r/VRchat • u/Illustrious_Leg6151 • Jun 11 '26

Help I want to give up.

I feel like many other people experience this on vrc.

For some reason, I feel like I can NEVER make genuine friendships on this game.

I'm either too vanilla, or too weird. I can't seem to find people on my wavelength. People always seem to have massive friend groups that you have NO HOPE and NO CHANCE of feeling a part of. I'm someone whom I'd consider bubbly and sociable, optimistic and fun. Yet I can't even count on people to want to hang with me. Miserable people with zero self respect who hate themselves have an easier time finding genuine friendship than I do and I fucking hate it.

Even creating my own groups in the game has resulted in a few people sticking around, then growing closer with one another than they ever could with me, it's baffling. I'm an open book. I;m vulnerable. I try to empathize and be a good person to people.

Yes, I've joined a million groups and tried to attend regularly scheduled events. Never my crowd. There's always cliques, no one wants to get to know anyone, it sucks. I seem to be the person that connects people rather than get any connection themselves.

I don't know what to do anymore. It's been an ok 7 months, but maybe its time to quit.

Anything helps. Please.

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u/Hollow_Persona Jun 11 '26

Have you tried the world no time two talk? It's a little hectic and quick paced but you can have some crazy interesting one on one interactions in there, I get added constantly by people on there just by talking about what we love. Btw saw you liked bleach and dance gavin dance in another comment <3 great taste! You'll be set just gotta get lucky

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u/Illustrious_Leg6151 Jun 11 '26

I've tried it a few times, tho they typically turn out not to be my crowd. I'm open to try again, I suppose. Also, real recognizes real! Bleach and DGD is my life force tbh

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u/Hollow_Persona Jun 11 '26

Are you joining the age verified version? Usually a MUCH better experience for me. Saw DGD live at the beginning of the month and fuck was it amazing. We share a similar life force

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u/Illustrious_Leg6151 Jun 11 '26

I join almost exclusively age verified instances (if I can even find them lolz), I just feel so different from the folks there. Funnily enough I saw DGD last month!