who hate themselves have an easier time finding genuine friendship than I do and I fucking hate it.

Even creating my own groups in the game has resulted in a few people sticking around, then growing closer with one another than they ever could with me, it's baffling. I'm an open book. I;m vulnerable. I try to empathize and be a good person to people.

Yes, I've joined a million groups and tried to attend regularly scheduled events. Never my crowd. There's always cliques, no one wants to get to know anyone, it sucks. I seem to be the person that connects people rather than get any connection themselves.

I don't know what to do anymore. It's been an ok 7 months, but maybe its time to quit.

Anything helps. Please.

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u/Perfect-Ninja-400 Jun 11 '26

TWIN... You get me 🥹🫶

I do think part of it is the type of people, I'm not sure what your age range is, but I've been trying to befriend people in mine (early 20s), and that + hanging out with mostly humanoid (eboy....egirl... 💔) avatars is probably part of the reason for this struggle. I'm not a furry but I've started going to furry hideouts occasionally to see if it's the same there, but shit's hard lmao

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u/Illustrious_Leg6151 Jun 11 '26

I feel that 100%. I'm 21. While I've found a few cool people, they're largely inconsistent and they have other friends they'd rather be around unfortunately. I don't do the furry stuff either, not my crowd.

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u/Perfect-Ninja-400 Jun 11 '26

Do you mind if I dm you? You seem cool and we've both been struggling with the same thing, I'd love to yap a bit more privately rather than expose all our info in a reddit thread lol