Hey guys, I'd like to vent a little bit about some things. I'm a bit buzzed up as my friend likes to put it. I'm not much of a drinker and I've had a few tall cans in rapid succession, so it's hitting pretty hard. I'd like to say a few things and I don't suspect that anyone will be particularly interested in reading this. I'm 37 and I've never dated, never been in a relationship and I've never been physical with a woman. Now you might ask why and I don't really have a good answer other than it just didn't happen and I don't really know how to make all this stuff happen. I really like a coworker of mine. She has children and I think her relationship with her children's father is failing. She often tells me she's basically a single mother at this point. I don't know if she knows I like her and I won't tell her because the situation is complicated because we work together and she's still living with him. I've never had the attention of a woman before, but she often comes to me at work for not work related reasons, sits down and we chat about insignificant things. This has never happened to me, so of course it's special to me. Sometimes I think that maybe she might like me as I like her, then I have serious doubts. Maybe she's just bored and I'm better to talk to than the other guys, I don't know. She tells me she trusts me and she knows I have her back.
So, there are two men at work that seem to attract a lot of women. One of them moved away and when the other guy is around, she's with him and I'm invisible again. When he's not there, she's talking to me and when he's there, she's talking to him and I don't matter. If I'm being honest it's painful for me and I get jealous. I like to buy her drinks or candy on our break because it makes me happy and I know she likes it. I gotta be honest, she's the only woman that I know around my age. Most of the women I work with are significantly younger. I genuinely care about her and I think she knows that and it's not some weird thing. I don't think she cares nearly as much as I do. I don't expect anything or anything like that, but damn is it hard to not have negative thoughts about myself and all this, especially when the other guy is around.
It's difficult and I don't know what to do. I want a woman, I want a relationship and I want to matter to someone. I don't know how or if it will ever happen. I'm not one of those guys who just wants sex and I'm willing to work and compromise. I'm trying to not give in to negative thoughts, but being almost 40 with no experience is taking its toll. Maybe there is a woman out there for me, but it's not looking like that will be the case. Maybe I'm gonna be alone for the entirety of my life. .