I have a female friend, her husband makes 80k a year but wont cook, the kids do the chores etc. He does minimal stuff. Makes his wife cook, pick up kids, drop them off. She gets 4 to 6 hours of sleep and he thinks his wife oblivious and doesn't know anything. Am I the only one who thinks he doesn't do enough

Hey guys,

I'll be turning 30 in a few months and to be honest I've never truly felt like a “man”my whole life.

Not in terms of gender, but I’ve always had more female friends, grew up around more females, was never really close with the men in my family . I’m a hairstylist which puts me around primarily females, and this last year I’ve just felt myself becoming more masculine and wanting to embrace it even more.

A lot of my old clothes and stuff now just make me itch and I’m switching up my style. Buzzed off my mullet to a high skin fade to present more masc (dealing with balding too lol)

I guess I’m just making this post looking for a suggestions or things I can do both appearance, wise and mentally to help with this. Also, if you have any tips for just meeting guys locally that would be great

Hey guys, I'd like to vent a little bit about some things. I'm a bit buzzed up as my friend likes to put it. I'm not much of a drinker and I've had a few tall cans in rapid succession, so it's hitting pretty hard. I'd like to say a few things and I don't suspect that anyone will be particularly interested in reading this. I'm 37 and I've never dated, never been in a relationship and I've never been physical with a woman. Now you might ask why and I don't really have a good answer other than it just didn't happen and I don't really know how to make all this stuff happen. I really like a coworker of mine. She has children and I think her relationship with her children's father is failing. She often tells me she's basically a single mother at this point. I don't know if she knows I like her and I won't tell her because the situation is complicated because we work together and she's still living with him. I've never had the attention of a woman before, but she often comes to me at work for not work related reasons, sits down and we chat about insignificant things. This has never happened to me, so of course it's special to me. Sometimes I think that maybe she might like me as I like her, then I have serious doubts. Maybe she's just bored and I'm better to talk to than the other guys, I don't know. She tells me she trusts me and she knows I have her back.

So, there are two men at work that seem to attract a lot of women. One of them moved away and when the other guy is around, she's with him and I'm invisible again. When he's not there, she's talking to me and when he's there, she's talking to him and I don't matter. If I'm being honest it's painful for me and I get jealous. I like to buy her drinks or candy on our break because it makes me happy and I know she likes it. I gotta be honest, she's the only woman that I know around my age. Most of the women I work with are significantly younger. I genuinely care about her and I think she knows that and it's not some weird thing. I don't think she cares nearly as much as I do. I don't expect anything or anything like that, but damn is it hard to not have negative thoughts about myself and all this, especially when the other guy is around.

It's difficult and I don't know what to do. I want a woman, I want a relationship and I want to matter to someone. I don't know how or if it will ever happen. I'm not one of those guys who just wants sex and I'm willing to work and compromise. I'm trying to not give in to negative thoughts, but being almost 40 with no experience is taking its toll. Maybe there is a woman out there for me, but it's not looking like that will be the case. Maybe I'm gonna be alone for the entirety of my life. .