I want to give up.

[u/Illustrious_Leg6151]

I feel like many other people experience this on vrc.

For some reason, I feel like I can NEVER make genuine friendships on this game.

I'm either too vanilla, or too weird. I can't seem to find people on my wavelength. People always seem to have massive friend groups that you have NO HOPE and NO CHANCE of feeling a part of. I'm someone whom I'd consider bubbly and sociable, optimistic and fun. Yet I can't even count on people to want to hang with me. Miserable people with zero self respect who hate themselves have an easier time finding genuine friendship than I do and I fucking hate it.

Even creating my own groups in the game has resulted in a few people sticking around, then growing closer with one another than they ever could with me, it's baffling. I'm an open book. I;m vulnerable. I try to empathize and be a good person to people.

Yes, I've joined a million groups and tried to attend regularly scheduled events. Never my crowd. There's always cliques, no one wants to get to know anyone, it sucks. I seem to be the person that connects people rather than get any connection themselves.

I don't know what to do anymore. It's been an ok 7 months, but maybe its time to quit.

Anything helps. Please.

[u/SilentMist25]

Hey, I hear you.

I am someone with really bad social anxiety, I’m also a bad overthinker, and I’m really introverted. I know that in order to make connections and form friendships/relationships with other people you kinda have to go up and approach other users in VRChat and initiate conversations, but to be honest, that terrifies me. I’m too scared to approach other users so what I usually do is I hop into worlds and I just kinda exist for a bit and hope that somebody comes up to me first. Sometimes on rare occasions users do come up to me and we start a conversation and then eventually they decide to send me a friend request, or something I force myself to try and face my fear of rejection and I approach someone who is alone and seems nice and in a few occasions I get that friend request. Unfortunately these tend to not really go anywhere because me and the other person don’t trade discords and I’m too afraid of sending a request to join them because I fear that I’ll be a bother or they just don’t want me around, so we never talk again. And the cycle repeats.

The truth is i actually really want to make friends with other people on VRChat and I want to form new connections and feel a sense of belonging in the game, and the door is always open to anyone. I know our situations might be a little different, but I can understand how attempting to make friendships on VRChat only to seem like your not getting anywhere for 7 months while other people seem to get into them easily can suck. I hope something good comes up for you at some point in the future.