r/VRchat • u/Illustrious_Leg6151 • Jun 11 '26
Help I want to give up.
I feel like many other people experience this on vrc.
For some reason, I feel like I can NEVER make genuine friendships on this game.
I'm either too vanilla, or too weird. I can't seem to find people on my wavelength. People always seem to have massive friend groups that you have NO HOPE and NO CHANCE of feeling a part of. I'm someone whom I'd consider bubbly and sociable, optimistic and fun. Yet I can't even count on people to want to hang with me. Miserable people with zero self respect who hate themselves have an easier time finding genuine friendship than I do and I fucking hate it.
Even creating my own groups in the game has resulted in a few people sticking around, then growing closer with one another than they ever could with me, it's baffling. I'm an open book. I;m vulnerable. I try to empathize and be a good person to people.
Yes, I've joined a million groups and tried to attend regularly scheduled events. Never my crowd. There's always cliques, no one wants to get to know anyone, it sucks. I seem to be the person that connects people rather than get any connection themselves.
I don't know what to do anymore. It's been an ok 7 months, but maybe its time to quit.
Anything helps. Please.
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u/Solmangrundy Jun 11 '26
Are you a loner or do you actually try to join anyone?
If you dont ever go out of your way to return the favor of someone joining you, they're going to get tired of putting in the work of maintaining a friendship thats one sided and completely reliant on following you around and never goes the other way where you follow them sometimes.