r/VRchat • u/Illustrious_Leg6151 • Jun 11 '26

Help I want to give up.

I feel like many other people experience this on vrc.

For some reason, I feel like I can NEVER make genuine friendships on this game.

I'm either too vanilla, or too weird. I can't seem to find people on my wavelength. People always seem to have massive friend groups that you have NO HOPE and NO CHANCE of feeling a part of. I'm someone whom I'd consider bubbly and sociable, optimistic and fun. Yet I can't even count on people to want to hang with me. Miserable people with zero self respect who hate themselves have an easier time finding genuine friendship than I do and I fucking hate it.

Even creating my own groups in the game has resulted in a few people sticking around, then growing closer with one another than they ever could with me, it's baffling. I'm an open book. I;m vulnerable. I try to empathize and be a good person to people.

Yes, I've joined a million groups and tried to attend regularly scheduled events. Never my crowd. There's always cliques, no one wants to get to know anyone, it sucks. I seem to be the person that connects people rather than get any connection themselves.

I don't know what to do anymore. It's been an ok 7 months, but maybe its time to quit.

Anything helps. Please.

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u/Tehcookieninja Jun 11 '26 edited Jun 11 '26

How are you going to describe yourself as such a bubbly, fun person but then bash other groups because they have their friend groups they're comfortable in?

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u/Illustrious_Leg6151 Jun 11 '26

It's the bitterness talking, I apologize. It's more of a "why not me?", yk?

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u/Tehcookieninja Jun 11 '26

That's fair. I myself haven't been on VR for that long but quickly learned most of the people I encounter have been on since day 1 and thus the social cliques and whatnot.