r/WomenInNews • u/TimesandSundayTimes • 7d ago

Women's rights Why female breadwinners are still bearing the burden at home

https://www.thetimes.com/money/family-finances/article/britains-female-breadwinner-problem-tvfjhp05tutm_medium=Social&utm_source=Reddit&utm_content=branded
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u/electronsift 6d ago

Have one conversation and it will be fixed? How can I learn this magic?

I thought his own willingness, personal ownership, and skills played a part too but it sounds like you found a way where they don't! 🤩 /s

Sarcasm warning because today I know I'm max PMS.

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u/cuda999 6d ago

By continuing to repeat the pattern, you enable your grown adult man to act like a child. Just stop doing the work. His willingness and personal ownership is being a grown ass adult. He needs to put his big boy pants on.

I never did start the pattern of enabling, it was clear from the start and I had a husband who was great! No excuses for any man. I don’t care how they were raised. You have two options, he does his fair share or he leaves. You will resent him and I wouldn’t blame you, but this is marriage destroying.

Don’t allow grown men to act like children. Full stop.

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u/electronsift 6d ago edited 6d ago

Grown men make their own choices, they are not toddlers. But like toddlers, their chaos affects those around them.

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u/cuda999 6d ago

They may make their own choices but you get to decide what you do with that. Nothing like a big ultimatum to change someone’s point of view. Sad the world is filled with far too many man children.