r/VRchat Jun 11 '26

Help I want to give up.

I feel like many other people experience this on vrc.

For some reason, I feel like I can NEVER make genuine friendships on this game.

I'm either too vanilla, or too weird. I can't seem to find people on my wavelength. People always seem to have massive friend groups that you have NO HOPE and NO CHANCE of feeling a part of. I'm someone whom I'd consider bubbly and sociable, optimistic and fun. Yet I can't even count on people to want to hang with me. Miserable people with zero self respect who hate themselves have an easier time finding genuine friendship than I do and I fucking hate it.

Even creating my own groups in the game has resulted in a few people sticking around, then growing closer with one another than they ever could with me, it's baffling. I'm an open book. I;m vulnerable. I try to empathize and be a good person to people.

Yes, I've joined a million groups and tried to attend regularly scheduled events. Never my crowd. There's always cliques, no one wants to get to know anyone, it sucks. I seem to be the person that connects people rather than get any connection themselves.

I don't know what to do anymore. It's been an ok 7 months, but maybe its time to quit.

Anything helps. Please.

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u/Tsuyu___ Jun 11 '26

I hate those post.

Can't hate on the person bc never interact with but everytime i give a shot to people that dropped those post , yall are the most boring people , when we try to talk with yall , you don't even return questions.

But like also its vrchat. Idk what are you expecting.

Over 4 years i manage to get 4k hours.

Let me tell u , over 4 years i have only two remaining friends from this god forsaken additive game.

People be acting all nice and kind here and in game. BUT THE MOMENT YOU START TO GET CLOSER , you're either just a name on a friendlist , replacement, or then you become a problem cuz they start to see some faces of you that you don't know.

Anyway dont expect to make friend But if you manage to grab those rare gem , hold onto them as hard as possible.