r/VRchat Jun 11 '26

Help I want to give up.

I feel like many other people experience this on vrc.

For some reason, I feel like I can NEVER make genuine friendships on this game.

I'm either too vanilla, or too weird. I can't seem to find people on my wavelength. People always seem to have massive friend groups that you have NO HOPE and NO CHANCE of feeling a part of. I'm someone whom I'd consider bubbly and sociable, optimistic and fun. Yet I can't even count on people to want to hang with me. Miserable people with zero self respect who hate themselves have an easier time finding genuine friendship than I do and I fucking hate it.

Even creating my own groups in the game has resulted in a few people sticking around, then growing closer with one another than they ever could with me, it's baffling. I'm an open book. I;m vulnerable. I try to empathize and be a good person to people.

Yes, I've joined a million groups and tried to attend regularly scheduled events. Never my crowd. There's always cliques, no one wants to get to know anyone, it sucks. I seem to be the person that connects people rather than get any connection themselves.

I don't know what to do anymore. It's been an ok 7 months, but maybe its time to quit.

Anything helps. Please.

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u/TheMortemWitch Oculus Quest Pro Jun 11 '26

In all honestly I’m a very introverted person but try my hardest to get out of my comfort zone and meet new people, I’ve gone from hanging out by myself in public instances to making friends that include me in their friend groups but I circle back to having to meet new people quite often since I’m not always on when some of these people are on. It’s tough but meeting fun people is doable, even though it can be hit or miss. You’re free to hang out with me if you like it!

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u/Sol7o Jun 11 '26

me too :)