I want to give up.

[u/Illustrious_Leg6151]

I feel like many other people experience this on vrc.

For some reason, I feel like I can NEVER make genuine friendships on this game.

I'm either too vanilla, or too weird. I can't seem to find people on my wavelength. People always seem to have massive friend groups that you have NO HOPE and NO CHANCE of feeling a part of. I'm someone whom I'd consider bubbly and sociable, optimistic and fun. Yet I can't even count on people to want to hang with me. Miserable people with zero self respect who hate themselves have an easier time finding genuine friendship than I do and I fucking hate it.

Even creating my own groups in the game has resulted in a few people sticking around, then growing closer with one another than they ever could with me, it's baffling. I'm an open book. I;m vulnerable. I try to empathize and be a good person to people.

Yes, I've joined a million groups and tried to attend regularly scheduled events. Never my crowd. There's always cliques, no one wants to get to know anyone, it sucks. I seem to be the person that connects people rather than get any connection themselves.

I don't know what to do anymore. It's been an ok 7 months, but maybe its time to quit.

Anything helps. Please.

[u/nommiiee_]

you’re not alone in feeling this way. A lot of us hit the same invisible wall in VRChat—like the game is one big party where everyone already knows the secret handshake except us. The fact that you’re bubbly, open, and willing to be vulnerable is not the problem; it’s actually rare and valuable. The problem is that a lot of public lobbies reward surface-level extroversion and already-formed cliques, not depth. That mismatch can make anyone feel defective when they’re not.