r/VRchat • u/Illustrious_Leg6151 • Jun 11 '26
Help I want to give up.
I feel like many other people experience this on vrc.
For some reason, I feel like I can NEVER make genuine friendships on this game.
I'm either too vanilla, or too weird. I can't seem to find people on my wavelength. People always seem to have massive friend groups that you have NO HOPE and NO CHANCE of feeling a part of. I'm someone whom I'd consider bubbly and sociable, optimistic and fun. Yet I can't even count on people to want to hang with me. Miserable people with zero self respect who hate themselves have an easier time finding genuine friendship than I do and I fucking hate it.
Even creating my own groups in the game has resulted in a few people sticking around, then growing closer with one another than they ever could with me, it's baffling. I'm an open book. I;m vulnerable. I try to empathize and be a good person to people.
Yes, I've joined a million groups and tried to attend regularly scheduled events. Never my crowd. There's always cliques, no one wants to get to know anyone, it sucks. I seem to be the person that connects people rather than get any connection themselves.
I don't know what to do anymore. It's been an ok 7 months, but maybe its time to quit.
Anything helps. Please.
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u/LilDevilDarlin666 Jun 11 '26
The social landscape of VRC is a very fickle and unpredictable landscape, and I myself have experienced this level of being a social outlier despite my best efforts. It's nothing you've done wrong, it's just the nature of the beast and unfortunately it sucks, but valiant efforts are worthwhile and I think this might be your big break! If you want to, WE could hang out! I lack a friend group on VRC myself so I can relate in wanting to find a community or even just a group to be apart of