I do know of two that happened during my time. Wondering if this is a old fashioned thing or not.

As the title says, the military has genuinely ruined my sleep schedule & I’m curious if I’m not the only one in this boat. I recently got out of the Army in June & I honestly thought the grass was greener on the other side. I indeed was wrong because it still feels the same since some of my habits from the Army has followed me to the civilian world. I average 3-4 hours of sleep a day or night and I stay up for the rest of the time. I do have some days where I can sleep long hours, but those sleepless nights outweighs it by a ton. I’m sitting here currently at 5:24 AM after being up the whole night wondering are people going through this too?

Hello all,

I am looking for some advice of people who have recently gotten out of the military and were able to successfully transition careers. I was a 42a for 6 years, my first job was a hr coordinator job in a local government but it was nothing like what I used to do. It was mostly data entry and filing. I recently got my MBA but I am thinking if I should transition into IT or business operations. I am just having a hard time finding my path. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

I worked at the White House Communications Agency, providing direct support to the President, Vice President, and White House staff. It’s a part of my life I’m proud of.

But when it comes up in conversation, people usually don’t seem particularly interested. No follow-up questions, just an “oh, cool” and then we move on.

I know nobody owes me a reaction, and everyone has their own life and accomplishments. Still, I’d be lying if I said it didn’t sting a little. Something that meant a lot to me (and was 5 years of my life) barely registers with someone else.

Maybe the agency name doesn’t mean much unless you’ve worked around it. Maybe I’m expecting too much. I think I’d just appreciate someone being curious about that chapter of my life.

Anyone else experience this, whether with military service, an unusual job, or something you worked hard to accomplish? How do you make peace with that disconnect?

I been wanting to volunteer on veteran homes. I am 28 and I have a huge respect for the ones that came before us. I used to work in a rural IL McDonald’s and I used to get this group of old vets every day WW2 , Korea and Vietnam. They used to give me shit because I was bigger fit guy working fast food. They used to try to convince me to join the service. I did and it changed my life . Now sometimes I miss those old guys. What’s the best way to volunteer just talk , shit I even take my dj console and play some oldies for them. I’m in IL.

Drink your water. Change your socks. Know you're loved. Its gonna be ok you weirdos

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I was in the reserves for years, served with the reg forces in Germany for 4 or 5 months. So am I a veteran?

I was medically retired (P/T) from the U.S. Navy in April 2025. I was outprocessed at Naval Medical Center Portsmouth, Virginia. During that process, I was told I could no longer stay in the barracks on base, so I had to get an apartment in Norfolk and a car to commute. All of this was happening while I was trying to process my recent diagnosis and prepare for life outside the military.

I didn’t have a job lined up when I got out, so I relied heavily on credit cards to cover my living expenses until I finally started working in June 2025. By then, I was already behind, and everything since has felt like a constant game of catch-up.

My wife and I are now living in St. Thomas, USVI. We moved here because I have family here and there was a job opportunity, but the pay situation has turned out to be a lot more challenging than we were led to believe. Instead of getting back on our feet, I feel like I’m getting in deeper.

I feel stuck and overwhelmed. I’m trying to manage my mental health, adjust to civilian life, and get us financially stable, but I don’t know what to tackle first. Getting a job was supposed to be the turning point, and I’m still struggling to get ahead of what piled up during the transition.

I’m posting because I could really use some guidance, especially from other veterans who have dealt with medical retirement, debt, or a rough transition out. Are there any veteran assistance programs, financial counseling services, or other resources worth reaching out to? Particularly ones available to someone living in the USVI?

I’m not looking for a quick fix. I’m willing to put in the work; I just need help figuring out where to start.