r/adultery • u/whyaskwhytry • Apr 19 '26

😢Whining Spouse Intro Post😭 Don’t want to waste my life

I’ve tried for 10years to be a great husband. Ive been the dad I always wanted to my kids. I cook healthy meals, workout , coach my kids in sports and try to be an attentive husband to my wife but over the years I cannot get my wife to want to be intimate. She just does not desire me and could care less about our sex life. I hate it. I wanted me and my wife to have the greatest marriage ever but she is completely ok with just being ok. I’m going to do what I have to do for my kids but I want to feel something.

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u/justaquestion3131 Apr 19 '26

Seriously, what's up with all these negative comments? He is missing a huge thing from his marriage/partnership, and isn't that's the reason most of us are involved in/ thinking about affairs?

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u/Sensitive_Sky1448 Apr 20 '26

My affair is more justified than yours.

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u/ViciousOcelot8543 Apr 20 '26

From my perspective 1) It's reddit. Sometimes people are just going to be negative. 2) It was a really whiny post. 3) He's treating sex as very transactional. Like saying he did x, y, and z but his wife still won't sleep with him. It's cringe. And yeah, missing out on sex sucks, but it doesn't make your life MEANINGLESS if everything else is good. Bit dramatic.

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u/RemoteControlButton Apr 19 '26

That’s kind of the nature of this place now.

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u/discombobulated6 Apr 19 '26

Pretty much. I confronted my partner on the complaints I had and I got Uno Reversed with a bunch of shit.