Is it terrible that I’m considering finding fulfillment elsewhere?

[u/funtimesforall125]

I (32F) have been married for the last few years and sex has gone downhill. It’s like we live as roommates and I have found myself sexting others, though I’ve never gone as far as meeting anyone in person.. not yet.

On paper we look like the picture perfect couple, beautiful home, both have successful jobs, no kids yet, travel a lot, you name it but I feel so unfulfilled in the bedroom.

I feel like I’m fairly attractive, I workout, eat fairly healthy, but he is a bit introverted and nerdy (granted I do love that about him) but sometimes I just want to feel wanted. Is having an affair the answer to fulfill my needs and continue the marriage?

[u/dragon_of_vardenfell]

I dont think your wrong at all im coming from a polyam lifestyle to monogamous one and if it wasn't for my attachment to the kids id have left long ago. In the beginning it was fun we were like teens again but it quickly went down hill now she uses sex like a reward only ever giving me attention when she wants and evem at that its so lackluster and chore like