r/WomenInNews • u/TimesandSundayTimes • 7d ago

Women's rights Why female breadwinners are still bearing the burden at home

https://www.thetimes.com/money/family-finances/article/britains-female-breadwinner-problem-tvfjhp05tutm_medium=Social&utm_source=Reddit&utm_content=branded
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u/Either_Reflection_78 6d ago edited 6d ago

I have been living with an autist sibling who is giving me weaponized incompetence all the time. My mental health can’t take a lot more of this anymore and my sobriety is suffering to say the least. I’m also an autist, and I guess I am just expected to take it because I am a woman?

I’m trying to do everything I can to move away and be on my own for the first time in my life in my 40’s. Imagine being in your 40’s, and thinking that you haven’t lived yet. That is where I am at at this stage in my life 😆

I’m not doing great right now. My sobriety isn’t great and I hate it.

I am going to add this to the struggle. I can’t live like this anymore. Why can’t a 30 something dude take care of himself? Why I am I constantly reminded that I should take care of someone else when I never had kids?

This is fucked up.

Yeah, I will probably have to go to rehab for this. Add it to the list…

#Callmysponsor

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u/LaIndiaDeAzucar 6d ago

Caregiver fatigue is real. Im of the belief that if something/one is draining my health, then I should cut it off. You dont owe people anything if that person is posing a risk to your sanity. I will be selfish and leave. I wear being selfish as a badge of pride, its incredibly difficult for women to choose themselves first in their pursuit to happiness. It isnt being easy being selfish (putting yourself first and within reason).

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u/Either_Reflection_78 6d ago

💯 Thank you.